Being a parent, i better understand my parents now. . .

[PlatinumGold]

my 11 yr old son, my oldest, is so much like me it's scary. his taste in food, his posture, his study habits, how he relates to his friends, how he wears his glasses. it's like everytime i look at him, it's like seeing an image of myself 30 years ago.

given how similar he is to what i used to be, it's hard not for me to think, what can i do to keep him from making the same mistakes i made. it's very hard not to look at him as being a second chance for myself. it's not nearly that way with my daughter or youngest son as they are nothing like me.

being a parent really has it's challenges.

 

[rasczak]

Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
my 11 yr old son, my oldest, is so much like me it's scary. his taste in food, his posture, his study habits, how he relates to his friends, how he wears his glasses. it's like everytime i look at him, it's like seeing an image of myself 30 years ago.

given how similar he is to what i used to be, it's hard not for me to think, what can i do to keep him from making the same mistakes i made. it's very hard not to look at him as being a second chance for myself. it's not nearly that way with my daughter or youngest son as they are nothing like me.

being a parent really has it's challenges.

i can't agree with you more. my oldest daughter is the spitting image of me except taht she's pretty and I'm not. her personality, her attitude, her over all happiness. but she's got a temper that rivals my own. i find it hard to deal with her because i know in the end i'm just gonna get mad. so i make her go to her mother.

 

[Queasy]

The relationship between my son and daughter actually remind me of my brother and sister. They can go from being lovey lovey with one another to fighting in .00001 seconds.

My son is actually more like me personality wise though - very laid back but also takes after my wife in that he's very talkative. My daughter is my wife made all over though.

 

[JS80]

Originally posted by: rasczak

Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
my 11 yr old son, my oldest, is so much like me it's scary. his taste in food, his posture, his study habits, how he relates to his friends, how he wears his glasses. it's like everytime i look at him, it's like seeing an image of myself 30 years ago.

given how similar he is to what i used to be, it's hard not for me to think, what can i do to keep him from making the same mistakes i made. it's very hard not to look at him as being a second chance for myself. it's not nearly that way with my daughter or youngest son as they are nothing like me.

being a parent really has it's challenges.

i can't agree with you more. my oldest daughter is the spitting image of me except taht she's pretty and I'm not. her personality, her attitude, her over all happiness. but she's got a temper that rivals my own. i find it hard to deal with her because i know in the end i'm just gonna get mad. so i make her go to her mother.

haha...

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: rasczak

Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
my 11 yr old son, my oldest, is so much like me it's scary. his taste in food, his posture, his study habits, how he relates to his friends, how he wears his glasses. it's like everytime i look at him, it's like seeing an image of myself 30 years ago.

given how similar he is to what i used to be, it's hard not for me to think, what can i do to keep him from making the same mistakes i made. it's very hard not to look at him as being a second chance for myself. it's not nearly that way with my daughter or youngest son as they are nothing like me.

being a parent really has it's challenges.

i can't agree with you more. my oldest daughter is the spitting image of me except taht she's pretty and I'm not. her personality, her attitude, her over all happiness. but she's got a temper that rivals my own. i find it hard to deal with her because i know in the end i'm just gonna get mad. so i make her go to her mother.

pics of said daughter?

 

[ScoobMaster]

Humbling experience, isn't it (my son is almost 7)

The REALLY scary part is going back into your youth and remembering how you felt how dumb your parents were, how "little" they knew about the daily challenges in your life. How they couldn't POSSIBLY relate to relationships at school, etc..

Then in our older wiser brains we realize... it was US that hardly knew anything, and no, we were not fooling our parents with the lame excuses or lies about where we were so late into the night.

The challenge is, as you pointed out, getting your kids to not repeat the same mistakes. Parents have ben struggling with that one since the dawn of civilization. Think about it... even if you could transport your current adult mature self back in time to talk to the teenage "you", would you listen even to YOURSELF give advice as an adult???

 

[MotionMan]

Originally posted by: Queasy
The relationship between my son and daughter actually remind me of all brothers and sisters. They can go from being lovey lovey with one another to fighting in .00001 seconds.

Fixed.

MotionMan

 

[meltdown75]

all the mistakes you made had a huge part in developing your character though.

my concern wouldn't be him making the same mistakes, just that he is able to recover and learn from them as I had. after all it's not the falling that counts, but how we get back up and dust ourselves off.

FWIW i'm not a parent but i hope to be one day.

