Are you doomed to be a single geek for the rest of your life?

[Ranger X]

Single now but was with someone for about half a year. Reading this thread, I've come to the conclusion that most of us single "geeks" have, at one point, been burned. Maybe we're too nice to our g/fs that they take advantage ... who knows?

All I can say is, it's difficult meeting girls after college. Sure, people say one can go clubbing to pick up on a girl but the question is, do you honestly want to date someone from those clubs? Sometimes I feel like we're all doomed to a life of loneliness.

 

[hans007]

Originally posted by: weezergirl
As one of the few engineering females around, I do have to offer my sympathies to the male engineers. Not only do you have to fight off social awkwardness and other nerd tendencies but the male to female ratio in your classes as well as jobs offer no better chances of finding your female geek counterpart. Just wondering but how old are most of you guys and how long have you gone without a date/gf/kiss? Are there some 21+ out there who have never even been kissed? (I know you exist!!!!)

Do you feel that you will go through your life without finding anyone ever? How does that make you feel? And althought I agree that you don't need a significant other to live a happy and successful life...it sure does help.

Anyways, just wondering because I work at a predominately male company and I'm just wondering how some of these guys meet any girls or if they ever get a chance to. That kinda sucks...

your post makes me cry... i'm gonna go cry some more in the server room. I AM SITTING ALONE IN A SERVER ROOM AND I'M A COMPSCI MAJOR. i think i'm gonna go kill myself now, bye

 

[rgwalt]

I met my last GF in the dorms at school. We dated 3.5 years and broke up when I came to grad school. It is tough to meet single women as an engineer. I know very few single engineering grad students.

Hopefully I'll find someone someday...

Ryan

 

[Alphathree33]

Originally posted by: rgwalt
I met my last GF in the dorms at school. We dated 3.5 years and broke up when I came to grad school. It is tough to meet single women as an engineer. I know very few single engineering grad students. Hopefully I'll find someone someday... Ryan

You are really depressing me right now.

 

[ElFenix]

i met the hottest chemgineer one day... skydiver too... (she was hanging out with a skydiver bud)... good lord she was hot.


<--- eco/gov/history major.

some women in gov classes, lots in history classes, almost none in my economics classes and yet there were all these hot blondes running around at graduation. i took 36 hours of economics (24 was required) and didn't see any of those girls... where did they all come from?!?!

 

[codehack2]

Originally posted by: dirtboy
I've been married and now that I'm single again, I know I can find happiness alone. As of this moment, I could care less if I met someone. I like women and all, don't get me wrong. For me, I am happier alone than I was married and I have no stress. Yes, my ex wasn't a very good wife, but the things she did aren't too untypical of many women.

Wait a second.... I think that we had the same wife.

I've been divorced for a couple of months, and I have to say that it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Casual sex on the weekends and no one to nag me through the week... the only thing is I'm starting to *cringe* like one of the randoms. What can I say... a naturally beautifull red head melts my freakin heart.

CH2

 

[SP33Demon]

You guys are pretty pathetic. Go to the gym, get huge like me, socialize with EVERYONE, make new guy and girl friends... the more people you know, the better chance you have of meeting a girl to boing. Better yet, join the military, they'll whip your sorry, whiny butts into shape. Heck, you could even WORK with computers while you're in the military, so you won't cry too much, and you'll even get to go outside *gasp*

I'm 24, and used to be a geek (when I was 16). Then I got laid, and haven't looked back ever since... Stack your social circle, your resume, play sports and keep your body up, and you shouldn't have anything to worry about. Keep you heads up, enjoy bachelordom, and don't be afraid to ask that hottie out and hit it on the first date...

I read the other day in the paper about a study just conducted that found that MEN (yes, weezer_nerd_girl, not girls) have a better chance of marraige statistically as we GET OLDER. Why, you may ask? Studies indicate that this is because older men are financially, emotionally, and physically stable. So geeks (Males), TIME IS ON OUR SIDE! We can afford to fvck 3 women a week, and date them all at the same time, because odds show we will eventually be married as we get older. Good luck with your biological clock weezer, b/c we're all SO worried for you. Send us all a postcard from Married_before_30_land, because I'd love to know what it's like!!!?


~SP33D aka []D [] []V[] []D

 

[virtuamike]

Well I've been doomed to geek hell for the past 9 months, half of which is voluntary. I got burned by my last relationship, 4 years for nothing. After my period of mourning and self-pity, I've been trying to regain my faith in women. Ugh, very long sob story. Anyways I've been out of it way too long, we'll see what happens when the school year starts.

