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Asian parents, cannot understand them.

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Originally posted by: BamBam215
So I'm 23 and I told them I am moving out to be independent and seek peace and quiet as I finish my last year of college. Their response? Typical Asian parents response trying to make me feel all guilty. My mom said she raised me through all these years and now I'm abandoning her. I'm supposed to be taking care of her. I'm like, "well I can't live with you forever." She said, "well I wanted you to live with me until you're married!"

I just rolled my eyes and wonder how in the world Asian parents EVER develop such mindset.
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Wow, good thing my parents aren't like that. (they're asian)
My parents are making me support myself after high school... though they said I could still live in their house for free if I want... 😀 no rent = good.
 
Originally posted by: PeeluckyDuckee
I'm 24 and still living at home. They're in a crap load of debt, and I'll be sticking around for some time until the debts is more manageable, then I'll be moving out. I wanna move out, but need to be financially stable first, plus I don't want to screw them over financially on such short terms notice. When all's said and done, I'll probably be 27 or 28 before I finally can become independent. For asian families, that's common I think in the eastern world. In the western world though, where its the norm for caucasians to move out after HS or college, we'll prolly get laughed at for being daddy or mommy's little kid 😛 What can I say, you think what you think, I can't change that.

One difference I tend to notice is how the parents are taken care of in the latter years. In NA, it seems ok to have them live by themselves or move them to the seniors citizens home. In asian families, its almost a given the children will take care of them and not mind them taking care of their elderly parents at home. It's an expectation of asians and a given I think.
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So you live with your parents and are helping them pay off their debt?
 
Talk to some of your brother's/sisters, specifically the oldest and ask them what they did.

Oh yeah, you should have moved out after HS.
 
Looking at it in a different perspective, the overprotectiveness of Asian parents helps you gain certain experience and knowledge without paying for it firsthand. There are some things you will definitely need to experience and learn from yourself, but there are other times when you should acknowledge they know much more about life than you do.
 
Originally posted by: BamBam215
So I'm 23 and I told them I am moving out to be independent and seek peace and quiet as I finish my last year of college. Their response? Typical Asian parents response trying to make me feel all guilty. My mom said she raised me through all these years and now I'm abandoning her. I'm supposed to be taking care of her. I'm like, "well I can't live with you forever." She said, "well I wanted you to live with me until you're married!"

I just rolled my eyes and wonder how in the world Asian parents EVER develop such mindset.
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did they pay for your school? just curious.

i can't tell if your post is supposed to be facetious or what because it really isn't hard to see why they would think that... presumably they raised you and poured resources into raising you... i don't think it's unreasonable for them to expect that you stick around and keep them happy. even if you don't agree with it, i don't think it's that hard to see it from their perspective.
 
I can't understand asian parents either.

Too many chings and chongs and weewongfongs. Don't even get the general gist.
 
Originally posted by: Hammyton
You first mistake was not moving after HS 😛

But seriously just be glad your not an asian GIRL (not that I am, but I have friends that are... and all i can say is YEESH)...

Just don't pass on these silly traditions to your kids and the injustice will stop 😛
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Don't remind me.


<-- Chinese gf with "Asian Parents" (and she's 21!!!!)
 
Originally posted by: xchangx
I've had the wonderful experience of telling my parents that I will be marrying a white girl.
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LOL. join the club, man. Good thing i'm 4th gen and my parents aren't too bad. Well, my mom is, but she's psycho. I just nod and smile.

>>I try throwing my high school Spanish at them sometimes, but I don't think they see the humor in it.

LOL. It's like when you're in a store and the person in front of you clearly doesn't understand any english. So the guy or girl behind the counter tries speaking REEEEAAALLY slow and loud, as if that will magically translate the english words into whatever language the customer speaks. It's really funny to watch.

pharmacy clerk: You need to take this with water
customer: no speaka english
pc: umm YOU NEEEEEEED TO TAAAAKKE THIS WITH WAAAAAAATTTTEERRRR!
c: ?
pc: *looks around* SEEE THIIIIIS MEEEEDIIICINE? YOU HAAAAAVE TOOOO DRIIINK WAAAATER WITH IT
 
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