Can you approach your GF if you find out something by snooping?

[thawolfman]

Partially inspired by theNEOone's thread, and partially out of my own curiousity/experience...

What can you really do if you find some out some serious sh!t, out by looking where you're not supposed to, and I'm not just talking chat logs, I'm talking voice mail, e-mail, etc...

Is there any way to approach them about it without making yourself the bad guy, or does it all come down on you because you were snooping?

Thoughts?

-Ben-

 

[So]

Fabricate some other war of coming upon it, but make sure an uninterested third pary knows the real way you found out first, so it won't look like you're fabricating things.

 

[Balt]

It's always the man's fault, didn't you know that?

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

I know her well enough to look at her and know exactly what she's thinking. She can't hide anything from me. I talk to her for a few minutes and I know exactly if and/or what she is trying to hide. We both hate it.

 

[veggiefrog]

i hadnt even been dating my bf for a month when i went into his email and read a whole bunch of his saved emails, including saved ones from prev g/f (i only went to make sure one i sent him went through, honestly! )
i just said (EXTREMELY apologetically) to him, look i read your emails and i'm sorry, blah blah. he was really kewl about the whole thing and said he woudlnt have given me his password if he had something to hide.
so i think that if u sound sorry it's no big deal.

that said, if i found incriminating stuff i wouldnt care how i found it, a confrontation would be imminent.

 

[FrancesBeansRevenge]

Looks like she was right when she felt deep inside that she couldn't trust you.

 

[thawolfman]

Originally posted by: veggiefrog
i hadnt even been dating my bf for a month when i went into his email and read a whole bunch of his saved emails, including saved ones from prev g/f (i only went to make sure one i sent him went through, honestly! )
i just said (EXTREMELY apologetically) to him, look i read your emails and i'm sorry, blah blah. he was really kewl about the whole thing and said he woudlnt have given me his password if he had something to hide.
so i think that if u sound sorry it's no big deal.

that said, if i found incriminating stuff i wouldnt care how i found it, a confrontation would be imminent.

Yeah but I'd imagine that it's a little bit different for a guy to confront a girl, yargh?

 

[veggiefrog]

Originally posted by: thawolfman

Originally posted by: veggiefrog
i hadnt even been dating my bf for a month when i went into his email and read a whole bunch of his saved emails, including saved ones from prev g/f (i only went to make sure one i sent him went through, honestly! )
i just said (EXTREMELY apologetically) to him, look i read your emails and i'm sorry, blah blah. he was really kewl about the whole thing and said he woudlnt have given me his password if he had something to hide.
so i think that if u sound sorry it's no big deal.

that said, if i found incriminating stuff i wouldnt care how i found it, a confrontation would be imminent.

Yeah but I'd imagine that it's a little bit different for a guy to confront a girl, yargh?

hmm yeah maybe you're right.... i defo wouldnt have been so kewl about it.... girls defo get away w/ more than guys do. :|


edit: i hate these fooking new faces! :frown:

 

[thawolfman]

Originally posted by: veggiefrog

Originally posted by: thawolfman

Originally posted by: veggiefrog
i hadnt even been dating my bf for a month when i went into his email and read a whole bunch of his saved emails, including saved ones from prev g/f (i only went to make sure one i sent him went through, honestly! )
i just said (EXTREMELY apologetically) to him, look i read your emails and i'm sorry, blah blah. he was really kewl about the whole thing and said he woudlnt have given me his password if he had something to hide.
so i think that if u sound sorry it's no big deal.

that said, if i found incriminating stuff i wouldnt care how i found it, a confrontation would be imminent.

Yeah but I'd imagine that it's a little bit different for a guy to confront a girl, yargh?

hmm yeah maybe you're right.... i defo wouldnt have been so kewl about it.... girls defo get away w/ more than guys do. :|


edit: i hate these fooking new faces! :frown:

Yes, yes they do get away with more!

 

[Syringer]

Did you find a diary entry saying that she doesn't think she can trust you?

 

[thawolfman]

Originally posted by: Syringer
Did you find a diary entry saying that she doesn't think she can trust you?

No sir

 

[sygyzy]

Originally posted by: veggiefrog
i hadnt even been dating my bf for a month when i went into his email and read a whole bunch of his saved emails, including saved ones from prev g/f (i only went to make sure one i sent him went through, honestly! )
i just said (EXTREMELY apologetically) to him, look i read your emails and i'm sorry, blah blah. he was really kewl about the whole thing and said he woudlnt have given me his password if he had something to hide.
so i think that if u sound sorry it's no big deal.

that said, if i found incriminating stuff i wouldnt care how i found it, a confrontation would be imminent.

You wanted to check to see if your emails made it through so you asked him for his password? Why didn't you just ask him "Hey, did you get my email?" You're a liar and you try to justify it? You are lucky your bf didn't dump you.

 

[MrDudeMan]

i would just tell my girlfriend exactly what i thought about the evidence. if it was bad enough, and she changed the subject about why i know that information, i would say shut the fvck up and answer the question or im kicking your ass to the curb. done it before...worked...will do it again...

 

[Rickten]

Originally posted by: sygyzy

Originally posted by: veggiefrog
i hadnt even been dating my bf for a month when i went into his email and read a whole bunch of his saved emails, including saved ones from prev g/f (i only went to make sure one i sent him went through, honestly! )
i just said (EXTREMELY apologetically) to him, look i read your emails and i'm sorry, blah blah. he was really kewl about the whole thing and said he woudlnt have given me his password if he had something to hide.
so i think that if u sound sorry it's no big deal.

that said, if i found incriminating stuff i wouldnt care how i found it, a confrontation would be imminent.

You wanted to check to see if your emails made it through so you asked him for his password? Why didn't you just ask him "Hey, did you get my email?" You're a liar and you try to justify it? You are lucky your bf didn't dump you.

exactly what I was thinking. As soo as I read that horrible excuse I thought in my head BullSH!T.

 

[thawolfman]

Hmm...

 

[alm99]

regardless of what you found, you will be at fault. Its just the way it is. Why? Because women are EVIL

 

[Geekbabe]

I think you should start the convo by admitting that you obviously haven't trusted her for awhile and that you resorted to snooping rather than direct conversation.

 

[simms]

Ya, I admitted. Then she admitted she was wrong. It made the relationship better after we cleared it.. and no, she wasn't angry at me. Phew.

 

[eakers]

the reason she would make you look like the bad guy for it is so that she can turn it around and be mad at you. women love that trick whenever they get in trouble.

 

[thawolfman]

Originally posted by: eakers
the reason she would make you look like the bad guy for it is so that she can turn it around and be mad at you. women love that trick whenever they get in trouble.

Don't they though? :beer:

-Ben-