bob4432
Lifer
- Sep 6, 2003
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man, op sorry this happend to your gf. is she coping ok with what happend to her?
to be honest i think there is nothing wrong with what you did, imho sometimes street justice is better than court justice for a given situation. i am normally an extremely kicked back person, but if somebody f*cks with my wife, that's another story
i also think you were lucky he didn't press charges because i think you would have gotten the short end of the stick and here is why - imho
- you never claimed you gf asked the friend to leave which would mean she didn't feel afraid of him (i know it is b.s., but that is how a lawyer could easily spin it)
- your friend could have easily said they were just "playing around" since it sounds like she didn't have any bruises on her
- you did not act out of fear, but rather anger and you had time to think about what you were going to do, thus pre-meditated. you can usually use equal to a bit more force than the what is being brought on you (or in some state up to death to prevent a rape), but at the point you got there there was no threat to you and it sounds like your gf at that point.
- your friend (or should i say ex friend) is the only person with any marks on them (assuming since i didn't read that your gf had any)
just some things to think about - this stuff happens all the time and honestly the courts don't, imho, care about it because it is small time. had you not hit the guy your gf could have probably pressed assault/attempted rape charges on the guy to at least get him in the system. hopefully what you did will have the same effect on him, which it my do.
most importantly i just hope your gf is ok, both emotionally and physically and if she does have any after issues to seek out medical/mental health advisors.
just out of curiosity, how close of friends were you with this guy? how close of friends was your gf with this guy? if a person will do this to a friend, assuming your gf is 100% honest as to what happend (not that i am calling your gf a liar, but again if he just jumped on her out of the blue that is pretty bad, it seems like it may only be a short time before he fully rapes somebody he doesn't know), i would see this person as a threat to other females he doesn't know...
to be honest i think there is nothing wrong with what you did, imho sometimes street justice is better than court justice for a given situation. i am normally an extremely kicked back person, but if somebody f*cks with my wife, that's another story
i also think you were lucky he didn't press charges because i think you would have gotten the short end of the stick and here is why - imho
- you never claimed you gf asked the friend to leave which would mean she didn't feel afraid of him (i know it is b.s., but that is how a lawyer could easily spin it)
- your friend could have easily said they were just "playing around" since it sounds like she didn't have any bruises on her
- you did not act out of fear, but rather anger and you had time to think about what you were going to do, thus pre-meditated. you can usually use equal to a bit more force than the what is being brought on you (or in some state up to death to prevent a rape), but at the point you got there there was no threat to you and it sounds like your gf at that point.
- your friend (or should i say ex friend) is the only person with any marks on them (assuming since i didn't read that your gf had any)
just some things to think about - this stuff happens all the time and honestly the courts don't, imho, care about it because it is small time. had you not hit the guy your gf could have probably pressed assault/attempted rape charges on the guy to at least get him in the system. hopefully what you did will have the same effect on him, which it my do.
most importantly i just hope your gf is ok, both emotionally and physically and if she does have any after issues to seek out medical/mental health advisors.
just out of curiosity, how close of friends were you with this guy? how close of friends was your gf with this guy? if a person will do this to a friend, assuming your gf is 100% honest as to what happend (not that i am calling your gf a liar, but again if he just jumped on her out of the blue that is pretty bad, it seems like it may only be a short time before he fully rapes somebody he doesn't know), i would see this person as a threat to other females he doesn't know...
