Yup... I'm pretty much doomed... gives me more time for my home network and learning FreeBSD 
When did Kami turn into such a wise one?
When did Kami turn into such a wise one?
Originally posted by: kami
Noriaki,
I'm not into clubbing either...I hate it in fact, but I still go to bars/pubs/pool halls/etc. I wouldn't want a girl who goes clubbing every single weekend either. But just because a girl will do some dancing doesn't mean she's a total party person. Some people just like to let go when they have a few drinks
All true. I actually quite enjoy playing pool at bars, or just pool halls (though I suck, but who cares, it's fun
). And the club thing was just one example You are right though, a girl who goes dancing at a club doesn't necessarily make her a clubber. But for example, a friend of mine once (actually several times) tried to hook me up with some his raver friends. I happen to know that these are the kinds of girls who go to every rave they possibly can, and do a fair amount of drugs. Not my thing, so I declined. Now just becuase a girl goes to a few clubs or a few raves, doesn't make her a clubhead or a raver.It was just one example I chose to pick on. My general point was just that you should know yourself, and make sure that if you are going after girls you get the kind that make you happy.
Know thyself, grasshoppa
Originally posted by: kami
hahaha. no you're not! you're a ladies man, you just don't know it yet. geeks make the best partners
Yeah... Geeks are the best partners...
In a LAN party
I have yet to find a chick that enjoys the stuff I like, motorcycling, sky diving ( havent done that yet but I am dying to try) or anything that is risky, base jumping stuff like that. I have refused to let and woman try to change me cause I love doing all this stuff for the rush, they have tried before and then just told me "You are the most sturbon guy I have ever met" and kida gave up. Right now I am 18 and never been kissed ect.... it have to do with my geeky tendencies but o well I have plenty og friends that a girls. Which reminds me I have to go see them before I move to college or they will slap me up really hard.
LOL mabey but there is always a risk, thats why I love itOriginally posted by: Mucman
Hmm, I think you should rephrase that
My risk taking involved compiling my FreeBSD kernel and installing it without going into single user mode
Actually, I think I would like to try skydiving... It would have to be a spur of the moment decision for me though... If someone dropped by and said "hey, we're going sky diving, join us!" I would probably go. If I had a month to think about it, I would probably bail
Anyways... that's getting a little off topic
Actually, I think I would like to try skydiving... It would have to be a spur of the moment decision for me though... If someone dropped by and said "hey, we're going sky diving, join us!" I would probably go. If I had a month to think about it, I would probably bail
Anyways... that's getting a little off topic
Kami's right
Girls don't go for the nicest looking man, they go for a man that can impress them and secure them (they want a man that is often a little better than them at what they like).
Girls tend to be charmed by a confident man... just remember that!!
Don't think you're a loser when talking to a girl, but don't seem too uninterested too! You just have to be naturally confident... act just like if it is casual for you to have a conversation with a girl. Listen to her, make some jokes and just stay cool. Also, it is always better to end a conversation with a cool:"Oh, look at the time, I have to go, talk to you later!" than be in front of her, saying stupid things just to say something.
Girls don't go for the nicest looking man, they go for a man that can impress them and secure them (they want a man that is often a little better than them at what they like).
Girls tend to be charmed by a confident man... just remember that!!
Don't think you're a loser when talking to a girl, but don't seem too uninterested too! You just have to be naturally confident... act just like if it is casual for you to have a conversation with a girl. Listen to her, make some jokes and just stay cool. Also, it is always better to end a conversation with a cool:"Oh, look at the time, I have to go, talk to you later!" than be in front of her, saying stupid things just to say something.
Mavrick "Kami's right Girls don't go for the nicest looking man, they go for a man that can impress them and secure them (they want a man that is often a little better than them at what they like). Girls tend to be charmed by a confident man... just remember that!! Don't think you're a loser when talking to a girl, but don't seem too uninterested too! You just have to be naturally confident... act just like if it is casual for you to have a conversation with a girl. Listen to her, make some jokes and just stay cool. Also, it is always better to end a conversation with a cool:"Oh, look at the time, I have to go, talk to you later!" than be in front of her, saying stupid things just to say something."
