Can this be blamed on senility? OR: My family sucks

[XMan]

My grandmother announced to aunts, nieces, nephews, family friends, etc. at a recent family get together that I am gay, because I haven't gotten married yet. (I'm 25).

I only found out because I've had some . . . interesting . . . phone calls from family members lately. :\

Add this to the fact that my grandmother never has a kind word to say about my dad and stepmom, who've basically given up their life to provide at-home care for both of my grandparents, and it's making me seriously consider cancelling my vacation home in a couple of weeks. Because I have a sinking feeling that it's going to go down just like it always does: I'll sit at the kitchen table while my grandma gripes about my dad, and my grandpa sits in the next room listening to CNN. When I get tired of hearing crap about my dad, I'll excuse myself and go visit other friends and relatives in my hometown. When I get back to my dad's, I'll hear about how grandma was griping about the fact that I don't spend any time with her, because she's "not going to be around much longer." Never mind the fact that every Christmas for the last 15 years has been grandma's "last one on this Earth."

God help me, I love them to death, but sometimes my family drives me crazy. I just had to get my rant on for a moment.

 

I think everyone's family gets to be like that sooner or later. My advice? Spend time with them. Sure you won't like it now, but they'll appreciate it, and when they're eventually gone, you'll be happy that you spent that time with them.

 

[Viper GTS]

Send her the pictures, show her otherwise.

Does that look like an ass to you grandma?

Viper GTS

 

[Wallydraigle]

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
Send her the pictures, show her otherwise.

Does that look like an ass to you grandma?

Viper GTS

A picture is afterall worth a thousand words

 

[XMan]

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
Send her the pictures, show her otherwise.

Does that look like an ass to you grandma?

Viper GTS

LOL.

It doesn't really bother me, it totally pissed my dad off for some reason though. Maybe it was because she just announced it out of the blue to a bunch of people. Although it could be because my dad has irrefutable proof of my non-gayness . . . he stopped by my apartment one day during an . . . umm . . . err . . . delicate moment.

I agree with you about spending time with them, jumpr, I have spent tons of time over the years with my grandma, much more than I did with my other set of grandparents or any other family members except parents, really. It's just difficult to sit there and listen to her rant and rave about my dad, when I know that he's paying all of her bills, cleaning up after her when she's incontinent, and doing his darnedest to keep her out of a nursing home.

 

[PunDogg]

haha your grandma called you "gay" hahaha
that sucks, your fam is off the wall, but what do i know
i come from a good, well joined family that lives in the subarbs (sp)

Dogg

 

[Viper GTS]

Originally posted by: X-Man

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
Send her the pictures, show her otherwise.

Does that look like an ass to you grandma?

Viper GTS

LOL.

It doesn't really bother me, it totally pissed my dad off for some reason though. Maybe it was because she just announced it out of the blue to a bunch of people. Although it could be because my dad has irrefutable proof of my non-gayness . . . he stopped by my apartment one day during an . . . umm . . . err . . . delicate moment.

I agree with you about spending time with them, jumpr, I have spent tons of time over the years with my grandma, much more than I did with my other set of grandparents or any other family members except parents, really. It's just difficult to sit there and listen to her rant and rave about my dad, when I know that he's paying all of her bills, cleaning up after her when she's incontinent, and doing his darnedest to keep her out of a nursing home.

You let your parents just walk into your apartment?

Dayamn, that's risky.

That's alright dad, you can knock like everybody else.

Viper GTS

 

[XMan]

Originally posted by: Viper GTS

Originally posted by: X-Man

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
Send her the pictures, show her otherwise.

Does that look like an ass to you grandma?

Viper GTS

LOL.

It doesn't really bother me, it totally pissed my dad off for some reason though. Maybe it was because she just announced it out of the blue to a bunch of people. Although it could be because my dad has irrefutable proof of my non-gayness . . . he stopped by my apartment one day during an . . . umm . . . err . . . delicate moment.

I agree with you about spending time with them, jumpr, I have spent tons of time over the years with my grandma, much more than I did with my other set of grandparents or any other family members except parents, really. It's just difficult to sit there and listen to her rant and rave about my dad, when I know that he's paying all of her bills, cleaning up after her when she's incontinent, and doing his darnedest to keep her out of a nursing home.

You let your parents just walk into your apartment?

Dayamn, that's risky.

That's alright dad, you can knock like everybody else.

Viper GTS

No, I was in the shower and my girlfriend at the time answered the door wearing one of my T-shirts.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

You're gay?! Why didn't you tell me that when we were together?!??!!??? :Q

 

[XMan]

Originally posted by: hzl_eyed_grl
You're gay?! Why didn't you tell me that when we were together?!??!!??? :Q

Sigh.

 

[NokiaDude]

Your grandma crossed the line. You need to shove it up her face. And get some picutures of you getting hot and heavy with some cute girls.

 

[Siddhartha]

Originally posted by: X-Man
My grandmother announced to aunts, nieces, nephews, family friends, etc. at a recent family get together that I am gay, because I haven't gotten married yet. (I'm 25).

I only found out because I've had some . . . interesting . . . phone calls from family members lately. :\

Add this to the fact that my grandmother never has a kind word to say about my dad and stepmom, who've basically given up their life to provide at-home care for both of my grandparents, and it's making me seriously consider cancelling my vacation home in a couple of weeks. Because I have a sinking feeling that it's going to go down just like it always does: I'll sit at the kitchen table while my grandma gripes about my dad, and my grandpa sits in the next room listening to CNN. When I get tired of hearing crap about my dad, I'll excuse myself and go visit other friends and relatives in my hometown. When I get back to my dad's, I'll hear about how grandma was griping about the fact that I don't spend any time with her, because she's "not going to be around much longer." Never mind the fact that every Christmas for the last 15 years has been grandma's "last one on this Earth."

