Arrgghh...anybody else here not able to be comfortable around a certain person?

[Heisenberg]

Ok, here's the deal. There's this girl in a class I have (I know what you're thinking-another fscking girl thread, but this is a little different) that I see on an almost-daily basis. The problem is that I just can't seem to be relaxed around her. And no, my goal here is not ask her out or anything. I wouldn't be opposed to that - she's intelligent and really cute, but that's not my main purpose for talking to her. I'd just like to get to the point where I could talk to her the same as any other friend. I just can't seem to start or continue a normal conversation. All of a sudden I can't think of things to say. I think part of the problem is she's quiet by nature, and I'm not a great conversationalist to begin with. I'm perfectly able to have normal conversations with other female friends, but for some reason I can't with her. It's really weird. I just thought I would see if anybody could offer any insights from an objective view.

 

[notfred]

it's because:
1) you like her
2) you're in high school


that's about it...

 

[pillage2001]

<< it's because:
1) you like her
2) you're in high school


that's about it... >>



Nuff said.

Gather your nuts dude, breaking the ice is important. You don't wanna stutter in front of her.

 

[Cattlegod]

<< it's because:
1) you like her
2) you're in high school


that's about it...



>>



hehehe

 

[pillage2001]

Also, you mention 'cute' without any pics??? :|

 

[Heisenberg]

Ok, just to clarify:

1) I don't know her well enough to "like" her. Yes, I find her physically attractive, but I don't have a problem talking to other women who are attractive (including some who would make most people on here drool uncontrollably).

2) I'm not in high school (college actually)

Edit: No, I'm not posting pics.

 

[pillage2001]

<< Ok, just to clarify:

1) I don't know her well enough to "like" her. Yes, I find her physically attractive, but I don't have a problem talking to other women who are attractive (including some who would make most people on here drool uncontrollably).

2) I'm not in high school (college actually) >>




1) You are thinking of her unconditionaly. That makes you like her without you thinking conciously that you like her. It's the sub concious mind that is holding ya.

2) College eh?? bring out the boooooooze

 

[notfred]

What college do you go to where you have the same class on an "almost daily basis" and get to talk to girls in class?

Anyway... if you really don't like her, well, then that's kinda wierd, but, why do you want to talk to her so much if you don't like her?

Did you never have a real girlfriend in high school? Maybe that high school nervousness has carried over to caollege with you.

 

[Heisenberg]

<< What college do you go to where you have the same class on an "almost daily basis" and get to talk to girls in class?

Anyway... if you really don't like her, well, then that's kinda wierd, but, why do you want to talk to her so much if you don't like her?

Did you never have a real girlfriend in high school? Maybe that high school nervousness has carried over to caollege with you. >>



The class is a MWF, but I see her around more than just in the class.

As for the liking her part, I'm still trying to figure out what the hell pillage2001 said. I would just like to be able to talk to her without feeling ackward.

Yes, I've had a girlfriend before. 3 up to this point (I'm 20 if you want to know). That's why this is so fscking annoying and odd.

 

[CrazyHelloDeli]

I was uncomfortable today at The Soup Plantation when a severily handicapped person(im mean drooling, a clear colostomy bag facing me, and constant thrashing and screaming) sat right across from me. Now, imagine this handicapped person sitting next to you every day while in class, and then look at this girl. Doesnt seem so bad now does it?

 

[PowerEngineer]

Sounds to me like we're dealing with the Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle...LOL. Sorry, I just can't resist a good physics joke.

Men can't really have girls as "friends" until those girls are crossed off their lists of potential "girl friends". "She's intelligent and really cute" (and who wouldn't want to get to know her ). Heisenberg, she's definitely still on your list! Subconsciously you'd like to make her number 4.

If you are bothered by awkward lulls in conversation, you might consider preplanning your escapes. Go in with scripts for short, purposeful exchanges on a specific topics (like class work), and be ready to draw the encounter to a close as soon as the script is complete with a "thanks, you've helped me see 'blah, blah' more clearly; I told 'so-and-so' I'd meet him at 'wherever' so I'd better get going..." After a few of these, maybe you'll begin to feel more comfortable.

And this girl-guy stuff will continue to be annoying and odd for many years yet. When it stops feeling that way, then it's time for viagra.

Good luck!

 

[pillage2001]

Screw it, just go talk to her. Gather your guts and make the move.

 

[Heisenberg]

<< Men can't really have girls as "friends" until those girls are crossed off their lists of potential "girl friends". "She's intelligent and really cute" (and who wouldn't want to get to know her ). Heisenberg, she's definitely still on your list! Subconsciously you'd like to make her number 4. >>



Although I don't want to admit it, I think you're probably right. Usually I'm better able to see these things coming. This one kind of snuck up on me. I hate not being aware of what's going on in my own head.

 

[Danman]

<< Also, you mention 'cute' without any pics??? :| >>



Yea, what the hell is wrong with you?!

 

[ScottyB]

I can't get confortable around some of the extreme conservatives around here. Their ideas give me the shivers.

 

[rgwalt]

<< Sounds to me like we're dealing with the Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle...LOL. Sorry, I just can't resist a good physics joke. >>



Well, congratulations. You've lived up to your nic PowerEngineer. Thats OK though, I talk about fluid mechanics with my friends at bars. It is pretty sad. I think I need another set of non-engineer friends.

Ryan

 

[gotsmack]

are you uncomfortable because of a "swelling" problem?




I was in a simular situation about 2 years ago in my Shakespear class.

I got her number but couldn't think of anything to say everytime I saw her.

Now I've been demoted to "Freind" status. she just says hi whenever se sees me.:frown:

you have to practice your conversation skills, I try to whenever I get the chance.

 

[Heisenberg]

<< I was in a simular situation about 2 years ago in my Shakespear class.

I got her number but couldn't think of anything to say everytime I saw her.

Now I've been demoted to "Freind" status. she just says hi whenever se sees me.:frown:

you have to practice your conversation skills, I try to whenever I get the chance. >>



Ahh...the dreaded "friend" zone. Sorry about that.

I'm thinking she thinks I'm a complete idiot though because every once in a while I catch her giving me a weird look. (I really suck at reading people's facial expressions.)