Boyfriend 30. Girlffriend...20...do you think it can work?

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CHfan4ever

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Yop.Iv been dating this girl, and the thing that make me nervous a bit, is that she is only 20.

Do you think it can work for two people who have that big different of age, at their age, to make it work for a very long relationship to come?

If it worked for you...tell me your story please.Id Like to hear it...cause atm, im having fun with this relationship...but asking myself tooo much question because she is only 20...
 
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Nope. Sorry to say bro. She's at a different point in her life. She's going to want to party and if you're not up to snuff, then you're going to be left at the curb like yesterday's trash.
 
Schadenfreude

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is she mature enough?

if not, how rich are you?

For a successful relationship of this type, an inverse ratio of age of difference and $$$ is necessary. Hope you have $$$.
 
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hjo3

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> Boyfriend 30. Girlffriend...20...do you think it can work?

I doubt it, but anything's possible.
 
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Zim Hosein

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Boyfriend 30..Girlfriend 20....do you think it can work for something serious?
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If the 2 of you really like each other, share interests & have fun together CHfan4ever, give it a try. All I can think of is that old saying, "It is better to have loved & lost than to have never loved at all." :)
 
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Adica

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All's good till she hits 21, then see ya later! Sorry to say, but I speak the truth.
 
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ghostman

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Well, I wouldn't say it necessarily won't work. As long as she's mature (or you're immature), I think you two can have very compatible lifestyles. I knew many college students who hated the clubbing/partying scene. But I have to say, the odds are against you.
 
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CHfan4ever

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Lol.Im not millionary.

Want to know the fvck up story...here it is.

Im just an average joe who work in a store.I earn like 18k a year.This girl told me she use to be a model,but because she didnt wanted to "make extra work" to become even mroe popular, she quit the model job, and now have difficulty in her life, and she have to go back to her mom house.She seem to havent judge me as an average joe at all.She was a model, and i think about my self that im not ugly..but jesus, i dont think im "model" material.So this russian girl seem to be just in love with me.We have sometime difficulties to understand eaach other, but so far, im very happy about this start.Friend are even making jokes about me being in a russian setup where they will steal me all my money, and the russian mafia will kill me lollll

But seriously, it scare me.This 20 years old amazing chick is totally after me, and for god sake, i just cant refuse her...

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It really depends on her maturity. However, it is likely that she isn't mature enough for you. She is probably living the life of a early-twenty-something, which is probably different from how you are living your life. It all depends though... I've seen 20 year olds who settle down like old women, and I've seen 30 year olds party like they were 21.

However, on average, I'd be careful before I started having too many feelings for this girl. Have a great time, and if it evolves into something more, then great! Try to keep up with her by going out with her on the weekends (bars/clubs, at least one day on the weekends), and don't talk too much about marriage or kids (if that is where you are looking right now). In fact, if the relationship works out, let HER be the one to bring up those subjects.

I'm 26, and I'm dating a 23 year old girl who just graduated college last May. I have a hard time keeping up with her. Is your girl in college? I started dating my girlfriend in Febuary of her senior year, and the couple of months we were together while she was still in school presented some unique challenges. Fortunately, I am a grad student, so I wasn't "that creepy old guy" that came around. I was able to blend in. However, for you I would imagine that it would be more difficult (no offense).

The age difference will become a lot less significant as you get older. However, over the next 5 years or so, things could be rocky (assuming you are looking at this long-term). My best advice is to be flexible and be willing to go out and have a good time, rather than stay in or go to the movies. Remember what it was like to be young, and be ready for some wild nights.

Good luck, and have fun!!!

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rgwalt

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Originally posted by: CHfan4ever
Lol.Im not millionary.

Want to know the fvck up story...here it is.

Im just an average joe who work in a store.I earn like 18k a year.This girl told me she use to be a model,but because she didnt wanted to "make extra work" to become even mroe popular, she quit the model job, and now have difficulty in her life, and she have to go back to her mom house.She seem to havent judge me as an average joe at all.She was a model, and i think about my self that im not ugly..but jesus, i dont think im "model" material.So this russian girl seem to be just in love with me.We have sometime difficulties to understand eaach other, but so far, im very happy about this start.Friend are even making jokes about me being in a russian setup where they will steal me all my money, and the russian mafia will kill me lollll

But seriously, it scare me.This 20 years old amazing chick is totally after me, and for god sake, i just cant refuse her...

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OK, after reading this, just take it slow and easy. Let her pursue you.

Personally, I wouldn't date someone younger than 21, just because I wouldn't want the alcohol thing to get weird.

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If by "work", you mean can you have fun for 1-3months, then YES!

I did it 3x in a row, when I was 29, they were 19. Of course, as soon as we got past the "let's drink & have fun, go to bars" stage, and I wanted to go to restaurants/movies/plays/etc., I quickly realized they hadn't been through enough of life to have a solid conversation. Didn't stop me from doing it several times, as the girls were just so dang hot and had such tight bodies.

Although now that I think about it, after them I met my wife, who's 4 years younger than I. I was so happy to find someone to talk with that I ended up marrying her.

Ok, i'm changing my vote. STAY AWAY! It'll only last for a short period of time, then you'll realize dating someone closer to your age is so much better you'll end up married in no time flat.
 
ManSnake

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Ponder this:

When you were 10, she wasn't even born yet.
When you were 20, she was only 10. You were twice her age!!!

:Q
 
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Ronstang

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My stepdaughter is 25 and married to a 38 year old and of any two people I know they are the only two I would bank money on to stay together. Take from this what you will.
 
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