 

[steppinthrax]

I strongly believe genes are a major player of pretty much everything. They don't play DIRECT roles in dictating a persons' behavior but they my make them more predisposed to have that certian behavior.

In certian situations there is not much you can do. But making sure those things you feel were bad in your behavior don't end up in your child is key.

 

[NuclearNed]

I find it interesting that some of my Dad's traits that I once despised are the ones that I now want for myself more and more.

 

[jjones]

I still don't understand my parents and am conscious not to make the same mistakes they did. That said, their challenges raising eight kids are entirely beyond my challenges of raising only one.

 

[Vette73]

Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
my 11 yr old son, my oldest, is so much like me it's scary. his taste in food, his posture, his study habits, how he relates to his friends, how he wears his glasses. it's like everytime i look at him, it's like seeing an image of myself 30 years ago.

given how similar he is to what i used to be, it's hard not for me to think, what can i do to keep him from making the same mistakes i made. it's very hard not to look at him as being a second chance for myself. it's not nearly that way with my daughter or youngest son as they are nothing like me.

being a parent really has it's challenges.

Yea sorry about that. But she said that you two were on a break so its ok.

 

[puffff]

Originally posted by: meltdown75
all the mistakes you made had a huge part in developing your character though.

my concern wouldn't be him making the same mistakes, just that he is able to recover and learn from them as I had. after all it's not the falling that counts, but how we get back up and dust ourselves off.

FWIW i'm not a parent but i hope to be one day.

I agree. I always hated it when older people pushed their advice on me and cited experience. If they went through the same things and turned out okay, let me take my lumps. I'll learn the lesson better if I experience it first hand.

As a parent I would want to make myself as open as possible should my kid come to me and ask, but I wouldn't try to force my experiences on them. Maybe guide them, but unless it's a life changing decision, let them make their own call.

 

[rasczak]

Originally posted by: DisgruntledVirus

Originally posted by: rasczak

Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
my 11 yr old son, my oldest, is so much like me it's scary. his taste in food, his posture, his study habits, how he relates to his friends, how he wears his glasses. it's like everytime i look at him, it's like seeing an image of myself 30 years ago.

given how similar he is to what i used to be, it's hard not for me to think, what can i do to keep him from making the same mistakes i made. it's very hard not to look at him as being a second chance for myself. it's not nearly that way with my daughter or youngest son as they are nothing like me.

being a parent really has it's challenges.

i can't agree with you more. my oldest daughter is the spitting image of me except taht she's pretty and I'm not. her personality, her attitude, her over all happiness. but she's got a temper that rivals my own. i find it hard to deal with her because i know in the end i'm just gonna get mad. so i make her go to her mother.

pics of said daughter?

i've got a pic of a knuckle sandwich for ya instead.

 

[CPA]

My second son is the most like me. Actually, he's an extreme me. And as for second chances, he will become the NFL football star that I always wanted to be

 

[nakedfrog]

The problem now is that I don't understand the damn kids!

 

[dakels]

I'm not a parent yet but I can still relate. This sort of perspective awareness can really change a person. It's too bad most children don't understand nor respect very well the role and responsibilities of their parents. Myself included.

Same goes for student/teacher, trainee/coach, even worker/manager. On a broader viewpoint, I guess it is human nature to explore different perspectives (even chemically induced ). It helps us understand and appreciate things better.

 

[Q]

Originally posted by: rasczak

Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
my 11 yr old son, my oldest, is so much like me it's scary. his taste in food, his posture, his study habits, how he relates to his friends, how he wears his glasses. it's like everytime i look at him, it's like seeing an image of myself 30 years ago.

given how similar he is to what i used to be, it's hard not for me to think, what can i do to keep him from making the same mistakes i made. it's very hard not to look at him as being a second chance for myself. it's not nearly that way with my daughter or youngest son as they are nothing like me.

being a parent really has it's challenges.

i can't agree with you more. my oldest daughter is the spitting image of me except taht she's pretty and I'm not. her personality, her attitude, her over all happiness. but she's got a temper that rivals my own. i find it hard to deal with her because i know in the end i'm just gonna get mad. so i make her go to her mother.

 

[vi edit]

After having a newborn in the house for close to 7 weeks I have newfound respect for my Grandparents. They had 7 kids in 11 years.

After the 4 hour marathon sessions of fussing and full out crying I've had to endure... I have to commend them for not killing themselves or one of their kids in those 12 years or so of having an infant in home.

