Baby talk.. Having problems with my 1 y.o sleeping

[Kneedragger]

Since she was 4 months old she was sleeping from 630pm - 6am about. Maybe once a week she would wake up in the middle of the night and we wouldnt have a problem getting her back to sleep. She just turned a year on 1/17 and has been teething for a while. Right now she has I think 2 teeth left that are breaking through.

I would say for the last month she will wake up almost every other night and fight sleeping the whole night. She will calm down and start sleeping with me while on the couch but the second I try to put her in her bed she goes crazy crying. Last night I was up with her from 1230-330 and fell a sleep on me till my work alarm went off at 445 am.

When the teething started our Pediatrician recommended Tylenol so we have been using that at night but I think we need to try something else if it is the teething..

Also my wife doesn't want to use Oragel. She works in a dental office and her boss said studies say that the use leads to more pain when the second set of teeth come in.

So... You think this is a teething issue or a phase she might be going through that is unrelated to teething?

What worked for you if you went through this?

Thanks

 

[highland145]

She will calm down and start sleeping with me while on the couch but the second I try to put her in her bed she goes crazy crying.

STOP THIS. My kid had colic and we held him a lot. He trained us pretty well. It took some tough love to break him from that. The wife went out of town for 5 days.:sneaky:

As far as the teething, I'd try the cool teething rings.


Different end but Flanders, FTW.

 

[NutBucket]

Our daughter likes ice cubes. Yeah, choking hazard, etc. but she's fine. Probably kid dependent too. She's tough!

 

[purbeast0]

this sounds like a normal phase for a 1yr old. my son is 10.5 months and he will go a few nights sleeping the whole night then he will go a night where he is up at 2am or 3am. hell last night he got up at 3am and wouldn't go back to sleep and it was annoying as shit. i'm tired as hell today.

he has only had his 2 bottom teeth come in but we think his top ones are starting. we had good results with oragel and used that routinely, as well as sometimes tylenol. we do have some of those teething rings that he likes and those mum chew snacks seem to help when teething too.

 

[lxskllr]

My daughter went through teething pretty well, but wasn't a fan of going to bed. I'd put her down, and if she howled more than 20 minutes, I'd spend some time with her, then try again. Usually she cried herself to sleep. If not, I'd assume she wasn't tired enough. Worked pretty well.

 

[Aharami]

do yourself a favor and stop picking up your child as soon as she starts crying. Don't let her cry for a long time, but give her 5-10 mins to see if she calms down on her own

 

[Sho'Nuff]

My condolences. As a parent of two I know all to well what you are going through.

As others mentioned - try cold teething rings. And stop holding your kid all the time. They learn fast that if you hold them every time they cry, they will cry all the time.
It sucks to let them "cry it out" for a few days. But in the end it is worth it.

 

[iamwiz82]

For our 6-month-old we let him cry for 5-10 minutes. About half the time he self soothes. Beyond that we go in and place a hand on his chest/back or head his head and then leave. Only once have we had to pick him up and that was a day he had what we assume was a bellyache.

 

[chitwood]

You need to sleep train your kid. iamwiz touched on it:

For our 6-month-old we let him cry for 5-10 minutes. About half the time he self soothes. Beyond that we go in and place a hand on his chest/back or head his head and then leave. Only once have we had to pick him up and that was a day he had what we assume was a bellyache.

Ours was about 10 months old when we started. He got up in the middle of the night quite abit, we had to go in there, get him out of the crib, rock him back to sleep, and put him, sleeping, back into his crib. Sometimes it took 30 mins, sometimes it took 2 hours (omg). Now he's sleep trained, we put him in his crib awake and he puts himself to sleep. He's 14 months now, and I think he's woken up in the middle of the night ONCE since.

Basically you put him to bed awake, he'll lose his mind, but you only go in there at timed intervals, and all you do is lay them back down and soothe them a bit, then leave. It took about 4-5 days before he was trained. Yes it was so tough just sitting in the bedroom listening to your baby have a meltdown in their room while you count the seconds to go in, but they sleep better, and are happier babies overall once they're trained.

 

[IronWing]

Do they make infant cancelling headphones?

 

[lxskllr]

Do they make infant cancelling headphones?

I don't like headphones, but a decent stereo will drown them out :^P

That's not really facetious. Being "quiet" for the kids is counterproductive. Make noise, and do what you usually do. They need to get used to it, and will.

 

[dank69]

Just a minor suggestion and I don't know if it will help all that much but infant advil will last a little longer than the tylenol. Ours would at least let us put her in the crib once she fell asleep on my wife.

 

[NutBucket]

I don't like headphones, but a decent stereo will drown them out :^P

That's not really facetious. Being "quiet" for the kids is counterproductive. Make noise, and do what you usually do. They need to get used to it, and will.

Agreed completely.

 

[Kneedragger]

STOP THIS. My kid had colic and we held him a lot. He trained us pretty well. It took some tough love to break him from that. The wife went out of town for 5 days.:sneaky:

As far as the teething, I'd try the cool teething rings.


Different end but Flanders, FTW.

