Cheating or not cheating?

[ggnl]

Originally posted by: Patt

Originally posted by: AdamSnow
Not cheating if nothing happened...

BUT : I'd be pissed if my girlfriend did that.

This man speaks the truth.

There's no reason to be pissed about it unless she left you sitting at home or something.

 

[JetsFanatic]

Eatin' ain't cheatin'

 

[Feneant2]

Originally posted by: ElFenix

Originally posted by: eigen

Originally posted by: xospec1alk
flirting != cheating.

watching movies at a dudes house != flirting.

knowing how atoters operate, the poster probably thought that what she was doing, such as talking about her cat, was flirting. when in fact, it is not. see, he probably thinks she is coming onto him when in reality she would be abhorred by the idea. so, as he is construing her normal everyday behavior as flirting, she is not cheating. she merely has a male friend.

Maybe that's how you perceive it as your comment makes me think you are maybe 12-13, but most people recognize flirting

 

[fbrdphreak]

Originally posted by: ggnl
It could be considered cheating if she lied to her bf about what she did. Otherwise, it's completely harmless.

 

[RaistlinZ]

If she isn't telling her BF about it then, yes, she is cheating. If her BF knows and doesn't care then I say bang her six ways from Tuesday.

 

[ElFenix]

Originally posted by: Feneant2

Maybe that's how you perceive it as your comment makes me think you are maybe 12-13, but most people recognize flirting

no, most men read far to much into the actions of a girl they are even the least bit interested in.

 

[Anubis]

no its not cheating, however its not right either

 

[EmperorIQ]

I don't mind if my girlfriend goes out with other guys. . . but then she usually asks me first. I'm not sure, I guess as long as the bf knows, and he's ok with it, then its not cheating, otherwise, it probably may very well lead to it.

 

[nutxo]

If shes hiding it, its cheating.

 

[FusionKnight]

Depends on the circumstances. If my gf were hanging out with another guy, and I was at work or something, then it's no biggie. If she told me she went shopping and I later on found out she was hanging out with said guy, then I'd be a little (read: extraordinarily) choked.

What was she doing out of the bedroom, anyway?

FK

 

[ggnl]

Originally posted by: Feneant2

Originally posted by: ElFenix

Originally posted by: eigen

Originally posted by: xospec1alk
flirting != cheating.

watching movies at a dudes house != flirting.

knowing how atoters operate, the poster probably thought that what she was doing, such as talking about her cat, was flirting. when in fact, it is not. see, he probably thinks she is coming onto him when in reality she would be abhorred by the idea. so, as he is construing her normal everyday behavior as flirting, she is not cheating. she merely has a male friend.

Maybe that's how you perceive it as your comment makes me think you are maybe 12-13, but most people recognize flirting

I think most people (normal people, not ATOTers) recognize that men and women can hang out/be friends and not want to fvck each other.

 

[Fenixgoon]

Originally posted by: TechITguy
Yes she is.

 

[PingSpike]

Insert dong for victory.

 

[JulesMaximus]

She went on a date with you and you are asking us if this is cheating? Yes, she is cheating.

 

[Azrael13]

I'm the "coworker"

I have to say she is quite flirty with the Original Poster and would likely pursue him if she suddenly became single.

honestly they make a cute couple....hehehe

 

[Feneant2]

Originally posted by: ElFenix

Originally posted by: Feneant2

Maybe that's how you perceive it as your comment makes me think you are maybe 12-13, but most people recognize flirting

no, most men read far to much into the actions of a girl they are even the least bit interested in.

Trust me, I am moving to a new job and she said 'When you told me, it hit me much harder than I expected and I didn't know I felt that strongly'. (and yes vote takes the lead).

 

[Armitage]

Just how "not single" is she?

 

[Feneant2]

Originally posted by: Armitage
Just how "not single" is she?

4.5 years with the guy.

 

[KK]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: KK

Originally posted by: Feneant2
There was no physical contact involved.

wft, are you gay? Not that there's anything wrong with that.

:roll:

:roll:
In all seriousness though, do the boyfriend a favor a tell him. You don't have to do it face to face, you can keep your identity anonymous. I know if I was going out with a chick for 4.5 years, I would want to know of such activities. Sounds like she is ready to throw away 4.5 years for you. Which in your case would be a ego boost, but if you want to get with her for anything more than a good lay, just look what she is doing to this guy. If she had broken up first, then I would say she'd be alright to get serious over.

 

[jjones]

I prefer my world in black and white, so get back to me after you've porked her and I'll let you know if I think it's cheating or not.

 

[edmundoab]

Originally posted by: SaturnX
Yeah she is.. how would you like it if you had a girlfriend and she was spending evenings, and dinners with some other guy...

--Mark

My ex did that to me,

watched movie with this dude so often and she knew he had feelings for her.
attention seeking female.

occasionally caught em door locked. sleeping .. to assume the best case scenario
but so what even if they did not have s3x

its still cheating no matter how u look at it. Even without physical contact taking place to justify this case. no arguments there!

 

[olds]

I say no. It's perfectly fine for men and women to be friends.

 

[Megatomic]

Originally posted by: Azrael13
I'm the "coworker"

I have to say she is quite flirty with the Original Poster and would likely pursue him if she suddenly became single.

honestly they make a cute couple....hehehe

Another lurker unveiled!

And if she feels the need to keep it a secret then she is cheating in her heart. Physical cheating is a logical progression. So to the OP, is her SO aware of your activities together?

 

[edmundoab]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
I say no. It's perfectly fine for men and women to be friends.

that case is practically a date already
friends don't do a one on one with so many events especially when at least one party is attached.
where is the line drawn then between friends and lovers?

 

[ggnl]

Originally posted by: edmundoab

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
I say no. It's perfectly fine for men and women to be friends.

that case is practically a date already
friends don't do a one on one with so many events especially when at least one party is attached.
where is the line drawn then between friends and lovers?

So if I go to dinner and a movie with my male friend, does that make us gay lovers?

Why would it be any different if my friend happened to be a female?

I know it's a hard concept for jealous boyfriends to handle, but women can have male friends that are just friends.