Are you still seen as a social pariah if you don't use FB?

[SlitheryDee]

My ex posts on FB about our daughter, how she loves and is proud of her. I don't. I tell her directly, face to face, in an actual conversation. But to FB people it must make it look like I'm less involved with my daughter's life and sometimes I have wondered if it affects their opinion of me.

That's one of the things about social media that I don't like. If you really examine why someone feels the need to express their pride in their children to all of facebook constantly it doesn't look very flattering IMO. It feels like letting the person to whom the pride is directed know about it is incidental. The important thing is letting everyone else know so that you can soak in their adulation to massage your ego. It's a very needy urge to have. Facebook in general is a very needy place. Everyone posts their lives not simply because they are happy about them, but because they need something back from everyone else to affirm them. They've been conditioned by the hundreds of little shots of pleasure they've gotten from past replies to feel empty unless they've received the approval of the hive mind.

That's the only explanation I can come up with for the inane shit I see people informing the world about, and for the positive replies they get for things that should be met with "What? Why would you think anyone would care about that"? Everyone knows instinctively that even if they don't give a shit about whatever it is, they won't get any positive messages back if they don't massage everyone else's ego. It's an endless feedback loop of mutual dishonesty with everyone contributing simultaneously for the purposes of making them feel better about themselves.

 

[pete6032]

Amusing to see people that really do hate their lives, but when posting on FB they act like they're living the lifestyle of the fabulous, happy and famous.

Most people I know don't use it but have it as a "business/social card" for people that do.

No one wants to see facebook posts about how much they hate their lives, that just screams for attention.

 

[M0oG0oGaiPan]

it's use among teens is dropping. they post on instagram/snapchat/etc because their parents are on there.

not having facebook can make it harder to invite you to events. sometimes it's easier to plan dates/sign up for guestlists/set up rides on facebook via group chat. you can check your messages during meetings or whenever you have free time.

if you look at your feed it'll probably be full of people re posting clickbait articles. ignore those.

 

[SearchMaster]

I avoided FB until about 2 years ago. I check it regularly (probably 5 times a week) but I'm far from obsessed. Frankly I don't have the time or desire to check in with all my relatives and friends weekly in person so I don't mind seeing on FB that my sister is taking a nice vacation this week or my friend's son broke his arm.

Some people go nuts with it...my sister, for example, is a first-time mother and she posts at least 20 times a week about something amazing her daughter has done or said. But it actually has helped me "get to know" my niece a little better in a lot of ways so it's fine.

I will say that my friend's list is small, and I can't imagine that people with hundreds and thousands of friends really care about everything they see on FB daily.

 

[SearchMaster]

it's use among teens is dropping. they post on instagram/snapchat/etc because their parents are on there.

My 16 year old dropped his FB a couple of years ago because of teenage girl drama. My 14 and 11 year olds have accounts but don't use them at all.

The older two use IG for their friends but don't post much; they also seem to have mostly stopped using Snapchat.

 

[skyking]

I don't have an account but my wife does. I have missed out on few family things by not having an account. I may give in and get one for that reason alone.

 

[zinfamous]

No FB.
No smart phone.
Don't text.

But I have you guys. That, by itself, probably makes me a social pariah.

We're like 1st cousins, you and I.

(knowing our heritage, though...probably 2nd cousins, in fact.)

 

[highland145]

We're like 1st cousins, you and I.

(knowing our heritage, though...probably 2nd cousins, in fact.)

Brother from a different Mother.



Verizon just emailed me, iphone 5c for .99

 

[manimal]

social media is an enabling mechanism for narcissists.

 

[Inspector Jihad]

are you still seen as unique if you talk about not using facebook?

 

[zinfamous]

Brother from a different Mother.



Verizon just emailed me, iphone 5c for .99

I was thinking something more like cousins and half-brothers at the same time...well, you know....

Is there such a thing? I'm no fan of the iPhone, but if it's in fact the 5S, you should jump on that. It's (the Verizon 5S) the only version of any iPhone, that I know of, that arrives completely unlocked, region free, dual band, etc.

It's rather awesome.

 

[Printer Bandit]

periscope > *

 

[n7]

Pretty hard to be social these days without FB. Just an unfortunate reality i've accepted.

 

[MongGrel]

I have one I look at about once a month.

And no smart phone, I guess I annoy people here most the time, I like the company better.

 

[IronWing]

are you still seen as unique if you talk about not using facebook?

No, lots of folks talk about not using facebook.

 

[olds]

Don't have facebook. Don't see the need for it. But then I am not a sheeple or a narcissist. I view it like religion; if you are too weak to be your own person, it can probably prop you up. I don't have anything against people using it, just don't get it.
Now get off my lawn.

 

[Jerem]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ThY30niz6oE

 

[local]

I have FB, I think.

 

[Mai72]

I used FB everyday. A month ago I got fed up with it all and deleted my account. Also, did the same w/ Twitter.

I think FB is great for communicating w/ family. I used it many times when I was overseas in Korea. The problem is I was spending way to much time on it. I counted my weekly usage and it was sad.

I have a friend who spends all day on FB. At least 3 hours a day.

 

[QueBert]

Pretty hard to be social these days without FB. Just an unfortunate reality i've accepted.

Um no it's not, what percentage of people do you think have FB accounts? FB use overall is a minority of people in the US. More people don't have a FB than have and use one, so how does it make being social hard if you're not on there?

 

[Imp]

Got rid of it. Turns out people don't give a shit about me, and the feeling's mutual.

 

[Ronstang]

I only have one use for Facebook.....to find people I've lost track of over the last 25 years or so. Once I connect with them again I talk to them on my phone or text or see them in person. The only important people in my life are actually in my life and they don't need a website to know what is going on. Nobody gives a crap about all the minutia of your daily lives people, if they do they are as sick as the people who post stuff on FB like "Leaving to go to the store to pick up a few things now"

 

[Adrenaline]

I deactivated my account a little over a week ago. My wife tried tagging me in something and could not find me. She asked why and I told her. She seemed upset about it but I told her I got the account because she wanted to put who she was married to. It took her over a week to find out, I don't need it then.

My wife posts pictures of our kids doing things and occasionally about her day. The kids part is useful as my family all lives out of town and most of hers does.

 

[Imp]

I only have one use for Facebook.....to find people I've lost track of over the last 25 years or so. Once I connect with them again I talk to them on my phone or text or see them in person. The only important people in my life are actually in my life and they don't need a website to know what is going on. Nobody gives a crap about all the minutia of your daily lives people, if they do they are as sick as the people who post stuff on FB like "Leaving to go to the store to pick up a few things now"

Did he/she/you get a Coke Zero? If so, raise the roof.

 

[santz]

I only use facebook for storage of pictures and have put it in settings that only I can look at my pictures. not my friends, not my family, no one, only I.

LOL if you think about it, facebook is like dropbox with timeline, excepts with unlimited space for pics and videos and a sweet user interface.

take that facebook..