- Jan 9, 2001
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Yes, I've started a thread about this before, not sure where it went, but anyway this really is just a vent. If you'd like to add your thoughts, feel free, but I just need to "exhale" all of this somewhere.
There's a guy named Jake whom I've been very close friends with for years. We hung out all the time, had a blast, he was one of those few that you just really connect with (I get along with just about everyone, but I seem to have a tougher time finding people who I really truly connect with, he was always in the same boat). This past summer, I left town for 3 weeks. I come back, and somehow things had...changed. He had started hanging out with a whole bunch of other people. I'd like to make very clear that this is NOT an issue, I'm not one of those clingy freaks who wants my friends for myself and get pissed when they spend time with anyone else besides me. Matter of fact, his new found group of people are all really neat folks, I get along with them really well. They fall more into the category of "i get along with them great but don't connect with them in that unique way."
So, he and I hang out a few more times throughout the summer, and everytime we do, everything's normal. We still always are laughing it up and having a great time. But, school started, and it seemed to just...cease. It's partially my fault, I got very busy near the beginning of the school year and didn't go out a lot. At the same time, we wasn't calling me to invite me out or anything, but I wasn't calling him either because I was so busy. I've come to the realization lately that he and I have not hung out outside of school since September (maybe early October, I can't remember). I've been calling him a lot, 1-2 times a week or so to see if he wants to hang out. Every time, the answer is no for one reason or another. But then, we end up talking on the phone for half an hour and the conversation is great. Everytime we talk in school, things are just like they always were, the conversation's great, we laugh a lot, and I'm always saying "man, when we gonna hang out again? It's been so long." He'll always reply like "yeah, maybe this weekend" or something.
So, you might think he's just busy, but it's like this: every weekend I call him, and every weekend he can't get together. Then, every monday I hear about how great his weekend was (from him telling me about it), and the time he spent with these other friends.
OK, I know, this just screams to all of you "get over it, move on, find new friends, you two have separated." But, as I said, neither of us really seem all that different I don't think. I don't think I've changed because my other friends and I are just dandy. He doesn't really seem to have changed too much to me, judging by the conversations we have on the phone and in person; except that he does do quite a bit more drugs than he used to. Now, don't judge him, that's not the issue here. I'm not worried about him, he's a smart kid and he hangs out with good people, I do think he gets high too much, but it doesn't really bother me. The other reason it's hard to move on is because, make fun of me all you want, but I really like this guy (and I'm straight, so no jokes there!). You have no idea how close he and I were for so long, he was like a best friend if you will.
What's pushing my buttons this evening in particular (that's drawing my concentration away from studying for my Algebra final tomorrow)? I'm having a little birthday party of sorts on Friday, and he just informed me he can't come. Kind of a shot to the nuts when one of your best friends can't come to your birthday party. It's not like he's hanging out with other people or anything, his parents are dragging him off to a convention this weekend. But still, it's just annoying.
Sigh.
I always think I have it figured out...
There's a guy named Jake whom I've been very close friends with for years. We hung out all the time, had a blast, he was one of those few that you just really connect with (I get along with just about everyone, but I seem to have a tougher time finding people who I really truly connect with, he was always in the same boat). This past summer, I left town for 3 weeks. I come back, and somehow things had...changed. He had started hanging out with a whole bunch of other people. I'd like to make very clear that this is NOT an issue, I'm not one of those clingy freaks who wants my friends for myself and get pissed when they spend time with anyone else besides me. Matter of fact, his new found group of people are all really neat folks, I get along with them really well. They fall more into the category of "i get along with them great but don't connect with them in that unique way."
So, he and I hang out a few more times throughout the summer, and everytime we do, everything's normal. We still always are laughing it up and having a great time. But, school started, and it seemed to just...cease. It's partially my fault, I got very busy near the beginning of the school year and didn't go out a lot. At the same time, we wasn't calling me to invite me out or anything, but I wasn't calling him either because I was so busy. I've come to the realization lately that he and I have not hung out outside of school since September (maybe early October, I can't remember). I've been calling him a lot, 1-2 times a week or so to see if he wants to hang out. Every time, the answer is no for one reason or another. But then, we end up talking on the phone for half an hour and the conversation is great. Everytime we talk in school, things are just like they always were, the conversation's great, we laugh a lot, and I'm always saying "man, when we gonna hang out again? It's been so long." He'll always reply like "yeah, maybe this weekend" or something.
So, you might think he's just busy, but it's like this: every weekend I call him, and every weekend he can't get together. Then, every monday I hear about how great his weekend was (from him telling me about it), and the time he spent with these other friends.
OK, I know, this just screams to all of you "get over it, move on, find new friends, you two have separated." But, as I said, neither of us really seem all that different I don't think. I don't think I've changed because my other friends and I are just dandy. He doesn't really seem to have changed too much to me, judging by the conversations we have on the phone and in person; except that he does do quite a bit more drugs than he used to. Now, don't judge him, that's not the issue here. I'm not worried about him, he's a smart kid and he hangs out with good people, I do think he gets high too much, but it doesn't really bother me. The other reason it's hard to move on is because, make fun of me all you want, but I really like this guy (and I'm straight, so no jokes there!). You have no idea how close he and I were for so long, he was like a best friend if you will.
What's pushing my buttons this evening in particular (that's drawing my concentration away from studying for my Algebra final tomorrow)? I'm having a little birthday party of sorts on Friday, and he just informed me he can't come. Kind of a shot to the nuts when one of your best friends can't come to your birthday party. It's not like he's hanging out with other people or anything, his parents are dragging him off to a convention this weekend. But still, it's just annoying.
Sigh.
I always think I have it figured out...
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