Last night I found out one of my old friends died of a heroin overdose a few weeks ago... I was unaware he had a problem.
Haven't seen him in nearly 10 years. Been maybe 4 or 5 years since we last spoke.
First time one of my friends died. It feels weird. And makes me realize, damn I'm getting old.
One of the very few people that I had considered part of my inner circle.
Despite our completely different personalities, we got along really well. One of the very few people that could deal with my frustrating asshole weirdo personality and accept it.
Despite our lack of communication in the past however many years, it still makes me feel a little more alone.
We never had a falling out, but after he moved out of town our paths went in different directions & lost contact.
Last I spoke to him, he had just turned 21. I told him we should hang out some time & gave him my number. Never heard from him or saw him appear on aim again after that.
I couldn't remember how he spelled his first name, or what his last name was, so I couldn't really seek him out on social networks.
Some time last year was first time he appeared on the map again after however many years. My mom ran into his mom at some party. A part of me told me I should request for my mom to get his information so I could get back in contact with him. But I also had many of my own issues I was trying to resolve, without more stuff to be put into the mix.
With me being drug-free, I probably would have found out he was on dope, then went right back to keeping to myself anyway...
I almost feel I should have actively reached out & there may have been a very minimal slight chance we could have helped each other. Although those around him were in much more competent position than I was in to help him & you can't help someone who doesn't want the help, or to help themselves.
For many years, a part of me has kept telling myself I should go to his house one of these days. But I wasn't sure if I was welcome. Didn't know if he had moved, or his family moved. Didn't really want to put myself in an awkward position more than I already do.
I'm contemplating on driving over there when I get off work to talk to his parents, find out about what was going on with him in past years & catch up. Or would that be too weird, and/or too soon?
Hmm...