I disagree. Well, not entirely, but I think that ending a conversation that way is lame and abrupt. There are better ways.
hotchic - You asked where to find geeks (I have no idea why you would ask such a question). Well, they're everywhere. They don't usually look like geeks, either. If you are seriously interested, find someone with a really eccentric habit or who walks to/from class alone (not sure if you're in university), gets top grades or some other such thing. If they are completely flustered when you talk to them and start dropping things or can't tie their shoes, you've probably hit right on the mark. You will have to make all of the moves. The first thought on their mind will be that this is a big joke and that someone has dared you to do this. You'll need to make it seem otherwise.
You could also try things like Dungeons & Dragons and lan parties. You will be a novelty and you could potentially meet a lot of scum (I know I sure have playing D&D lol), but there are also lots of nice-guy-geeks that hang around those places too. They go because they like the games, but they probably don't like most of the other people very much either.
I can't believe I just gave that advice...
Descartes "...you're probably not going to elicit interesting conversation from a woman whilst grinding in a club. You would have more luck in a bookstore's coffee bar, or something related. Finding an intelligent woman with a quirky personality might be harder to find than the proverbial ditzy (sp?) blonde, but the resultant relationship will elicit moments of greater profundity. "
My prerequisite for having any interest in a girl is that I need to feel comfortable saying anything that I would normally say around my close friends. (Aside from, perhaps, some really crude "guy-talk" comments.) There's a girl that I've been getting to know better lately who is the quirkiest person I've ever met. (i.e. a lot like me) While at the movies a few days ago she asked if I like to trip people. I said sure, I do it all the time. Turns out she was serious, and she has various non-lethal ways of tripping people that she was happy to demonstrate. Lol. She also listened to the same Monty Python wave file with me four times last night -- the long one I posted earlier. She's the one who wanted to play it four times.
She loves music and excels at playing clarinet yet scores higher than me on math contests and will randomly break out into discussion about any sort of obscure mathematical theory that I can think of. At the same time she has my sarcastic sense of humor that other people find offensive. When her sister asked "What's an orchestra?" (she was looking for a better explanation as 'orchestra' seemed general) she said 'You know, it's a bunch of people who have violins and things.' Being a musician she could've easily given a long explanation, but she's not so dug into her passion that she couldn't take that question lightheartedly.
We were playing soccer and I had been running so much that I just decided to collapse and gasp for air. She came to lay in the grass next to me, also gasping and laughing, and of all things decides to compare the skin tone of my face to my leg because my face had turned so red. And one the way home she was sitting behind the driver's seat (I was driving) and she decides to start massaging my shoulders because she wants to investiage my bone structure. Not only do I get a massage, but the best part is that she really did want to investigate my bone structure because for whatever reason it fascinates her. She does this to other people as well.
I've gotten this far and I have yet to mention her looks. And even then, looks don't matter that much to me. It's the fact that we like and share each other's quirks that is so neat. She does happen to be gorgeous, though. Not a maxim model, but someone who is truly beautiful without any makeup and expensive clothes.
A bookstore? I could spend all day with her at a bookstore.
Chaotic42 "No, no, you get me wrong. I have no problem talking to people. That's not the problem at all. I just can't ask girls out. All 3 dates I've been on, I've been asked out by the girl."
Welcome to my world. I only have the guts to do it on ICQ or some other written form. Otherwise the girl has to ask me. Just a note -- I wrote a 1300 word letter to another girl last night that expressed some of my thoughts and feelings and guess what? The world didn't end. I was nervous about what she thought and she didn't even entirely agree with me ... but the world didn't end. My advice: go for it, but be subtle and honest and don't overdo it. (Basically if 0 is I'm your friend and 10 is I'm your lover we never strayed anywhere past middle ground at 5... my letter said that maybe we were closer to 10, but it turns out that we thought differently.)
clicknext "Just don't scare her away with your talk about how many times you reformat your computer every day. "
Whenever I'm first meeting someone, I avoid acting as geeky as I really am. But after the first time, if I just reformatted my computer and we're anywhere remotely on that topic, I'd probably mention it. Really, it doesn't hurt to flaunt your geekiness. Reactions can range from "he's a nerd" to "he's weird" and I consider either of those to be a compliment.
