At what point does it become okay to hit a woman back?

[silent tone]

Originally posted by: DAGTA
To everyone saying call the police:

The police have only one rule, arrest the man. If the woman is hitting the man, the man gets arrested. Women never get in trouble for their domestic violence.

That's pretty much the rule, so no matter what is justified, you have to make your decision expecting jail time.

I did see 1 episode of COPS where the woman was arrested while the man was free. He admitted to hitting her and she admitted to attacking him with a knife. He had a few nicks too.

 

[topslop1]

Originally posted by: RyanSengara

Originally posted by: MustangSVT
I think your action was justified. slap that bitch! she was begging for it.

I dont like to hit women, but if she gets in my face over and over like that, that leaves me no choice.

Yeah I never liked the girl. She's a real brat.

You know what the worst thing was, when the police came they told me I was wrong.

After I punched the girl 2 guys came over and kicked my ass pretty bad because I punched a girl.

No backstory.

Lift more weights and get huge so you can beat the two guys up as well. Sorry to hear you got your ass beat.

 

[Lucky]

I was expelled from a public HS after I punched a girl in the eye. She was fighting over me with another girl, they had gone rounds in the school hall earlier, punching, pulling hair. Later, as I was leaving with the other girl, the second one came up behind us and was screaming, I think she shoved me or her, can't recall exactly. Told her to bug off, and we started walked up a flight of stairs. The girl I was walking with got a kick to the backside, so I turned around and cocked the other one right in the eye.

 

[Tobolo]

Originally posted by: RyanSengara
Last night I went to the club with my girlfriend and some of her friends and a friend of mine. Later on in the evening we'd all had a fair amount to drink, at which point my girlfriend hits me jokingly, and i hit her back.. jokingly.

Next thing I know her 3 female friends start punching me, seriously. They weren't joking. At which point I start losing my cool, me and my buddy walk outside. Take a breather, the club was closing anyhow.

I start to kinda get angry when I see these two guys going after my girl, so obviously I'm not so happy about this. Go back to my car, grab my jacket and meet her in front of her friends place that we're meeting up at afterwards.

I see my girlfriend go up the elevator, I call her and tell her I need her to come down I have to talk to her about her friends hitting me.

She AND one of her friends come down, I tell my girlfriend that there is one thing in life that I won't take and that's being hit by anyone, especially a woman because I hate the double standard of not being able to hit back. I also told her I think her friend is a B1TCH for thinking she can get away with hitting me. I was hit by my parents as a kid, I promised myself it would never happen again, by anybody.

At which point she comes outside and starts giving me sh1t and starts getting physical, after 4 or 5 minutes of being pushed, prodded and punched, I finally turn around and trip the girl, tell her to get the fvck away from me because I'm not her punching bag and that this is between me and my girlfriend.

At which point she punches me in the face, the gloves are off now. I turn around and punch her as hard as I could, a pretty good haymaker, to the face.

So.. at which point does it become okay for a guy to defend himself? Seriously, how many punches before the double standard gets to go out the window?

Cliffs notes:

Read the fvcking post

Now obviously I feel ****** about it, but my question is

edit: For the record, I have two black eyes, stitches above one ete, and a bruised right cheek, I was spitting blood.

File Assualt charges. Seems like you have proof.

FYI YOU GOT BEAT BY A GIRL!!!

 

[Dumac]

Originally posted by: Lucky
I was expelled from a public HS after I punched a girl in the eye. She was fighting over me with another girl, they had gone rounds in the school hall earlier, punching, pulling hair. Later, as I was leaving with the other girl, the second one came up behind us and was screaming, I think she shoved me or her, can't recall exactly. Told her to bug off, and we started walked up a flight of stairs. The girl I was walking with got a kick to the backside, so I turned around and cocked the other one right in the eye.

A couple got caught having sex in my school; the girl was suspended for only 2 days and the guy was expelled.

Just adding to the double standards.