God help me, I love them to death, but sometimes my family drives me crazy. I just had to get my rant on for a moment.

My grandmother did similar stuff. I lived 800 miles away from her so she would call me to tell how worthless I was and why didn't I call her or visited more. I did not call her very often and when I was in town I would only see her for no more that a hour because I just did not want to hear her crap. She passed away and sometimes I feel like I should have spent more time with her.

 

[nan0bug]

Originally posted by: X-Man

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
Send her the pictures, show her otherwise.

Does that look like an ass to you grandma?

Viper GTS

LOL.

It doesn't really bother me, it totally pissed my dad off for some reason though. Maybe it was because she just announced it out of the blue to a bunch of people. Although it could be because my dad has irrefutable proof of my non-gayness . . . he stopped by my apartment one day during an . . . umm . . . err . . . delicate moment.

I agree with you about spending time with them, jumpr, I have spent tons of time over the years with my grandma, much more than I did with my other set of grandparents or any other family members except parents, really. It's just difficult to sit there and listen to her rant and rave about my dad, when I know that he's paying all of her bills, cleaning up after her when she's incontinent, and doing his darnedest to keep her out of a nursing home.

I don't think you would be crossing the line by calling her up and telling her exactly what you told us. If he's going out of his way to keep her out of a nursing home, the least she could do is show some appreciation. Whatever happened to aging gracefully anyway?

If it were my grandmother, I'd tell her to shut her old trap before she ends up in an assisted living environment where she can wait to die with all the other unwanted grandparents.

 

[marksman1uhm1]

Do like me: get the f*ck out of the country. Having an ocean between you and your family definitely helps.

 

[kranky]

Blame it on senility. My grandmother once saw a commercial for a hair replacement clinic, called them, and gave them my name as someone who would be very interested in their service. No matter that I didn't need hair replacement, and when they called me we had a good laugh about it.

 

[notfred]

Originally posted by: X-Man
No, I was in the shower and my girlfriend at the time answered the door wearing one of my T-shirts.

So before, when you said "delicate moment", you meant "not really that delicate, but I wanted you to think that I got walked in on while having sex", right?

 

[GaryShandling]

I took my family out with a rusty machety while they napped on a sunny afternoon. I then locked myself in my bathroom and had a long conversation with the person inside the mirror about various undiscovered caserole recipees.

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: X-Man
My grandmother announced to aunts, nieces, nephews, family friends, etc. at a recent family get together that I am gay, because I haven't gotten married yet. (I'm 25).

I only found out because I've had some . . . interesting . . . phone calls from family members lately. :\

Add this to the fact that my grandmother never has a kind word to say about my dad and stepmom, who've basically given up their life to provide at-home care for both of my grandparents, and it's making me seriously consider cancelling my vacation home in a couple of weeks. Because I have a sinking feeling that it's going to go down just like it always does: I'll sit at the kitchen table while my grandma gripes about my dad, and my grandpa sits in the next room listening to CNN. When I get tired of hearing crap about my dad, I'll excuse myself and go visit other friends and relatives in my hometown. When I get back to my dad's, I'll hear about how grandma was griping about the fact that I don't spend any time with her, because she's "not going to be around much longer." Never mind the fact that every Christmas for the last 15 years has been grandma's "last one on this Earth."

God help me, I love them to death, but sometimes my family drives me crazy. I just had to get my rant on for a moment.

oh man. i have a grandma just like this!

im 29 now and been married for 5 years. When i was 24 while at thanksgiving (hmm turkey..) she asked when i was going to bring my boyfriend over to meet everyone (at the time i was still going to college and living with roomates). When i told her it was NOT my boyfriend she said that since i was not married or engaged (most of my family has gotten married young..im talking under 20!) and living with other guys i was gay. she came to my wedding and complained that it was a fake wedding and god would punish us for it.

Everyone started to laugh and told her that i was NOT gay. i did date girls. she has never apoligized for it and still thinks im gay!

but thats ok. i never did get along with her. when i was 15 my parents got a divorce. Me and my mother lived with her until my mom could get a apartment (dad lived out of state). My grandma told everyone that i was trying to kill her. She said that i carried around a knife and was going to kill her for her money! (i did carry around a knife. my grandfather bought me a really nice buck knife for my 10th b-day). the sad part is i had recieved a large amount of money when my grandfather died so there was no reason to kill her. not to mention she was broke anyway!

familly get togethers are always fun when she is around. she does not like my wife or daughter. she is nuts! just nuts! i guess that is what happens when you get older.

 

[vi edit]

Grandparents can get these twisted weird expectations of their grandchildren and then turn psycho when you don't live up to them.

My wifes grandparents didn't even so much as say congratulations to her when she was accepted into a pharmacy program because they wanted her to go into physical therapy. They also barely recognize my wifes sister as a grandchild because she's autistic and doesn't interact well with other people.

They really are unpleasant people.

 

[Brutuskend]

Knock somebody up/ problem solved!
<-----49 and never married.

 

Call your Grandmother a Geriatric ***. Say Grandpa and the kids are all a cover story.

 

[Red Dawn]

Maybe she came to that conclusion after seeing this Picture of you on the Internet