"think that the biggest problem most geeks here are having is that they go immediately for the hot girl, not the girl that they would actually get along with well. Its funny how in the end, they could be standing next to their perfect girl but they dont give them a second look because theyre not a maxim model. "
I know I babbled on about how you should love someone for who they are and how they think, but if you really do like talking to hot girls, get to know some. This morning I walked into the home of two teenage girls in their pajamas at 9am because I was picking them up and I was early. This didn't bother me at all. Why? Because they're my friends and I talk to them every day. A conversation with a girl isn't some novelty, it's something that should happen on a day to day basis.
Once you're there, talking to any girl is easy. Even ones that are stunning, you can treat them like anyone else. Eventually, though, you'll find that there's not much to (many of) them and you might go back to avoiding talking to them. But for different reasons altogether.
Gr1mL0cK "I'd rather not plan events because people are unreliable and never seem to give a yes or no answer and I'm not going to waste my time w/ that."
Nice excuse. You don't give them a choice, you say "we're going clubbing at 11, hope to see you there" and then they will feel left out and the cards are in your hands. THEY will ask YOU for more information.
(Geeks do go clubbing. Okay well, my less geeky friends got me to like it. They turned me into an Eminem-memorizing, grinding, drinking fool who happens to be a huge nerd. I have yet to convince many of my geekier friends to come with me.)
I disagree. Well, not entirely, but I think that ending a conversation that way is lame and abrupt. There are better ways.
hotchic - You asked where to find geeks (I have no idea why you would ask such a question
). Well, they're everywhere. They don't usually look like geeks, either. If you are seriously interested, find someone with a really eccentric habit or who walks to/from class alone (not sure if you're in university), gets top grades or some other such thing. If they are completely flustered when you talk to them and start dropping things or can't tie their shoes, you've probably hit right on the mark. You will have to make all of the moves. The first thought on their mind will be that this is a big joke and that someone has dared you to do this. You'll need to make it seem otherwise. You could also try things like Dungeons & Dragons and lan parties. You will be a novelty and you could potentially meet a lot of scum (I know I sure have playing D&D lol), but there are also lots of nice-guy-geeks that hang around those places too. They go because they like the games, but they probably don't like most of the other people very much either.
I can't believe I just gave that advice...
Descartes "...you're probably not going to elicit interesting conversation from a woman whilst grinding in a club. You would have more luck in a bookstore's coffee bar, or something related. Finding an intelligent woman with a quirky personality might be harder to find than the proverbial ditzy (sp?) blonde, but the resultant relationship will elicit moments of greater profundity. "
My prerequisite for having any interest in a girl is that I need to feel comfortable saying anything that I would normally say around my close friends. (Aside from, perhaps, some really crude "guy-talk" comments.) There's a girl that I've been getting to know better lately who is the quirkiest person I've ever met. (i.e. a lot like me) While at the movies a few days ago she asked if I like to trip people. I said sure, I do it all the time. Turns out she was serious, and she has various non-lethal ways of tripping people that she was happy to demonstrate. Lol. She also listened to the same Monty Python wave file with me four times last night -- the long one I posted earlier. She's the one who wanted to play it four times.
She loves music and excels at playing clarinet yet scores higher than me on math contests and will randomly break out into discussion about any sort of obscure mathematical theory that I can think of. At the same time she has my sarcastic sense of humor that other people find offensive. When her sister asked "What's an orchestra?" (she was looking for a better explanation as 'orchestra' seemed general) she said 'You know, it's a bunch of people who have violins and things.' Being a musician she could've easily given a long explanation, but she's not so dug into her passion that she couldn't take that question lightheartedly.
