Cousin getting First Communion, Grandmother wants me to write her smth. I'm atheist.

[anyusername]

My family, though not very fond of going to church, consider themselves catholic. My grandmother is very religious, not the crazy kind, but still. She handed me over a card so I could write something to my cousin who is getting her First Communion. My initial reaction was to flat out refuse it, but she insists and I take it. So here I am thinking if I should write something or not. Although my writing or not writing will likely have no impact on what my cousin's beliefs might one day be (I myself was raised catholic and got my First Communion), I just feel like I am betraying my own views and somewhat endorsing religion, which I frankly consider a plague. However, my not writing may not be taken well by her family or maybe they won't even care, idk, but my grandmother won't be pleased.

What do you think I should do?

 

[Matthiasa]

Hmm maybe just write something not "religious"?
But that seems a bit to obvious...

 

[Lithium381]

It's for your cousin and your grandmother, do it. Think of it like playing pretend with a 5 year old..... you don't have to beleive it's there, but you let them believe it.

 

[Gibson486]

Are you atheists so stubborn that you cannot just acknowledge an event just because you do not agree with it?

 

[nonameo]

??? just send him best wishes.

 

[xanis]

Write something generic like, "Congratulations on your First Communion".

 

[Lithium381]

Are you atheists so stubborn that you cannot just acknowledge an event just because you do not agree with it?

are you christians so stubborn that you can't acknowledge evolution just because you do not agree with it?

 

[Baked]

You write, Congrats bro!

You put family before religion, bro. You don't disrespect your grand mama just 'cause you have beef w/ religion.

 

[Doppel]

My family, though not very fond of going to church, consider themselves catholic. My grandmother is very religious, not the crazy kind, but still. She handed me over a card so I could write something to my cousin who is getting her First Communion. My initial reaction was to flat out refuse it, but she insists and I take it. So here I am thinking if I should write something or not. Although my writing or not writing will likely have no impact on what my cousin's beliefs might one day be (I myself was raised catholic and got my First Communion), I just feel like I am betraying my own views and somewhat endorsing religion, which I frankly consider a plague. However, my not writing may not be taken well by her family or maybe they won't even care, idk, but my grandmother won't be pleased.

What do you think I should do?

Don't write something. It would be disingenuous. I was asked recently to do something similar and I basically said "Hope your day is going well". Writing out a bunch of sh*t you don't believe or feel is a lie and helping nobody. Too bad for your grandmother, who cares really. It's better to be honest here but also gentle (not be an asshole) than lie for her or your cousin.

 

[schneiderguy]

Pics of cousin?

 

[sjwaste]

Perfect troll thread. Everyone has taken the bait and there is now a religion argument. Lock this thread before it gets even dumber.

 

[UberNeuman]

"What do you think I should do?"

I think you should be human. This means something to her and the family - it's not the time for you to piss on them...

This is coming from an atheist....

 

[IronWing]

Eat the card.

 

[xanis]

Eat the card.

I retract my previous suggestion in favor of this more logical one.

 

[anyusername]

I hadn't thought of the super generic phrase solution, I guess I will just write "I wish you the best" and save me a headache later.

Thanks.

 

[RbSX]

I hadn't thought of the super generic phrase solution, I guess I will just write "I wish you the best" and save me a headache later.

Thanks.

That's the right move, or just say something liked "Congratulations" or, "Love you"

Whatever.

 

[JulesMaximus]

I'd write this: "When around a Catholic Priest always protect your cornhole and never let them convince you to remove your pants for god."

 

[UberNeuman]

I'd write this: "Whatever you do, never, and I mean never, be alone with a Catholic Priest."

or coaches from Peen State....

 

[destrekor]

wow that was quick.

 

[gorcorps]

Draw a dick

 

[RbSX]

I'd write this: "Whatever you do, never, and I mean never, be alone with a Catholic Priest."

But.. they only like little boys.. this one is a she.

 

[M0RPH]

Self-important douchebag. Just write congratulations, nobody cares that you call yourself an atheist.

 

[silverpig]

I vote for random TFP quote.

 

[Gibson486]

are you christians so stubborn that you can't acknowledge evolution just because you do not agree with it?

I don't know....ask them. I am not Christian.

 

[Ruptga]

Are you atheists so stubborn that you cannot just acknowledge an event just because you do not agree with it?

Write something generic like, "Congratulations on your First Communion".

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