ATOT Consensus needed! Cheating neighbor with a deployed spouse

[classy]

Its none of your bleeping business.

 

[JackBurton]

Originally posted by: IAteYourMother
do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Or, do unto others as they have done unto you. I like that one better.

 

[TehMac]

Why is everyone saying MYOB? The man has a right to know. You guys are a bunch of sad sacks who say that, and I daresay hypocrites as well.

 

[Dr. Detroit]

Pics?

ANd how you know they don;t have an open relationship where they allowed to fvck whoever they please?

Mind your own damn business and stay the fock out of other peoples lives. Damn drama queen looking into everyones elses lives to stir up trouble.

 

[Insane3D]

This thread is going places...

 

[Safeway]

Originally posted by: Insane3D
This thread is going places...

Yea, going with the MYOBers to hell.

 

[LordMaul]

I wouldn't tell him, for this simple reason: He is out in the desert, in a country where people are constantly trying to kill him, while the people back home squabble about whether or not he should even be there. Do you need to take away his last solid reason (aside from basic self-preservation) to do his job to the fullest and get home safely? What would YOU do if you suddenly found out that there's nothing but a cheating whore for a wife and a bunch of drama waiting for you when you get back home?

Consider that.

 

[HardcoreRobot]

Originally posted by: TehMac
Why is everyone saying MYOB? The man has a right to know. You guys are a bunch of sad sacks who say that, and I daresay hypocrites as well.

The man does have the right to know.

But that has nothing to do with the neighbor, and he should MYOB

 

[MikeyIs4Dcats]

take a picture of them holding hands from a "generic" location
put picture in envelope with note saying "Do I have to tell him or will you?"
put envelope on front porch

 

[Shadowknight]

Either talk to him or have your wife take a pic the next time she sees this guy around or he's holding her hand, that way if you want to go the anonymous route you can just send the pics to the guy. If I were married and I was getting cheated on, I'd definetly want to know.

 

[Soybomb]

Its none of your business, butt out. For all you know they have an open marriage but its none of your business either way.

 

[AnyMal]

Like the others said, MYOB. Besides, it doesn't sound like you have any concrete evidence other then your suspicions.

 

[Feldenak]

Originally posted by: BigJ
I'd normally say MYOB, but this situation just really rubs me the wrong way.

 

[Praxis1452]

do it but anonymously. as said before

 

[allisolm]

You get to tell him what you "think" happened as long as you promise to go to the wife of each guy you "think" cheated on her while he was deployed and tell her about it.

 

[AndrewR]

Originally posted by: dmcowen674

Originally posted by: AndrewR

[/b]CLIFF'S[/b]:
1) Wife of military officer who is deployed appears to be cheating.
2) What would you do?

What do you think?

I'd like her number :thumbsup:

No, you wouldn't. Trust me: :thumbsdown:

 

[Muadib]

Originally posted by: waggy
MYOB

 

[AndrewR]

Originally posted by: AnyMal
Like the others said, MYOB. Besides, it doesn't sound like you have any concrete evidence other then your suspicions.

True, I have no concrete evidence because I haven't taken pictures inside the bedroom or anything. I also haven't made any detailed observation about what's going on only incidental pieces of information that I (or my wife) happen to see.

 

[DrPizza]

Tough call... I'd support either decision.

 

[dartworth]

Yes, I would mind your own business...

 

[KK]

Originally posted by: Safeway
This MYOB bullshit is just that, bullshit.

How can you tell the OP to not say anything? Would all of you 'MYOB' posters really NOT want to know if your wife or your husband was fvcking someone else behind your back? Yea right. Don't give sh!tty advice to other people.

As I said before, the OP should definitely step in and do something about the situation. He is out of the country, and his wife has totally fvcked their marriage up, and I don't think it is fair to the husband to continue on without knowing his wife is a heartless whore.

I agree. If my wife was getting it up the ass, I'd like to know, and I wouldn't care who it came from.

 

[txrandom]

I'd want to know if my wife was cheating on me. I'd do it.

 

[blurredvision]

Originally posted by: Safeway
This MYOB bullshit is just that, bullshit.

How can you tell the OP to not say anything? Would all of you 'MYOB' posters really NOT want to know if your wife or your husband was fvcking someone else behind your back? Yea right. Don't give sh!tty advice to other people.

As I said before, the OP should definitely step in and do something about the situation. He is out of the country, and his wife has totally fvcked their marriage up, and I don't think it is fair to the husband to continue on without knowing his wife is a heartless whore.

Agreed. :thumbsup:

 

[moshquerade]

anonymously spill the beans.

 

[TanisHalfElven]

Originally posted by: Presence
People saying that you should MYOB has no freaking clue.

I would defintely tell him. Especially if she is freaking dumb enough to go out in public view holding hands with this "other guy" or showing any type of public affection. Since you dont really know him I would go with the idea of taking pictures of them and giving them to him.

Absolutely no one who risks his life in a foreign country and whos only comfort while deployed is a loved one and someone to go home to, should go on believing that she is a faithful and devoted person to him.

edit - With that being said. I know when I was deployed I saw plenty of husbands cheating on their wives overseas. So who knows maybe she is getting back at him =/

on that same note. by telling him you effectively ruin his marriage, ruin his possible family and ruin his chance to enjoy some needed sex after he comes home. you effectively make him unhappy by doing this.