 

[ta8689]

Call her and tell her to go die somewhere. Btw... you shoulda smashed that bitch into next thursday. I hate the double standard. They dont want equality.. they want dominance. I believe that is what they have by law.

 

[Finalnight]

3 strikes rule

1st hit-Warning
2nd hit-Physical Restraint with warning
3rd hit-Hit her so hard she goes lesbo

 

[silverpig]

You guys in this thread who are all saying he's in the right for decking her have something wrong with you. It's not a men/women equality issue. It's a matter of him being physically stronger than her. If a kid comes up and kicks you, does that give you the okay to beat the sh!t out of him? He should have done a little better to restrain the girl. He hit her out of anger and stupidity and ended up getting his ass kicked because of it.

 

[Ricemarine]

Originally posted by: silverpig
You guys in this thread who are all saying he's in the right for decking her have something wrong with you. It's not a men/women equality issue. It's a matter of him being physically stronger than her. If a kid comes up and kicks you, does that give you the okay to beat the sh!t out of him? He should have done a little better to restrain the girl. He hit her out of anger and stupidity and ended up getting his ass kicked because of it.

edit: For the record, I have two black eyes, stitches above one ete, and a bruised right cheek, I was spitting blood.

He got his ass kicked before he haymakered her...

I find it justified.

Plus asian women find that in America, they can go in your face and give you bull...
Woo. At least from my experience... They're just waiting for you to hit them so they can be shocked and either...

1) Call the police
2) Deny the charges if someone else calls the police
3) Don't say squat.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: silverpig
You guys in this thread who are all saying he's in the right for decking her have something wrong with you. It's not a men/women equality issue. It's a matter of him being physically stronger than her. If a kid comes up and kicks you, does that give you the okay to beat the sh!t out of him? He should have done a little better to restrain the girl. He hit her out of anger and stupidity and ended up getting his ass kicked because of it.

unfortunately you speak from lack of experience or stupidity.

No need to beat teh sh!t out of someone, but if someone strikes me hard enough I will hit back.

a few guys can try and jump me too.

Å

 

[montanafan]

Originally posted by: NeoAaronX

Originally posted by: MrPickins
I'd like to know the whole story. You seem to come off smelling like a rose in this version.
Based on your previous posts, I'd guess that that was not the case in reality.
Your girlfriend hit you jokingly. Where did you hit her back, and how hard?
How hard did the other girl really hit you? Did you get the cut and black eyes from her, or the guys who kicked your ass?
Did those guys see the whole conflict outside the apt? It seems their opinion was that you took it too far. I'd like to know why they thought that.

Whatever the case is, your girlfriend doesn't care about you. If she did, she would have defended you before the situation escalated.

Yeah,.... doesn't seem like we're getting the full story here.

I mean,... what happened after the police showed up? They told you that you were in the wrong,.... did you go to jail? Did anyone go to jail? Who called the police?

What happened to the two guys that beat your ass? Did they stick around for the police?

Did the two guys see the chick going after you? Punch you in the face?

I dunno,.... sounds like we're missing something.

Arrrrrrggghh! I had a long post about this and when I edited, it all disappeared.


Anyway, I agree with the quotes above. I also agree with the few others who actually read the OP's posts and saw something fishy going on. Several of the things the OP described in the original post and in subsequent ones just don't make any sense.

One of the main things that makes me suspicious is the way he added that part to the OP about how he has two black eyes, stitches above one eye, a bruised right cheek, and was spitting blood, but doesn't mention there that he was beaten up by a guy or guys who saw him hit the girl with the haymaker punch to the face. He's clearly trying to be less than honest about how he got the injuries there just to get sympathy and get responses patting him on the back and telling him that he did the right thing in punching a girl in the face as hard as he could.

In the OP he's trying to make it sound like it was the girls who beat him up. Since he's being misleading in that instance, I wonder what else about that post is not quite the way things really happened.

