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RKS

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Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: xaeniac
I was asking him to do the task and he blew up. I do anything at all costs to get a mission done whether that's asking him for help or not. I guess when you spend more time at work than with your family arguments will occur. I was an example by not firing back and I think he was suprised. I just quietly finished what we were working on together and then I got the task done that he refused to do. After that came the conversation where we both expressed our views. He was out of line but I forgive him and he forgives me for anything I may have done in the past or present. So it's all good we can work in peace again.

Cliffs:

I ranted; me and the co-worker forgave each other and we will continue to get our overall goals at work accomplished. We are at peace and will continue to be a good team.

Screw that. Get him fired or fire him. Report him or do whatever you have to do.

The term is insubordination and it is a terminable offense. Make that SOB learn that there are consequences to his actions and words. He can't keep using race as a crutch.


Sure, if he doesn't have enough influence or authority to get a co-worker to do a task (not sure if it was in the scope of the co-worker's job) then what makes you think that he will be taken seriously by his management?
 

SpunkyJones

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If your just a co-worker, you need his supervisor to assign tasks to him. If a coworker tried to dump his job on me, I'd tell him to jump in a lake.
 

Tom

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I assume you are sanitation engineers ?

Why do you expect him to get down out of the truck everytime there's more than one ash can ?

 

radioouman

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Originally posted by: xaeniac
i'm white he's black

I have a coworker like this.
The problem that I see is that everything has been given to her, and society is tilted toward helping a black woman succeed professionally. No, I'm not racist. But she has gotten accustomed to a jaded view of society, and now that she is in the workplace which treats everyone evenly (like crap!) she has a hard time handling it.
 

Rubycon

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I read the title as if presented with "Slave Cord" and thought this had to do with hard drives. :eek:
 

fitzov

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Originally posted by: FrankyJunior
You shoudl have said:

"Yes you are. And refer to me as Mass'r from now on or no food for you!"

In the real world that's funny, but if this guy works for a corporation, or any public dept. he'd be fired for making such an "insensitive" comment, regardless of what the other guy said.
 

fitzov

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Originally posted by: acemcmac
You need to run this by your legal and HR departments.

I disagree. Bringing it to the HR dept will only exacerbate the issue. The best thing is to ignore the statement, not repeat it, and go to the GM (or other superior who might do something) to discuss how the coworker was uncooperative if you want to be proactive.
 
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Originally posted by: fitzov
Originally posted by: acemcmac
You need to run this by your legal and HR departments.

I disagree. Bringing it to the HR dept will only exacerbate the issue. The best thing is to ignore the statement, not repeat it, and go to the GM (or other superior who might do something) to discuss how the coworker was uncooperative if you want to be proactive.

Yep, racial "tension" is the last thing that an HR department wants to deal with, they will run and hide and do everything in their power to make sure this situation doesn't explode. You know who loses that battle? You do, the white guy.
 

Red Dawn

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Originally posted by: xaeniac
I asked A coworker to do something and he played the Slave Card. None the less I decided to do the task myself w/out his help. I am not necessarily over him, but I asked him to do a task to support the mission but he played the damn slave card. He said I am not your slave. And I got pissed. What gives? Slavery has been over for over 100 years and I know he is well compensated. What should I do?
Well when he says that you reply it's a good thing he's not your slave because you'd have him whipped if he was.
 

thesurge

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Originally posted by: Chaotic42
Tell him that if it weren't for the white man enslaving blacks hundreds of years ago, he wouldn't be here enjoying the luxuries that he has. He'd be selling goats in some remote African village instead.

Then, he'd just say if it weren't for the black man emigrating out of Africa, the white man wouldn't exist.
 
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Originally posted by: thesurge
Originally posted by: Chaotic42
Tell him that if it weren't for the white man enslaving blacks hundreds of years ago, he wouldn't be here enjoying the luxuries that he has. He'd be selling goats in some remote African village instead.

Then, he'd just say if it weren't for the black man emigrating out of Africa, the white man wouldn't exist.

I doubt he'd say that
 

doze

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Sounds like you were trying to be his boss when you are his equal. Unless you are his boss or it was a group assignment then he doesn't have to help you do your work. If it was a group assignment or you are his boss then take up the fact that he is a lazy sob with your direct supervisor or else you will end up doing all the work.

 

thomsbrain

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doesn't sound like he played the "slave card."

he used a common phrase to tell you to go fvck yourself in a more polite manner. anybody could have said it, not just a black person.
 

TheGizmo

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lol do you also say he's playing the hungry card when someone is hungry or wait... better yet, do you say he played the sex card when you ask him to have sex with you... ok sorry it was just funny referring to the conversation as him playing the slave card... in any case, he seems like an ass if the circumstances were exactly as you described, however if we're missing something then maybe hes not the ass
 

Perknose

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Originally posted by: RKS
Originally posted by: xaeniac
I was asking him to do the task and he blew up. I do anything at all costs to get a mission done whether that's asking him for help or not. I guess when you spend more time at work than with your family arguments will occur. I was an example by not firing back and I think he was suprised. I just quietly finished what we were working on together and then I got the task done that he refused to do. After that came the conversation where we both expressed our views. He was out of line but I forgive him and he forgives me for anything I may have done in the past or present. So it's all good we can work in peace again.

Cliffs:

I ranted; me and the co-worker forgave each other and we will continue to get our overall goals at work accomplished. We are at peace and will continue to be a good team.

Then why post the whine on ATOT? I sure he is glad you 'forgave' him and weren't too pompous. :roll:
Haha, my thoughts exactly!