We were playing soccer and I had been running so much that I just decided to collapse and gasp for air. She came to lay in the grass next to me, also gasping and laughing, and of all things decides to compare the skin tone of my face to my leg because my face had turned so red. And one the way home she was sitting behind the driver's seat (I was driving) and she decides to start massaging my shoulders because she wants to investiage my bone structure. Not only do I get a massage, but the best part is that she really did want to investigate my bone structure because for whatever reason it fascinates her. She does this to other people as well.
I've gotten this far and I have yet to mention her looks. And even then, looks don't matter that much to me. It's the fact that we like and share each other's quirks that is so neat. She does happen to be gorgeous, though. Not a maxim model, but someone who is truly beautiful without any makeup and expensive clothes.
A bookstore? I could spend all day with her at a bookstore.
Chaotic42 "No, no, you get me wrong. I have no problem talking to people. That's not the problem at all. I just can't ask girls out. All 3 dates I've been on, I've been asked out by the girl."
Welcome to my world. I only have the guts to do it on ICQ or some other written form. Otherwise the girl has to ask me. Just a note -- I wrote a 1300 word letter to another girl last night that expressed some of my thoughts and feelings and guess what? The world didn't end. I was nervous about what she thought and she didn't even entirely agree with me ... but the world didn't end. My advice: go for it, but be subtle and honest and don't overdo it. (Basically if 0 is I'm your friend and 10 is I'm your lover we never strayed anywhere past middle ground at 5... my letter said that maybe we were closer to 10, but it turns out that we thought differently.)
clicknext "Just don't scare her away with your talk about how many times you reformat your computer every day. "
Whenever I'm first meeting someone, I avoid acting as geeky as I really am. But after the first time, if I just reformatted my computer and we're anywhere remotely on that topic, I'd probably mention it. Really, it doesn't hurt to flaunt your geekiness. Reactions can range from "he's a nerd" to "he's weird" and I consider either of those to be a compliment.
"think that the biggest problem most geeks here are having is that they go immediately for the hot girl, not the girl that they would actually get along with well. Its funny how in the end, they could be standing next to their perfect girl but they dont give them a second look because theyre not a maxim model. "
I know I babbled on about how you should love someone for who they are and how they think, but if you really do like talking to hot girls, get to know some. This morning I walked into the home of two teenage girls in their pajamas at 9am because I was picking them up and I was early. This didn't bother me at all. Why? Because they're my friends and I talk to them every day. A conversation with a girl isn't some novelty, it's something that should happen on a day to day basis.
Once you're there, talking to any girl is easy. Even ones that are stunning, you can treat them like anyone else. Eventually, though, you'll find that there's not much to (many of) them and you might go back to avoiding talking to them. But for different reasons altogether.
Gr1mL0cK "I'd rather not plan events because people are unreliable and never seem to give a yes or no answer and I'm not going to waste my time w/ that."
Nice excuse. You don't give them a choice, you say "we're going clubbing at 11, hope to see you there" and then they will feel left out and the cards are in your hands. THEY will ask YOU for more information.
(Geeks do go clubbing. Okay well, my less geeky friends got me to like it. They turned me into an Eminem-memorizing, grinding, drinking fool who happens to be a huge nerd. I have yet to convince many of my geekier friends to come with me.
)hahahaha, let me key "my boys" in on a little secret:
Fast Seduction 101: Art of Pick-up and Seduction
Read it, learn it, master it, USE IT!
Fast Seduction 101: Art of Pick-up and Seduction
Read it, learn it, master it, USE IT!
StinkyPinky
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Women?? Where can I buy that? What's the system requirements?
But yeah...I'm not too good with women either. I think a lot of it is self-esteem. Us geeks tend to get picked on by society, and often bullied at school which makes us shy and reserved. Often it is this that made us geeks in the first place. I'm not using that as some excuse, but I think there is some truth to what I say.
And I have had a gf or two before, but that doesn't make me a ladies man. Both of them had to pratically force me to go out with them. I'm just really uncomfortable around people I don't know...but once I get to know you I'm fine and like to think I'm good company.