I'm not going to list all the reasons I did in the earlier post again, but several things he's said makes me believe that he was not a completely innocent victim in all of this as he would have us believe. I think it's more likely that something happened at the club between him and his girlfriend. Perhaps her friends were flirting with the two guys he said he saw "going after" his girlfriend and she was talking to or flirting with them too. He got mad, something took place between him and his girlfriend that upset her friends and made them feel they needed to defend her. That and the fact that she clearly did not want to have anything more to do with him that night made him very angry and that's what led to him punching out a girl, being beaten up by a guy or guys, and getting into trouble with the police.

That's my opinon after reading all of the information he provided about what took place that night.

 

[Bill Brasky]

Anybody that resorts to violence when drunk at the bar is instantly deamed lower on the food chain.

If you really wanted the relationship to last you would've gone home and called her the next day.

 

[alimoalem]

you did the right thing. i think you should've called the cops, too, just so you could "benefit" in a way

 

[silverpig]

Originally posted by: Ricemarine

Originally posted by: silverpig
You guys in this thread who are all saying he's in the right for decking her have something wrong with you. It's not a men/women equality issue. It's a matter of him being physically stronger than her. If a kid comes up and kicks you, does that give you the okay to beat the sh!t out of him? He should have done a little better to restrain the girl. He hit her out of anger and stupidity and ended up getting his ass kicked because of it.

edit: For the record, I have two black eyes, stitches above one ete, and a bruised right cheek, I was spitting blood.

He got his ass kicked before he haymakered her...

I find it justified.

Plus asian women find that in America, they can go in your face and give you bull...
Woo. At least from my experience... They're just waiting for you to hit them so they can be shocked and either...

1) Call the police
2) Deny the charges if someone else calls the police
3) Don't say squat.

Learn to read.

After I punched the girl 2 guys came over and kicked my ass pretty bad because I punched a girl.

He got a girl punch to the face, and some arm shots. He decided this warranted a haymaker as hard as he could.

 

[silverpig]

Originally posted by: alkemyst

Originally posted by: silverpig
You guys in this thread who are all saying he's in the right for decking her have something wrong with you. It's not a men/women equality issue. It's a matter of him being physically stronger than her. If a kid comes up and kicks you, does that give you the okay to beat the sh!t out of him? He should have done a little better to restrain the girl. He hit her out of anger and stupidity and ended up getting his ass kicked because of it.

unfortunately you speak from lack of experience or stupidity.

No need to beat teh sh!t out of someone, but if someone strikes me hard enough I will hit back.

a few guys can try and jump me too.

Å

A girl gave him a few shots. It wouldn't have been that hard for him to grab her, pin her arms behind her and push her up against the wall. Keep in mind that he got his ass kicked BECAUSE he hit the girl back.

 

[jagec]

I would really wonder about the kinds of friends his GF keeps.

Let's reverse the situation...if you were out on the town with some friends of yours and your girlfriend, and one of your friends started hitting her, would you not go straight from friends to enemies at that moment?

The OP's girlfriend wouldn't, apparently. I have serious doubts as to her moral character, if the story is true.

 

[BillyBatson]

wtf "edit: For the record, I have two black eyes, stitches above one ete, and a bruised right cheek, I was spitting blood. " this was from the girls hitting you!? HELL no i might not have hit them espoecially at the beginning but as soon as they hit me anywhere close to hard enough to cause damage like that i would have shoved her to the floor or anything to get her away from me, if she got up to do it again i would let her know i wasn't going to stand for it and i would defend myself, if she continued hell yes i would clock her one if it would be the only way to keep her from hitting me again

 

[AznAnarchy99]

Originally posted by: BillyBatson
wtf "edit: For the record, I have two black eyes, stitches above one ete, and a bruised right cheek, I was spitting blood. " this was from the girls hitting you!? HELL no i might not have hit them espoecially at the beginning but as soon as they hit me anywhere close to hard enough to cause damage like that i would have shoved her to the floor or anything to get her away from me, if she got up to do it again i would let her know i wasn't going to stand for it and i would defend myself, if she continued hell yes i would clock her one if it would be the only way to keep her from hitting me again

no one reads? he got that from getting his ass beat from 2 guys that saw him hit her