convincing parents to let me stay out all night

[EatSpam]

Originally posted by: Jumpem
I wouldn't let my kid stay out over night after prom. Matter of fact I'd probably make him be home by 11:00 so he can't get into too much trouble.

I have about 16 years until my kid is old enough for prom, but I can guarantee I'll be a cooler parent than you!

 

[FoBoT]

parenting isn't a contest to see who is the 'coolest' parent :disgust:

 

[Chrono]

I think you should stick with the original plans for prom, which are:

1. Masturbate furiously
2. ?
3. Profit
4. Sleep

 

[Jumpem]

Originally posted by: EatSpam
I have about 16 years until my kid is old enough for prom, but I can guarantee I'll be a cooler parent than you!

I don't even have kids yet.

 

[EatSpam]

Originally posted by: FoBoT
parenting isn't a contest to see who is the 'coolest' parent :disgust:

Obviously not, but being too strict and overprotective is just stupid. You're just asking for a rebellion, like what this kid is probably going to do. Life is far too short to be hampered by heavy-handed rules.

 

Just do it. Rebel a little, it won't hurt.
Tell them you got drunk, and it wasn't safe to come home so you passed out <whereever best fits the story>.

 

[anno]

my son went to his prom this past weekend. he did stay out all night, at a friend's house, in the neighborhood.. and stopped home to change clothes so I knew he'd made it safely back from downtown. it was good, he's a good kid too.. but.. that was at a house, and in a group. if he'd said hey mom after prom the girlfriend and I are getting a hotel room for the night.. I woulda had a problem with that.. and your situation is even weirder..

so let me ask the first question popped into my head.. I'm kinda surprised nobody else has asked this..

what about the girl you're taking to prom? what's she going to do? and.. this other girl.. is she going to prom at all? and.. if she is, what about her date?

and the next question that popped into my head was.. you've only been with this other girl a week? and you're plannin' a night in a hotel?

sorry.. I'm a mom.. I can't help it.

you'd have to tell me a pretty convincing lie to pull that one off, I'm afraid. why don't you team up with some friends and do an all night after prom thing as a group.. at someone's house. be a lot easier to get your parents in line with that plan.. and you don't run the risk of losing their trust. I dunno.. maybe this night you envision is worth that?

but I'm concerned about that girl you're going to prom with too.. she deserves a nice prom night. would suck to be ditched by your date soon as the dance was over so he could go off with some other girl, even if you're just going together as friends. if you hook up with a bunch of friends for after prom, then she can have a good time too..

 

[nageov3t]

be a man. tell your parents that you'll be staying out all night not matter what they say, and will be prepared to accept the consequences of your actions in the morning.

much better than lying to them.

 

[imthebadguy]

just tell em u wanna bang your date, perhaps ask if they wanna watch

on a more serious note, i have pretty trusting parents who usually let me do what i want, if i tell em im gonna be at a friends house playing cards all night they will believe it bc ive never done anything to cause mistrust, so if youre parents do trust u they shouldnt have a problem with that

 

[MX2]

Originally posted by: loki8481
be a man. tell your parents that you'll be staying out all night not matter what they say, and will be prepared to accept the consequences of your actions in the morning.

much better than lying to them.

Interesting approach, and I somehow approve.

 

[Kipper]

My mom said: "Don't get too drunk."

and that was it - lots of implied trust between my mom and I, has been that way for many years.

I see myself as pretty lucky in that respect.

Edit: I didn't get drunk.

 

[djheater]

I'm 30 this year.

Honestly I laugh at what you consider a difficult issue.

I can barely remember that period of my life, so I can't really consider it important.

I think you should have the courage of your convictions. Stay out if you want and damn the consequences. Otherwise you're making yourself a liar, either literally or by obfuscation, which I don't think is worth the trouble.

Seriously, what's the worst that could happen?

 

[JulesMaximus]

I spend the whole night with my girl every night.

 

[notfred]

This is easy. Agree to come home whenever they say. Stay out anyway. Be grounded for the next week or whatever, because it was worth it.

 

[nageov3t]

Originally posted by: notfred
This is easy. Agree to come home whenever they say. Stay out anyway. Be grounded for the next week or whatever, because it was worth it.

but then not only is he lying, he's causing his parents serious amounts of grief, who might stay up all night calling hospitals thinking he's been in an accident or something.

 

[EatSpam]

Originally posted by: loki8481

Originally posted by: notfred
This is easy. Agree to come home whenever they say. Stay out anyway. Be grounded for the next week or whatever, because it was worth it.

but then not only is he lying, he's causing his parents serious amounts of grief, who might stay up all night calling hospitals thinking he's been in an accident or something.

That's why he needs to call them drunk at 4am, after he's had sex with his girlfriend.

 

[Bv3]

It is easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.