 

[dakels]

I had to post this :laugh:

A mother was working in the kitchen listening to her 5-year-old son playing with his new electric train in the living room. She heard the train stop and her son saying, "All of you sons of bitches who want off, get the hell off now...because this is the last stop! And all of you sons of bitches who are getting on, get your asses in the train...because we're going down the tracks."

The horrified mother went in and told her son, "We don't use that kind of language in this house. Now I want you to go to your room and you are to stay there for TWO HOURS. When you come out, you may play with your train .... but I want you to use nice language."

Two hours later, the son came out of the bedroom and resumed playing with his train. Soon the train stopped and the mother heard her son say..."All passengers, please remember your things, thank you and hope your trip was a pleasant one. We hope you will ride with us again soon."

She heard her little darling continue..."For those of you just boarding, remember, there is no smoking in the train. We hope you will have a pleasant and relaxing journey with us today."

As the mother began to smile, the child added, "For those of you who are pissed off about the TWO HOUR delay.....please see the bitch in the kitchen...."

 

[Hyperlite]

Originally posted by: dakels
I had to post this :laugh:

A mother was working in the kitchen listening to her 5-year-old son playing with his new electric train in the living room. She heard the train stop and her son saying, "All of you sons of bitches who want off, get the hell off now...because this is the last stop! And all of you sons of bitches who are getting on, get your asses in the train...because we're going down the tracks."

The horrified mother went in and told her son, "We don't use that kind of language in this house. Now I want you to go to your room and you are to stay there for TWO HOURS. When you come out, you may play with your train .... but I want you to use nice language."

Two hours later, the son came out of the bedroom and resumed playing with his train. Soon the train stopped and the mother heard her son say..."All passengers, please remember your things, thank you and hope your trip was a pleasant one. We hope you will ride with us again soon."

She heard her little darling continue..."For those of you just boarding, remember, there is no smoking in the train. We hope you will have a pleasant and relaxing journey with us today."

As the mother began to smile, the child added, "For those of you who are pissed off about the TWO HOUR delay.....please see the bitch in the kitchen...."

hahaaha :laugh:

 

[legoman666]

Originally posted by: dakels
I had to post this :laugh:

A mother was working in the kitchen listening to her 5-year-old son playing with his new electric train in the living room. She heard the train stop and her son saying, "All of you sons of bitches who want off, get the hell off now...because this is the last stop! And all of you sons of bitches who are getting on, get your asses in the train...because we're going down the tracks."

The horrified mother went in and told her son, "We don't use that kind of language in this house. Now I want you to go to your room and you are to stay there for TWO HOURS. When you come out, you may play with your train .... but I want you to use nice language."

Two hours later, the son came out of the bedroom and resumed playing with his train. Soon the train stopped and the mother heard her son say..."All passengers, please remember your things, thank you and hope your trip was a pleasant one. We hope you will ride with us again soon."

She heard her little darling continue..."For those of you just boarding, remember, there is no smoking in the train. We hope you will have a pleasant and relaxing journey with us today."

As the mother began to smile, the child added, "For those of you who are pissed off about the TWO HOUR delay.....please see the bitch in the kitchen...."

I lol'ed. Nice.

 

[rocadelpunk]

lmao

 

[JJChicken]

Originally posted by: Hyperlite

Originally posted by: dakels
I had to post this :laugh:

A mother was working in the kitchen listening to her 5-year-old son playing with his new electric train in the living room. She heard the train stop and her son saying, "All of you sons of bitches who want off, get the hell off now...because this is the last stop! And all of you sons of bitches who are getting on, get your asses in the train...because we're going down the tracks."

The horrified mother went in and told her son, "We don't use that kind of language in this house. Now I want you to go to your room and you are to stay there for TWO HOURS. When you come out, you may play with your train .... but I want you to use nice language."

Two hours later, the son came out of the bedroom and resumed playing with his train. Soon the train stopped and the mother heard her son say..."All passengers, please remember your things, thank you and hope your trip was a pleasant one. We hope you will ride with us again soon."

She heard her little darling continue..."For those of you just boarding, remember, there is no smoking in the train. We hope you will have a pleasant and relaxing journey with us today."

As the mother began to smile, the child added, "For those of you who are pissed off about the TWO HOUR delay.....please see the bitch in the kitchen...."

hahaaha :laugh:

rofl too good