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ATOT: Help needed! I'm the best man at a wedding...

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Ok, depending on what the bride and groom are like, i would heed some of this advise.

Its one thing if they are jokesters, but if both or one of them are not into jokes, it will not be funny if you hand the minister anything but the acutal ring.

Also, really ask him how he feels about stripper for the bathlor party. Its better that you know ahead of time...just in case.

I think its a cute idea however that when you start the speech, before they arrive, quietly give ALL the women at the wedding a key. dont tell them what its for, just hand them out and tell them when you ask for the key that tehy bring it up to you.

When you start the speech, say something like, "i am so happy that so-and-so has finally found THE girl. Unfortunalty, that means all the ladies that still have a key to his apartment/house, please give them up now..."

Its funny seeing all the women walking up and handing in their keys. its even better when you see the OLD laides giving keys too!

other than that, be there for him, help him with his tux, and truly be sincere when you give the speech!

Good luck!
 
How can every best-man give a good speech? That sounds like impossible odds. I mean, most people arn't even good speakers. What gives.
 
Originally posted by: MadCowDisease
Don't get freaky with the bride.
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No, but it's manadatory to get freaky with the maid of honor.

As best man you must:

1) Plan the bachelor party. Use common sense, if the father of the bride is a minister hookers would be a bad idea.

2) Give a good speech. Be witty, be sincere and most of all, be brief.

3) Keep the groom occupied before the wedding. If it's a morning or noon wedding that's not an issue. For a late afternoon or early evening wedding you need to have a days activities planned. Take him to play golf, go to a ballgame, shoot pool, a nice brothel, whatever. Time things so that you're rushing to get dressed and to the church before the ceremony starts. DO NOT allow him time to sit around and think.

4) Nail as many bridesmaids as possible. A combination of open bar, ugly dresses they can't wait to get out of and a general feeling of romantic goodwill and eternal married bliss make bridesmaids a really easy target.

5) Tip the altar boys. Give each one $20, they're giving up their free time to help out on the wedding.

6) Try to take as much pressure off the bride and groom as possible. Deal with little problems so they don't have to.
 
Originally posted by: skace
How can every best-man give a good speech? That sounds like impossible odds. I mean, most people arn't even good speakers. What gives.
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i don't think they have to be a professional speaker to give a good speech.
a good speech comes from the heart. the only speeches that are not good is if the BM is drunk off his a$$ and says something utterly horrifying like about a past girlfriend or what went on at the batch. party.

If the BM knows anything about the bride and groom and has a history with him, it will be a nice speech
 
Originally posted by: NathanBWF
Also, stag party. Ideas ?!? Again, I've never been to one and have no freakin' idea how to plan one...
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A) Don't call it a stag party.
B) Drink a lot.
C) Go to a strip club.
D) Find transportation so that you can all get drunk and don't have to drive home (Limobus if you've got money, bus if you don't).
E) Let the night unfold.
 
Yeah being as how they plan to have a free bar I figure it would be wise for me to start drinking AFTER I give the speech. I'm a bad enough speaker as is, the last thing I need is to be plastered while trying to give the best speech of my life.

For the bachelor party...I was thinking about skydiving. There is a place around here where you can go for instructions in the morning and jump in the afternoon. I'm kind of leaning away from that though being as it will probably be a lot of $$$, and I also don't want to be responsible for the death of my best friend if something goes wrong 😕. I think that would be pretty cool though...
 
I was best man at my best friend's wedding earlier this year and basically all I had to do was just make sure we were on time and he had all his clothes and all that. One of the groomsmen and I were both from out of town, each more than 10 hours away, so we couldn't do much as far as planning anything. The wedding was in the middle of the semester and I had to miss two days of classes to make it, so I only got there the day before and left the day after. While we were at the rehearsal, I gave input on the logistics of getting people on the altar, etc., nothing major since a lot of it was already planned. We hung out at his apartment the night before, played games and goofed off. The next day, I just made sure that he had all the stuff he needed for the wedding and after. Really that was about it. Basically just looking out for him while he was busy with all the other things associated with the wedding. They said I did a good job even though I really didn't have a lot to do.
 
Originally posted by: Lola
I think its a cute idea however that when you start the speech, before they arrive, quietly give ALL the women at the wedding a key. dont tell them what its for, just hand them out and tell them when you ask for the key that tehy bring it up to you.

When you start the speech, say something like, "i am so happy that so-and-so has finally found THE girl. Unfortunalty, that means all the ladies that still have a key to his apartment/house, please give them up now..."

Its funny seeing all the women walking up and handing in their keys. its even better when you see the OLD laides giving keys too!
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Yeah it's all fun and games until you give a key to his mom, grandma, and sister.
 
When I was best man I took the Groom to a "Dungeon room". We had two Dominatrixes dressed in some rather sensational leather outfits. To cut a long story short the groom ended up in a french maids outfit, one of the guests ended up being stretched on "the rack", another was hanging from the ceiling and I ended up being tied to a wooden cross.

Poor chap, he had a hard time sitting down during the reception from all of the butt-whipping. 😀

I realise that not everyone would enjoy such a night, but it was unique!

As for the speech, the other groomsman and I wrote a humerous poem about the groom and made this the centrepiece of the speech. I had the audience in the palm of my hand. If you are able to write poetry (or know someone that would be willing to) I recommend this highly.
 
I was best man at my buddy's wedding (he was also best man at mine heh) but i just had to make sure he got to the church on time (though i did tell my wife, who was a bridesmaid that we were out golfing with an hour until the service), the bachelor party (rather dull. he didn't want strippers or nothing..ok his wife didn't) and gave a speech.

For the speech i did a search on the INTERNET and modified it.
 
Originally posted by: LarryS
Two responsibilities:

Bachelor Party & Best Man's Speech

Make them both worth remembering and you did a good job.
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It's also the Best Man's job to make sure your friend doesn't forget things like the rings and works to solve any last minute details (and there will be a LOT of them) and to help out with all the mindless errands that will need to be done before the wedding.

Bit of advice - there are only two opinions that count worth a damn at the wedding: the bride's and the bride's mother's. If you know what's good for you, do NOT ofer any opinion on any topic - especially if both families are involved.

Oh, make sure you have some aspirin on you (LOTS of people will be stressed) and if you happen to have a flask, fill it and bring it (it works wonders to calm last minute nerves). You'll probably be an official witness when the licence is signed, so make sure you have your ID on you (some pastors ask for it, some don't).

Dave
(I've survived 9 weddings, 4 of them as best man)
 
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