Arrrrrrrgh...kinda long post

[SpiderX]

I broke up with my girlfriend in June for a number of reasons. First and foremost she was cheating on me. Also because for most of it she lived 600kms away. Over the course of our 2+ years relationship I helped her out with some money for tuition, hockey and rent. She always hated accepting it but always promised to pay it back. Well after the break up I mentioned it numerous times to her. She never really gave me a concrete answer on payment.

So a few months go by. She becomes a heinous b!tch and calls me up in October and tells me that she has the clap and she either got it from me or the new guy she's seeing. Well I got tested before we started dating, once while we were dating and after that phone call I got tested again. I'm clean, exactly like I knew I would be. I'm pretty sure the point of the phone call was to let me know she's sleeping with someone else.

Fast forward to today. I hadn't heard from her since that phone call, hadn't seen a cent. So I sent a letter to her Mom. Tell her about the situation and saying that I've been more the patient in waiting almost 9 months and not getting a cent. I told her I would start legal proceedings if I didn't at least get half by Feb, 15th.

today I come home and find a message on my machine from the ex, telling me I should have called her, and that I was being childish. Even though I've made numerous attempts before October ( there is no way I'm going out of my way to make contact with her after the sh!t she pulled)

Could someone please explain to me, how a person could spend 2.5 years with someone, tell them that they will love them forever, promise to pay back money owed and then try and turn it around 9 months later after not even sending a cent. I would have been happy with $100 dollar a month payment. But instead I got nothing. (she owes me $2000)

Am I being a freak? And can someone please explain to me how someone can tell you that they loved you for so long and then try to fsck you over after.

Sorry for the length. I needed to vent.

 

[XMan]

Never mix business relationships with personal relationships.

 

[her209]

That's pretty fvcked up.

 

[AUMM]

damn thats tough, all i can say is take her to court if she doesnt pay

 

[GoingUp]

look at it this way, at least you dont have the clap. You cant put a price on that

 

[newbiepcuser]

Try 7 years and having joint savings account. All the "i love you's" included too. Never saw my half of my money back. Before I left, I built her a Pent 4 rig too. Later on I found a note from the guy that she was interested in her old computer. I say forget about it and let it die. It was around $400.00 bucks for me, so its probably nothing compared to you.

 

[Geekbabe]

If you didn't get a signed note then those things would be considered gifts,particularly if they were spread out over time and not in one lump sum.

 

[Amused]

I hate to say this, but...

Sucker.

Move on and count the money as an expensive fee for a valuable lesson.

 

[no0b]

SpiderX-- sucks but I dont know if you can get any money in court since it was a gift and nothing in writting

Thank you for making paraghraphes (even though I cant spell the word)

 

[Yossarian]

Move on and count the money as an expensive fee for a valuable lesson.

 

[EvilYoda]

Not responding to the rest of your post, I know all too well how it feels to have a g/f of 2.5 years turn on you...last few months of the relationship, she lied to me...but anyway, your thread, not mine

 

[Radiohead]

look at it this way, at least you dont have the clap. You cant put a price on that

haha, I see one of those Mastercard themes coming for this.

Paying for ex g/f's tuition - $1000
Paying for ex's rent - $700
Paying for ex's hockey (?) - $300

Ex getting Gonorrhea while you don't - PRICELESS

 

[SpiderX]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
If you didn't get a signed note then those things would be considered gifts,particularly if they were spread out over time and not in one lump sum.

I realize that, but we both knew that they weren't gifts. I was just helping her out and she always promised to pay me back.

 

[SpiderX]

Originally posted by: Radiohead

look at it this way, at least you dont have the clap. You cant put a price on that

haha, I see one of those Mastercard themes coming for this.

Paying for ex g/f's tuition - $1000
Paying for ex's rent - $700
Paying for ex's hockey (?) - $300

Ex getting Gonorrhea while you don't - PRICELESS

ROFL

Thanks I needed that. hehe

 

[bleeb]

Originally posted by: SpiderX

Originally posted by: Radiohead

look at it this way, at least you dont have the clap. You cant put a price on that

haha, I see one of those Mastercard themes coming for this.

Paying for ex g/f's tuition - $1000
Paying for ex's rent - $700
Paying for ex's hockey (?) - $300

Ex getting Gonorrhea while you don't - PRICELESS

ROFL

Thanks I needed that. hehe

WHAT the HECK is CLAP?

 

[SpiderX]

Chlamydia

 

[bleeb]

Why do they call it CLAP? Sounds fishy to me. =)

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: SpiderX

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
If you didn't get a signed note then those things would be considered gifts,particularly if they were spread out over time and not in one lump sum.

I realize that, but we both knew that they weren't gifts. I was just helping her out and she always promised to pay me back.

Without a signed, notarized repayment agreement it will come down to your word against hers in small claims court. Also since you made loan after loan during the course of the relationship but didn't start pressing her for repayment till the relationship had ended you could be accused of merely being a spurned boyfriend trying to
recover money you freely gave as gifts.

 

[bleeb]

Be sure to add in your bill the cost for the STD tests.

 

[eakers]

at least she didn't fake a pregnancy.

 

[imported_Tomato]

Unfortunately, you're screwed. Learn from your mistake and move on...

I was taken advantage of by a guy last year... out $1,000 with nothing but his verbal sh!t "I'll pay you back when I have the money... I'll pay you back when I have the money..." etc,. etc. as compensation. Expensive lesson, not to be repeated.

Peace,
Dezign

 

[Geekbabe]

Btw, only 2k over the course of a 2 year relationship? coiunt your blessings,the girl's a lightweight

 

[Maetryx]

Tell her instead of making payments, just sign and notarize a paper agreeing that she owes you $2000.00. Such a document should indicate that the money owed is for goods/services received (specify) and that you don't expect repayment to begin until 12 months or 24 or whatever will get her to sign the document.

If you could get that out of her, you will be in a much better legal position. Give leeway on the future payment part to make it sound inticing. She may see it as getting you "off her back". But once its signed, she really will owe you that money and you can take her to court when she misses those payments.

 

[SpiderX]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: SpiderX

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
If you didn't get a signed note then those things would be considered gifts,particularly if they were spread out over time and not in one lump sum.

I realize that, but we both knew that they weren't gifts. I was just helping her out and she always promised to pay me back.

Without a signed, notarized repayment agreement it will come down to your word against hers in small claims court. Also since you made loan after loan during the course of the relationship but didn't start pressing her for repayment till the relationship had ended you could be accused of merely being a spurned boyfriend trying to
recover money you freely gave as gifts.

I know it's going to be my word against hers. I'm just hoping when the judge talks to us that he sees it for what it is. I don't think she'll lie in front of a judge and say they were gifts though or that I told her that she wouldn't have to pay it back. At least I hope she hasn't become that kind of person. But if what's happened in the past few months, I might be wrong.

Thanks Geekbabe

 

[Scarpozzi]

Originally posted by: AUMM
damn thats tough, all i can say is take her to court if she doesnt pay

If she verbally agreed to pay you back, that's a contract. Take her to court and you'll win. Don't forget to make her pay court and lawyer costs too...