Could you date/marry someone who is "dumber" than you?

[DVad3r]

Hey guys,

Just watching the latest episode of House and a question popped into my head. Do you think you could genuinely date/marry someone who isn't as smart as you? Obviously it has to be a pretty big gap...

What do you think?

 

[Crono]

Yes.

That's not a very high bar, though

 

[JohnCU]

that was a good episode. and yes i could.

 

[rudeguy]

For sure

Wrong forum

TTIWWP

 

[Colt45]

Yeah, I need a bangmaid.

 

[KeithTalent]

No. The last girl I dated was super hot, but not all that smart, which is kind of hard to imagine because I am not very bright, but I felt as if I was getting dumber with every passing week we were together. Not a great feeling.

KT

 

[rudeguy]

No. The last girl I dated was super hot, but not all that smart, which is kind of hard to imagine because I am not very bright, but I felt as if I was getting dumber with every passing week we were together. Not a great feeling.

KT

pass her number bro!

 

[guyver01]

I will quote the immortal Ron White.

If I could offer one piece of advice to the planet, it would be this: Don't marry for looks alone, and I'll tell you why. In a few years, when Barbara's boobs start sagging, she can get plastic surgery, have them lifted, move the nipple wherever. You can actually go to a titty bar, pick out a set of titties and say, "I want those titties on that woman." If her belly gets too big, she can get a tummy tuck and have a belly like a cheerleader. If her vision goes bad, you can have LASIK surgery and have 20/20 vision. If her hearing goes bad, they can install a device in her ear that will give you hearing as clear as it was the day you were born. But let me tell you something, folks: You can't fix stupid. There's not a pill you can take; there's not a class you can go to. Stupid is forever.

 

[Riceninja]

yes. because "dumber" than me doesnt mean she has to be ditzy...just average/above average.

any girl who is smarter than me will most likely overanalyze and be very critical and bitter

 

[techs]

Seriously, there are many whom I wouldn't care if they even spoke English.

 

[JohnCU]

Seriously, there are many whom I wouldn't care if they even spoke English.

 

[sandorski]

She'd still be Brilliant, so I have no problem with the idea.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Meh, nobody is perfect...not even me. And certainly not anyone else who posts here.

The question is, can you put up with the idiosyncrasies you find in the person you are thinking about marrying?

Actually, I think the better question is, could you date/marry someone who is "smarter" than you? Think about that for a moment!!!

 

[PrinceofWands]

Intelligence is THE biggest turn on, hands down. However it doesn't have to be super-genius level, especially if she has other great qualities. As long as she's well above average I'd be ok with it. Say master's level education, or an iq around 130ish, or equivalent in some way. Less than that just wouldn't work in the long term...I'd still bang it, but not marry it.

 

[Crono]

There are kinds of stupid.

I wouldn't mind marrying a woman who isn't math smart or the most knowledgeable person on every topic, but at least acknowledges that.

I would mind marrying a woman who thinks she knows everything, but doesn't, and looks down on others and speaks her mind when she shouldn't (see that crazy Californian lady who thinks we have slavery here on the east coast).

I myself say stupid things often enough that having two people in the relationship that do so wouldn't be a good thing

 

[daw123]

There are kinds of stupid.

I wouldn't mind marrying a woman who isn't math smart or the most knowledgeable person on every topic, but at least acknowledges that.

I would mind marrying a woman who thinks she knows everything, but doesn't, and looks down on others and speaks her mind when she shouldn't (see that crazy Californian lady who thinks we have slavery here on the east coast).

I myself say stupid things often enough that having two people in the relationship that do so wouldn't be a good thing

That sounds like my cousin. I feel sorry for the poor sod that married her.

 

[69Mach1]

I don't know about I.Q., but my ex wife didn't have a shred of common sense. I sure as hell wouldn't go that way again.

 

[Q]

Of course.

 

[lifeobry]

There are kinds of stupid.

Yeah. As long as she is responsible and practical. I don't need no book smarts or none of that there brainiac wommens.

 

[Platypus]

Depends on what you mean by dumber. My BF doesn't know shit about computers but he knows more than I do in a lot of areas. Honestly I don't think I could date someone who had the same intelligence in areas I do.

Dumb as in ignorant about the world around them with no desire to learn or has basic common sense.. no fucking way. There are plenty of people out there.

 

[DrPizza]

I wouldn't consider my wife to be anywhere remotely close to "dumb" - she's quite smart. I think most people would consider me to be smarter than her, but that's only because intelligence is generally judged in a narrower set of areas. I consider her to be quite smart though. Socially, she's smarter than I am. She's certainly smart enough to be competent as an RN, and competent enough to be her hospital's nurse of distinction for her competence & achievements. And just as importantly, she complements my intelligence in the areas where I could be certified as mentally deficient: picking out matching clothes. If intelligence were based upon picking out clothes alone, I'd be riding the short bus to the workshop every day. I couldn't even tell you my shoe size or clothes size any more. I've proof-read some of her papers that she's written, looking for errors. I get pretty irritated when I find stupid mistakes that she should have caught if she had proof-read the paper. I think now though, she's learned that she needs to proof-read her paper first, because I'm not very tolerant of such mistakes. As a result, I've found her latest papers to be virtually perfect.

So, no, I wouldn't marry someone who was significantly less intelligence than I was. However, I'm also smart enough not to necessarily judge intelligence in more traditional ways.

 

[zanejohnson]

i dated a girl who was dumber than me for about five years, had two kids with her... she's smarter than me at some things, and im smarter than her at others... i was more "geek" smart i guess you'd say while she was more "practical" smart.... like anything that involved slowly plugging away at something type of work... she could do it... one of her favorite hobbys is putting together puzzles... i cant sit down for 5 mins and try to work a puzzle..not gonna happen...

 

[ModerateRepZero]

I could date someone who's less "smarter" than me if you measure that by pure intelligence or education. but I absolutely won't marry someone who's content being dumb and who has zero intellectual curiosity and is instead obsessed with superficial things.

 

[Fenixgoon]

honestly, i sometimes feel like the guy on house

not that i'm *that* smart - i'm certainly not albert einstein or stephen hawking. i just feel like life would be a bit simpler than it is right now

 

[Pollock]

I could date someone who's less "smarter" than me if you measure that by pure intelligence or education. but I absolutely won't marry someone who's content being dumb and who has zero intellectual curiosity and is instead obsessed with superficial things.

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