the fact its not even seen in bios when SATA drive is install but works fine with IDE install means you do need to change a bios setting. (IDE function setup page)
Like maybe setting prim channel 10???, master??? to PIO mode 4 first to see if DMA setting is the prob, then DMA 1 or 2
Quote pg 4-8 manual
Primary/Secondary Master/Slave UDMA
Select the mode of operation for the IDE drive. Ultra DMA-100/133 implementation
is possible only if your IDE hard drive supports it and the operating environment
includes a DMA driver. If your hard drive and your system software both
support Ultra DMA-100/133, select Auto to enable UDMA mode by BIOS.
Options: Auto, Disabled.
Unquote
Obviously your DVD is not ATA100/133 drive
And set DVD to CSL
might also be a bios bug - latest is 9-8-05
http://www.epox.com.tw/eng/support.php?ps=223&type=1
there are some really major fixes with ea progressive update - they dont seem to know how to write a bios.
I would also make sure nvidia firewall is off.
Edit:
as this is an NF3 mobo, I would look to see if the nforce IDE drivers are loaded and redo them with MS generic