Bride dies at wedding during first dance

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: PokerGuy
Wow, GB and others have a seriously bad outlook on things. Life is about the journey, not the destination. Sharing the journey with the ones you love over years and years is what it's all about, not some small set of memories from a short timeframe. I can't imagine not having my wife and two boys to share life with at this point.....

Agree with you, life's too short to go through life with such pessimism and doubt. If you have such a negative outlook on life and on yourself there is probably something not right upstairs.

Go visit your grandma or sit down with an old married couple and let them tell you a story or two. Yeah the media typically only spits out negative stories and articles that make you say what the fuck...But for everyone of these messed up stories there are hundreds of little things that don't make the paper.

They missed a potential lifetime together of holding hands, smiles and saying "I love you", with just a look of the eyes, a walk in the park, seeing your children playing together in a freshly raked pile of leaves or on the swingset, or just the quiet times where just being in the same room is all that in necessary, the cup of tea in the afternoons, or her asking what is a 7 letter word for happiness. As has been pointed out, growing old together and experiencing life's many nuances together is what makes life worth living.

It is better to have love and lost then to have never loved before. I loved my ex as well, but yes she was a negative person and could/would always point something bad out. I hated this about her and it was a big part of why we didn't make it. Had I not experienced this I wouldn't have known to stay as far away from cynics and pessimists as I could.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: AnitaPeterson
LOL, let's not get personal here... Obviously GB and I think alike in this respect... various people have various outlooks on life; I agree mine is a tad pessimistic, blame it on my profession, but more often than not, I've seen great relationships ending badly. "Who's afraid of Virginia Woolf?" is a great cautionary tale...

I've seen many great relationships end with the couple totally loathing each other..

People in this thread forget too,the high percentage of marriages that up in an ugly divorce.
This situation while sad at least ended while both parties still loved and cared for each other.

About 40-45% of marriages end in divorce and I would hazard a guess that less than half of those end in an ugly divorce.

I have seen divorce first hand(it was pure hell until she left the house, then it was quite amicable), my parents divorced when I was 4(very messy) and had an Uncle that got divorced and remarried. I have not remarried, largely because I am incredibly picky and even moreso now. Both of my family members have remarried and are living happily ever after and those that have just had one marriage are entering into 20-40 years of being together.

I take it Red was not your first marriage?

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: AnitaPeterson

Originally posted by: BlahBlahYouToo

Originally posted by: AnitaPeterson
LOL, let's not get personal here... Obviously GB and I think alike in this respect... various people have various outlooks on life; I agree mine is a tad pessimistic, blame it on my profession, but more often than not, I've seen great relationships ending badly. "Who's afraid of Virginia Woolf?" is a great cautionary tale...

what profession is this so i can avoid it?

Fireman!

yeah that or seething bitch.

 

[AnitaPeterson]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: AnitaPeterson

Originally posted by: BlahBlahYouToo

Originally posted by: AnitaPeterson
LOL, let's not get personal here... Obviously GB and I think alike in this respect... various people have various outlooks on life; I agree mine is a tad pessimistic, blame it on my profession, but more often than not, I've seen great relationships ending badly. "Who's afraid of Virginia Woolf?" is a great cautionary tale...

what profession is this so i can avoid it?

Fireman!

yeah that or seething bitch.

yo' momma... :evil:

 

[MaxDepth]

You know...when I was younger, I may have felt that way. When I dated someone, with the intent of dating (let's be serious for a moment - there were some girls I no intention of dating - just for sex, and I was up front with that.) I looked at girls who I thought would be an equal to me and who would "age well."

But I've become a little less egotistic in my years and yet I've been lucky enough to find someone who grows more beautiful each day in the time I have known her. I still think she has some sort of mental defect, though...she agreed to marry me.

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Nitemare

Originally posted by: AnitaPeterson
The bright side of things: it all ended on a high note, at the absolute peak... They were spared a slow decline of feelings, the death of passion, a slip into indifference and maybe even hatred... he gets to keep and cherish her memory at its sweetest, instead of waking up one morning thinking "who's that hag in my bed?"

Sad, but true...

That or he is reminded everyday of what could have been...30-40 years of growing old together, idle conversations over the breakfast table, doing puzzles together, preparing meals together, dancing and dining, snuggling together during cold winter nights. They could have even had a child together and experience parenthood together.

It's just so sad because they were so in love at the time and he will always think of what could have been...

I agree with Anita, sorry but to men we wives become "that hag" in the bed next to them all too quickly. At least she died while things were still good.

 

[rh71]

^ the argument of better to have loved and lost is never won by either side.

But my personal feeling is that I would rather have never loved if I had to lose. Short-term-speaking, of course. Full-life together FTW IMO.