Can't believe I'm posting about this, but... (re: parents)

You want to have fun now. You will suffer later on. You work hard now, you get your reward in return. This is just a reality.

Yea, and you can then be like them?
Sounds like fun.....

 

[imported_Papi]

im confused. whos the married person in the pic on that site?

 

[lilFajita]

Dezign, it seems like you are on the right track. Your parents care about you, and are worried about how the choices you make now may have more of an impact on the reality of the rest of your life. It will always be tough for them to "put things in perspective" and allow you to be young, because that's not the life experience they had- that's not how it worked. The best thing you can do is just understand where they are coming from, be a good family member (to the respect that it is reasonable to you)...and stand firm behind the decisions you choose to make. At some point, it will all mesh together again.

 

[Thegonagle]

You're doing fine as far as I can see. I can tell that you're not really happy with your job, but that's so minor. You can fix that. You'll be fine. 🙂

BTW, assert yourself a little by cutting/styling your hair before you go home for Christmas. 😉

 

[skace]

This is like the exact opposite of me. I guess thats all I have to add...

 

Dezign, to be honest, I have to say that you keep claiming that you're concerned about your parents' happiness, yet you know exactly what would make them happy. So what stops you from doing what they want you to do? Exactly! You have two conflicting beliefs. I don't think there's a middle ground for this one. It's an either-or situation. If you choose to continue in your path, then accept the results and move on. It seems rather disingenuous to me to claim you're worried about the happiness of your parents when you know what would make them happy but have chosen to take a different path. I basically agree with Iwearnosox: They're doing their jobs as parents, whilst you're exercising your right as an individual. They aren't wrong for seeking what's best for their daughter in their own eyes and from their own experience, long before you. If you can make compromises sometimes, do so; otherwise, accept the way things are and make the best of it. Things will naturally come to place (i.e., your relationship with your parents) if you don't fight, force or resist too much.

Storm Rider: "Did you use to go under another nickname?"

Yep, you got it right, Storm Rider. She also happens to be one of your favourites.

 

[crisp82]

My mother was so upset about the Halloween pictures that she cried about it, and my family is "ashamed of me." I'm 23 years old... on my own, paying my own bills, taking care of myself (meagerly, but I'm getting by)... yet I still feel horribly guilty for living a lifestyle deviant to the one they would like me to.

you forgot 'Hot' 😉

damn......