Yeah she had Colic for a month straight at about 2-3 months. Asked our Pediatrician when we can let her start to cry it out and she gave us the green light to start with short amounts of time. So I am trying to keep from falling in this trap again.

 

[Kneedragger]

Our daughter likes ice cubes. Yeah, choking hazard, etc. but she's fine. Probably kid dependent too. She's tough!

Yeah we tried the frozen toys and she doesnt care for any of that stuff. She will chew on her plastic toys but that is about it..

 

[Kneedragger]

this sounds like a normal phase for a 1yr old. my son is 10.5 months and he will go a few nights sleeping the whole night then he will go a night where he is up at 2am or 3am. hell last night he got up at 3am and wouldn't go back to sleep and it was annoying as shit. i'm tired as hell today.

he has only had his 2 bottom teeth come in but we think his top ones are starting. we had good results with oragel and used that routinely, as well as sometimes tylenol. we do have some of those teething rings that he likes and those mum chew snacks seem to help when teething too.

Well Im hoping this ends soon. I can deal with it but my wife is about 4 months pregnant and she is burned out.

 

[highland145]

Well Im hoping this ends soon. I can deal with it but my wife is about 4 months pregnant and she is burned out.

Yeah, my folks didn't know what cause us either. I'll be 52 next month, my sis 53 and my bro 54 until July.


And a 2nd plug...lol...for the Flanders.
http://www.flandersbuttocksointment.com/

 

[Kneedragger]

do yourself a favor and stop picking up your child as soon as she starts crying. Don't let her cry for a long time, but give her 5-10 mins to see if she calms down on her own

Very true. If she cries now for not getting her way I just walk away or put her down. She has also become more of a cry baby lately so Im really trying hard to not let her get away with too much.

 

[Kneedragger]

Just a minor suggestion and I don't know if it will help all that much but infant advil will last a little longer than the tylenol. Ours would at least let us put her in the crib once she fell asleep on my wife.

Will look into this, thanks for the info.

 

[skimple]

Do you have music in her room? One of our boys would scream bloody murder for hours until we put an ipod with a speaker in there. I know other people have used white noise generators, but we found that soft, easy listening music would put him to sleep.

 

[glenn1]

Might just be a function of the separation anxiety that's common around that age. Kid wakes up, sees you aren't there, and bam! You might want to also consider what factors might be waking her up - maybe adjust feeding before bedtime, use nighttime diapers if you aren't already, adjust the thermostat, etc.

 

[Kneedragger]

Do you have music in her room? One of our boys would scream bloody murder for hours until we put an ipod with a speaker in there. I know other people have used white noise generators, but we found that soft, easy listening music would put him to sleep.

We have been using a white noise app for her since she was born. We do it low to kind of help with the noise neighbors make in our apartment at night. Its on kind of low for a couple hours.

Willing to try some music instead.. What do I have to lose at this point lol.

 

[Kneedragger]

Might just be a function of the separation anxiety that's common around that age. Kid wakes up, sees you aren't there, and bam! You might want to also consider what factors might be waking her up - maybe adjust feeding before bedtime, use nighttime diapers if you aren't already, adjust the thermostat, etc.

I have also thought about that being the case some times but with what's been going on lately Im just not sure..

We have been sticking to the same night time schedule for almost 8 months. We have even upped her bed time bottle amount.

The one thing that has changed is her food. After she hit 1 we went from formula to whole milk and trying to get her on adult food. She has never been a big eater...

A little background on her that might not matter but I'll mention it.

- Born a month early with a lot of complications.
- Stayed in NICU for 10 days
- born at 3lb 10oz
- Right now under 20lbs

Besides all that she is normal and healthy. Been sleeping in her own room at 5 or 6 months.

Shes standing, crawling and bables all day long. Plus she can play by herself with her toys for 15 minutes without needing much attention..

Cant complain but just getting burned out right now. Been working 7 days a week too..

Heres a picture of my little girl.
http://imgur.com/FXqLmow

 

[notposting]

During peak break through days, we will do some Tylenol or Advil (try alternating them as well), but with very small spot dose of Orajel for the immediate relief, the longer term pain med then helping to hold them under control for the night. The cold/warm rings we reserve for daytime generally.

Then again, we've co-slept and go for the no-cry methods, so even at their worst don't think it's ever been that bad for us. Our five year old sleeps the night through in the kids room, and our two year old starts nights off in there - makes it through most times but if he gets fully awake and upset we just bring him into our room. He is still getting molars in...and the newborn should be kicking off a fresh teething spree by summer time. *doh*

edit: oh, tittay juice for long time. We didn't finish weaning the first two until sometime after 2 years old. Introduced cereals at maybe 4-5-6 months whatever, and then more more more food.

 

[SSSnail]

Sometimes, you'd just have to learn to ignore the crying. Make sure the baby isn't hungry, isn't soiled, isn't sick, and there's nothing you have to worry about that you have to touch him/her every time he/she makes noise.

My wife does that, and now I'm trying to undo all of it. My 16 1/2 months old son doesn't act up if he's just in a room with me. If he senses my wife in the room, his behavior flips 180.

It's difficult at first, but it's better for you both in the long run. Toughen up.