Crap, this is going to be a gaming rig.

How much of a performance difference is 1 stick versus 2? Does the 2nd stick have to be the same capacity?
Thanks!
It works like this. In dual-channel mode, you need two of the same size for each pair of dual-channel slots. You can have a 2x8GB in one pair of slots, and a 2x4GB in the other pair, and you'd still have dual channel. But if you use different sized modules in a pair of slots -- no -- it would be in single-channel mode. Anybody can correct me on this, but I'm pretty sure.
As to the difference between single and dual. There may be some very slight difference. There had been a consensus on these forums about that, and the common response is that it isn't much.
I don't see why you wouldn't save some more pennies, get an identical module when you want to pay for it. Or you could get in touch with the reseller right away, and tell him you want to replace the single 8GB module for as 2x4GB kit -- whatever it was that you wanted originally.
It's just a hassle if you made a mistake in an order. Phone calls. Chats. E-mails. RMA request forms -- whatever.