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ATOT folks, help me to decide, should I leave or stay?

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DaWhim

Lifer
a "friend"* of mine come to visit me and his friends from california. I promised him to bring him to toronto and new york city.

* he is an online friend whom I met 2 years ago when I when to south cal. he was in the same school as my other online friend.

he arrived in buffalo and I met him again in the airport 2 days ago. then I drove him up here to toronto yesterday. he has friends here that will take care of him.(his friends have no car tho).
right now, we are staying in a hotel. his snoring is too loud that I can't even sleep. I had no problem last night because I drank.

today, I think he changed after I met his other friends. I got no respect from him and I felt like I got yelled at when I talk to him. today, on the way back to the hotel, we didn't speak a word. he trested me more like a driver for him in here. I actually felt WTF when he expected me to pick up his friends without asking me when we were planning what to do tomorrow.
the conversation was like this.

after some talking...
me: I have to pick up your friend too? 😕
him: yea, of course you have to pick her up.
me: ok... :disgust:
(i didn't want to raise my voice and argue with him. we were at his other friends' house and their parents were sleeping.)

I just don't think I can take his attitude anymore. his snores too. 🙁

we live in a very different world. he has his parents pay for everything and I buy everything with my own money. I don't even ask my parents for money. we don't really speak the same language, I have no interest in the things that he interests like drinking and clubbing. maybe I am too antisocial.

should I leave him the money for the hotel, a note with reasons why I leave or stay? he will has his flight in buffalo on 1/3/05 tho. he will be screwed if I left him here. but I don't want to be treated like a driver.

no, this is not a parody. we are just friends that may not see again. maybe I am too nice. I could make him pay for the hotel and stuffs, since I really don't have to be here.

cliffs:
a "friend" come from california
we are in toronto and he treated me worse than a friend.
should I be a jerk and leave or stay? I will have to hangout with him and bring him around till 1/3/05 when he go back to cali. or should I leave?
 
Man, if you invited him up here, with the understanding that you will help him get to his exit flight, then you have a responsibility to follow through with your word.

If you strand him, you will be an asshole.

It's your choice:
If you are fed up, and want to screw him, do it. Revenge can be sweet. And VIA rail goes to buffalo, with a short layover in Aldershot.
If you want to be the bigger man, you should drive him back to catch his flight.

Do you live in NY City, or in Buffalo, or elsewhere? What are the logistics like?
Did you plan to spend New Years in T.O. or NY? Wait, I just answered my own question on that, I think. If I had the choice, I know where I'd be.

 
I don't get enough fed up yet, but I guess I would be after tomorrow. I will probably stay one more day in here to see how it goes with him.
 
First thing you need to do is be a man.

after some talking...
me: I have to pick up your friend too?
him: yea, of course you have to pick her up.
me: uhh no I don't.
him: yes you do.
me: you wanna walk back to Buffalo?
him: ok no you don't

Get another room by yourself until you get him back to the airport.

🙂
 
Originally posted by: Ryuson99
Originally posted by: bockchow
i say cut it off and tell him no more butt sex until he starts treating you like a lady again.
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Well now..now...wait...now...wait..now just hold on one minute there son..that doesn;t make a lick of sense?!
 
Should I stay or should I go now?
Should I stay or should I go now?
If I go there will be trouble
An' if I stay it will be double
So come on and let me know
 
You are not responsible for him. Go ahead and do whatever you want. You're being taken advantage of big time.

If you're not happy sharing a hotel room with him, then stop. You don't owe him a thing.

His return flight isn't until 1/03/05? Leave him. Go live your life. Give him advice as to how to get to the airport by himself, if you're feeling guilty.

What a leech.
 
I know this is probably a "girl" thing to do, but I think you should talk to him about it. He might not realize that his actions have changed due to someone else. Also, he needs to know that he should ask you before making plans. It is not your responsiblity to pick up someone else, unless you have already agreed to do it. If he blows you off and decides to continue to act like an ass, then leave. I wouldn't leave without discussing it with him and giving him another chance though.


: ) Amanda
 
Originally posted by: DaWhim

no, this is not a parody. we are just friends that may not see again. maybe I am too nice. I could make him pay for the hotel and stuffs, since I really don't have to be here.
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Sounds like you're just weak.
 
I'm with Amanda. Talk to him about it. But some people are just plain fvcking rude. If he gets all up in your face and p!ssy about it leave the f0cker. If he didn't know what he was doing and such then things should be better.

Koing
 
I would leave money for your share of the hotel and peace. What is he going to do to you?

He can rent a car or take a bus to Buffalo to catch a flight.

R
 
I do not understand, if you are from Toronto and that is where you are now, why are you staying in a hotel with him?

If you are from Buffalo, but just planned a trip to Toronto, you can either be up front about the behavior, or just learn to live with it. Snoring is bad but not really a deal breaker for just the week or so.

Treating you bad, that should really come to an end. Why don't you strand him for awhile and maybe he will appreciate you and your car more. Not for a long time, just like an attention-getting stint of no transportation.
 
Originally posted by: Kibbo
Man, if you invited him up here, with the understanding that you will help him get to his exit flight, then you have a responsibility to follow through with your word.
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it was also an understanding that he would be treated as a friend and not just some driver.

i sa get up and get the F out. leave him your share of the hotel money and a note.
 
confront him in a civil manner about being a dick. at least give him the benefit of the doubt. that may just be his way, and hes not trying to be offensive. kind of hard to conver your true personality over the internet.

if hes still a dick about it, leave his ass. no reason to put up with that.

altho the snoring should be a non-issue. hes asleep, whats he supposed to do about that?
 
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