 

[FreshFish]

Originally posted by: anno
my son went to his prom this past weekend. he did stay out all night, at a friend's house, in the neighborhood.. and stopped home to change clothes so I knew he'd made it safely back from downtown. it was good, he's a good kid too.. but.. that was at a house, and in a group. if he'd said hey mom after prom the girlfriend and I are getting a hotel room for the night.. I woulda had a problem with that.. and your situation is even weirder..

so let me ask the first question popped into my head.. I'm kinda surprised nobody else has asked this..

what about the girl you're taking to prom? what's she going to do? and.. this other girl.. is she going to prom at all? and.. if she is, what about her date?

and the next question that popped into my head was.. you've only been with this other girl a week? and you're plannin' a night in a hotel?

sorry.. I'm a mom.. I can't help it.

you'd have to tell me a pretty convincing lie to pull that one off, I'm afraid. why don't you team up with some friends and do an all night after prom thing as a group.. at someone's house. be a lot easier to get your parents in line with that plan.. and you don't run the risk of losing their trust. I dunno.. maybe this night you envision is worth that?

but I'm concerned about that girl you're going to prom with too.. she deserves a nice prom night. would suck to be ditched by your date soon as the dance was over so he could go off with some other girl, even if you're just going together as friends. if you hook up with a bunch of friends for after prom, then she can have a good time too..

First thing that popped into my head...and I am not even a mom! He must just be a stud

 

[PHiuR]

jus tell your parents youll be out and be back the next day after 4pm. and tell them the arguments u posted in your original post.

 

[AntiEverything]

Avoid mom, but tell your dad you bagged a hottie. He'll give you a high five and send you on your merry way.

 

[deejayshakur]

WOW, that OP sounded something that came out of my hs days, verbatim. but back then, i still didn't have the balls to disobey my parents. i did go to prom, but came home at like...1-2am? it was ok, my friends didn't drink or any of that stuff (we were all 4.0+ valedictorians, like you mention).

now at 23, i kinda chuckle at those times. you'll have pleny of chances to hang out late in college, etc. although i didn't have a gf in hs at the time, so it wasn't an issue for me. what to do you in your case...you know what, your parents will need a dose of reality and letting go eventually. you be the judge of when they do, whether its now or in college or when they find out you're getting married. i chose college, and it was a very hard time. a word of advice: don't let your gf get in the middle of it or else it can get nasty. you can try reasoning with them, but my parents never understood. if yours are like that, just do it the hard way and don't look back.

are you asian, btw? and yes, update us.

 

[FleshLight]

Tell them to ook at it as an investment. You can sell that child for $5k on the black market. Or you could enslave it to work on your plantation or as a chimney sweeper.

 

[LordMorpheus]

Originally posted by: LtPage1
ive got till the 14, so thats a week and a half to pull this off.

alright- so ive got your general run of the mill slightly overprotective parents. i think this is partly my fault, because ive never really toed the line- im a senior, 18 years old, and ive never really done anything. i dont ask for stuff i know theyll say no to, and i havent ever gone against their wishes. so theyve had no reason to adjust to me, because ive adjusted to them, essentially.
whenever i do ask for something, they try (and succeed) to rule out any and all of my arguments: my friends are all 4.0+ students going to ivies, ive never been irresponsible, im a legal adult, my grades are good, etc.
i have a midnight curfew- in the past, at dances or whatever, ive been able to extend that as far as 1:30, but thats it (apparently, bars close at 2 so my mom figures there are more drunk drivers out that late).
basically, my girlfriend (whom they do not know about yet) and i are looking to spend the whole night out, but i cant exactly tell them that im going to be spending the night in a hotel room with a girl.

so- how do i do this? whats my story? should they know about the girlfriend? shes not actually my date (long story), so would that make a difference? is there any way to convince them of some story where i stay out all night without having sex or getting drunk?
how did you guys do it, or were you able to?


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cliffs notes:
1. parents overprotective
2. i want to be able to stay out all night on prom
3. how do i convince them?
4. what was your story for prom night?

I was in a similiar situation as you were, good kid, good grades, etc. etc. But I ran with a slightly rougher crowd, and my parents got to trust my friends enough that they felt comfortable we weren't going to get ourselves into too much trouble.

They said the same thing about drunks hitting the road when bars close. I generally set things up so I wouldn't have to be on the road after that. Prom night I slept at a friends house. Called them to let them know I was alive and off the streets.


Another thing, hiding that you are in a relationship is a very stupid thing to do, can only lead to bad things. You've got a girlfriend, you should not have to hide it from your parents. Hell, at least this way they don't have to worry about you being gay. If your parents knew your girl, they probably wouldn't object to you staying out late.

edit:

here's a fairly solid plan. Call them, 1:30 or however late they let you stay out, tell them you are with friends but are so tired you don't feel safe driving and your buddy'll let you crash at his place. Maybe tell them you dropped the girl off at her place, was almost asleep at the wheel, and your friends house was closer.

I'm not advocating lying to your parents, but I am, but the point is this - do what you gotta do.