 

[kh3443]

Lets see, I work as a Network Engineer for a computer consulting firm and basicly working like a techslave, I have a Athlon XP 1800 that I turn on everyday. I play WC and CS for at least 3 hours per day or else I'll feel wierd. I watch Anime. I'm into LOTR and I used to collect comic books. My friends are also into LOTR that also work as a tech. I'm asian with glasses. I graduated with an CIS degree emphysis in telecomunications annddd with honors. I also get excited whenever I'm at Frys Electronics. I never had a 'real' girlfriend. I am so Doomed.....sigh*

 

[CyberCowboy]

Originally posted by: GuybrushThreepwood
i'm 21 and have never been kissed.... le sigh

being a bachelor is nice anyway

DOH! i'm 22 now. turned 22 in july.
now i'm depressed. anyone older than me???? please???

oh well... i would get out and meet girls, but I'm too shy, not that good looking, my social skills are crap, and i can only carry on a conversation when it involves computers or music.

 

[pyonir]

Originally posted by: HotChic
Worse - I'm doomed to be a single wannabe-geek for the rest of my life.

Not the rest of your life. i thought we had a pact?

As for me: HotChic will find some great guy and i'll be alone for eternity. I'm not a geek (I think you have to know a lot about computers/engineering/science etc to be a geek...i'm dumb so i don't know a lot about those things). I just wholly unattractive with no self-esteem. So, i'll have a Guinness tap in my house, and a nice big TV with the latest video game system, and that should keep me busy.

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: pyonir

Originally posted by: HotChic
Worse - I'm doomed to be a single wannabe-geek for the rest of my life.

Not the rest of your life. i thought we had a pact?

Hey, you took off from the forums, not me! Anyway, I already found a great guy, dated him for a year and a half, and then he decided he's no longer interested.

 

[pyonir]

n/m i was out of line.

 

[codehack2]

My advice to all of you guys out there that think things seem hopeless and would like to try to turn things around...

1) Don't be afraid of that big yellow ball in the sky, it is your friend. Girls like guys with some color.
2) Despite what you think, typing on a keyboard is not good exercise. Get your self on a diet, and get out side. Your on the internet all day, spend some of that time on health based sites.
3) If you don't have any (and I mean any) *experience* with girls and would like some, get yourself a condom and a hooker. It may not be the most orthodox approach, but it will atleast get you oriented to being intimate with a girl and may get you out of your shell.
4) Pick up a copy of People magazine and learn how people are dressing. Once you have done that get yourself out shopping and make over that wardrobe. Chicks don't dig Anime and WWF t-shirts.
5) Start casually talking to people (Girls especially)... On the bus/train ride, on the elevator, the waitress in the restraunt, etc. Social skills make it happen.
6) If your current friends don't want to go out, make new freinds that do. Not saying drop the current friends, but make some alternate friends that promote social activity.
7) Start going to upscale salons to get your hair cut. Reasons? 1) The girls there are ussually hot and like to talk, and 2) your going to get an updated doo.

Take all of this with a grain of salt... I'm sitting at work bored to death in a meeting as I type this.

CH2

 

[KEV1N]

I'm a huge geek. I appreciate personal electronics. I like computers. However I don't see a correlation between a person being a geek and his/her ability to scizzore. I've had many girlfriends. Being a geek is just a part of who you are, and if it seems like nobody wants you for who you are, then they really don't deserve you or your time. In times of darkness, if you feel like you're going to be single forever, think of Garth from Wayne's World, specifically Wayne's World 2. He's pretty geeky but he ends up meeting a girl that is his exact twin.

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: KEV1N
I'm a huge geek. I appreciate personal electronics. I like computers. However I don't see a correlation between a person being a geek and his/her ability to scizzore. I've had many girlfriends. Being a geek is just a part of who you are, and if it seems like nobody wants you for who you are, then they really don't deserve you or your time. In times of darkness, if you feel like you're going to be single forever, think of Garth from Wayne's World, specifically Wayne's World 2. He's pretty geeky but he ends up meeting a girl that is his exact twin.

i totally agree. i am not very geeky and i never really thought i would end up w/ someone who loves his electronics more than me! (j/k) but, in this case, we mesh well...I have taken a fond loving to all things technology and am very happy that i found a very sexy geek of my own!

 

[TuffGirl]

Originally posted by: weezergirl
and just so u know, there ARE girls out there who liek shy and quiet guys. and for every guy who thinks he's too boring for a girl to like him, there is a girl out there who feels the same way. how sad is that?

Haha weezer, you described me accurately there. I prefer shy guys with that self-effacing humor. I find it charming.

I also can't believe HotChic asking where to meet geeks. One word... Conventions.

 

[damiano]

Originally posted by: KEV1N
I'm a huge geek. I appreciate personal electronics. I like computers. However I don't see a correlation between a person being a geek and his/her ability to scizzore. I've had many girlfriends. Being a geek is just a part of who you are, and if it seems like nobody wants you for who you are, then they really don't deserve you or your time. In times of darkness, if you feel like you're going to be single forever, think of Garth from Wayne's World, specifically Wayne's World 2. He's pretty geeky but he ends up meeting a girl that is his exact twin.

same here,

spend about 12 hours a day programming java and oracle in front of my computer, but work for an adult web site, and get laid A LOT
and not with geeky girls believe me...
Plus liking computers does not mean to be skinny white, with pimples, and glasses... I surf and waterski every week end...you guys that stay all the time in front of the computer need to learn to do something else sometimes...
Plus you'd be surprised that girls respect someone that works with computer, they find programmers sexy for two reasons: we do something that most people don't and will never understand...plsu we make a lot of money

 

[weezergirl]

Originally posted by: SP33Demon
You guys are pretty pathetic. Go to the gym, get huge like me, socialize with EVERYONE, make new guy and girl friends... the more people you know, the better chance you have of meeting a girl to boing. Better yet, join the military, they'll whip your sorry, whiny butts into shape. Heck, you could even WORK with computers while you're in the military, so you won't cry too much, and you'll even get to go outside *gasp*

I'm 24, and used to be a geek (when I was 16). Then I got laid, and haven't looked back ever since... Stack your social circle, your resume, play sports and keep your body up, and you shouldn't have anything to worry about. Keep you heads up, enjoy bachelordom, and don't be afraid to ask that hottie out and hit it on the first date...

I read the other day in the paper about a study just conducted that found that MEN (yes, weezer_nerd_girl, not girls) have a better chance of marraige statistically as we GET OLDER. Why, you may ask? Studies indicate that this is because older men are financially, emotionally, and physically stable. So geeks (Males), TIME IS ON OUR SIDE! We can afford to fvck 3 women a week, and date them all at the same time, because odds show we will eventually be married as we get older. Good luck with your biological clock weezer, b/c we're all SO worried for you. Send us all a postcard from Married_before_30_land, because I'd love to know what it's like!!!?


~SP33D aka []D [] []V[] []D

huh?? worried about me? ummm ok.

rule #1 of anybody who doesn't want to become a "bachelor 4 life" is don't refer to yourself as []D [] []V[] []D. its' lame and girls will make fun of you.

and if you want to hook up after you're 30...go right ahead. but hopefully your dream girl didn't already hook up with someone else! which is most likely since girls do tend to get married before 30 oh wait, maybe u are after the younger girls who are most likely dating you because you are SO financially stable (aka gold digger )

and lastly, for somebody who claims to not be a geek, you sure are l33t enough to be one!

 

[Hammer]

Interesting thead. As to the question, I doubt it.

 

[linuxboy]

Are you doomed to be a single geek for the rest of your life?

Several problems exist in confronting this statement as well as formulating a suitable response.

First, the above conjecture presupposes the wildly erroneous notion of my being a geek, moreover a single geek. Despite obvious equivocalities in the denotation of geekdom, the state of singlehood further extends this grave fault insofar as it assumes we are somehow not connected with the world-at-large, or as Emerson aptly put, the Oversoul.

Second, one runs into conceptual difficulties at attempting to grasp the elusive idea of life as well as a remainder of life. Assuming life is an entity separate from noetic offspring, the remainder of one proves to be nearly impossible to define, assuming both probablistic/stochastic models as well as foundations built upon affirmation of free will or deityhood.

Third, I question the use of the word "you". Our own self-definitions are so arbitrary and fickle that any referent thereabouts is bound to cause confusion in ourselves and in our surrounding worlds. Who is this "you"?

The dubious despondent overtones also cause concern.

I thus conclude that your nonsensical remark cannot be answered.


As for an answer to your question, it's highly likely to be so. Who'd want to put up with my odd ramblings and real-life, lackluster plainness?

pas des personnes



Cheers !

 

[stonecold3169]

19 y/o comp sci major (Sophmore, I know in some schools it isn't considered engineering, but here it is...).

Just because I have a strong intrest in CS and comps doesn't mean it has to be my whole life...

Currently, I'm dating an amazingly beautiful gal from another local college who is a music ed major. Opposite side of the spectrum? Perhaps... but we have a load of fun together, and thats what matters in the long run, right? Sure, our careers won't line up, but if you're willing to work with it a bit it isn't impossible to make it happen.

I think it's incredibly important, however, for people in professions like this to get out once in a whil... opportunity will not come to you, you need to seek it out. The rewards are well worth it, and your quality of life can go well up...

<--- Enjoying every moment of his life right now

 

[MusicSoundsBetterWithYou]

hmmm, im 16 and ive had one SERIOUS(tho short) relationship

I'm a total geek on the inside, but im also athletic, a guy who loves dancing(and is good at it) and also isnt very uptight

i used to get real down and lonely and such, but now i figured out i have really high standards, i want a good looking girl that doesnt annoy me when she talks, hard to find in high school(at least mine)

i guess ive been rejected a huge amount of times, but mostly i go back to friend zone which isnt too bad, plus im YOUNG(and if i get on the dance floor im pimpin)

but really, find something thatll attract girls(which for a lot of us is MONEY) then find a few that are worth it and show them something more substantial, i guess its how the games played eh?

 

[misterj]

im a ce and have a clubbed foot.

 

[Alphathree33]

Originally posted by: MusicSoundsBetterWithYoui want a good looking girl that doesnt annoy me when she talks

Amen.

Just any normal looking girl who has a spark of demonstratable intelligence is a great start, IMHO.