But yeah...I'm not too good with women either. I think a lot of it is self-esteem. Us geeks tend to get picked on by society, and often bullied at school which makes us shy and reserved. Often it is this that made us geeks in the first place. I'm not using that as some excuse, but I think there is some truth to what I say.
And I have had a gf or two before, but that doesn't make me a ladies man. Both of them had to pratically force me to go out with them.
I'm just really uncomfortable around people I don't know...but once I get to know you I'm fine and like to think I'm good company.As of 7/20/02, my user rating is 4.30
I gave you a ten because I don't think anyone ever rates me.
Please don't take this the wrong way HotChic, you know I love you
Alphathree33, the part of your post directed at HotChic is the funniest thing I've read in a long time
Edit: I should add, it's funny because it's bloody well true. I remember when I was in Grade 9 or 10, a Girl one grade higher than me was coming on to me. Looking back on it, it's painfully obvious that she liked me, but I am not joking when I say, I honestly thought it was a joke or a trick.
One of her guy friends tried to tell me to, and I thought he was just being mean to me....she was fairly attractive, so I guess I figured she wouldn't really want me...I don't really remember exactly why I thought she would be playing a trick me....but I did. She even wrote me a letter and gave it to me (which I never read).
I know it's sad but I was actually that stupid.
For the Record, yes I'm still painfully awful at reading signs...but I don't think I'd think it was a joke if she and one or two of her friends tried to tell me that she liked me...I don't think...
Alphathree33, the part of your post directed at HotChic is the funniest thing I've read in a long time
Edit: I should add, it's funny because it's bloody well true. I remember when I was in Grade 9 or 10, a Girl one grade higher than me was coming on to me. Looking back on it, it's painfully obvious that she liked me, but I am not joking when I say, I honestly thought it was a joke or a trick.
One of her guy friends tried to tell me to, and I thought he was just being mean to me....she was fairly attractive, so I guess I figured she wouldn't really want me...I don't really remember exactly why I thought she would be playing a trick me....but I did. She even wrote me a letter and gave it to me (which I never read).
I know it's sad but I was actually that stupid.
For the Record, yes I'm still painfully awful at reading signs...but I don't think I'd think it was a joke if she and one or two of her friends tried to tell me that she liked me...I don't think...
Soulkeeper
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Originally posted by: Zakath15
Originally posted by: PsychoAndy
So what am I? Chopped liver? Hmmph.
On a related note....Maul and women? Buhahahhahah.
-PAB
Peanut butter and soy sauce?
More like dexatrim and crisco.
-PAB
Soulkeeper
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the truth is i don't really care if i never have sex till marriage
i would just like to find one girl and love her forever
most people these days like to have a new mate every month or so
they usually cheet and all that stuff...
i just don't see the point
i want a soul mate someone to talk to........ confide in etc etc
i would just like to find one girl and love her forever
most people these days like to have a new mate every month or so
they usually cheet and all that stuff...
i just don't see the point
i want a soul mate someone to talk to........ confide in etc etc
Geekbabe
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Nice
That seems like a good attitude to me. Well except the part about no sex till marriage...if you find that young lady, I think it's probably okay to have a little love-play before the day in the church
Edit: I should note, I'm not religious. Being married "in the eyes of God" means squat to me. When and If I find a woman I love enough to want to marry, that's enough to me, to give myself to her in body and soul. There will come a point when we both agree (verbally or not), that we will get married, from that point forward I will consider myself married to her, in spirit and soul, where it counts to me.
I will of course go through the whole big ceremony, after all, a big wedding is a wonderful way to declare for the whole world to see how much you love this one woman and are devoted in body and soul to her
. Besides, it wouldn't be very nice to deprive a woman of the opportunity to have her huge weddings she's probably been planning since she was 5 . But that day woudln't be the turning point for the "sexual faucet" . Edit #2:
Disclaimer:
The above post is a special occasion due to the nature of this thread. The contents of this post may not be used against the author in the other threads, present or future. This views and ideas expressed here-in do not exist outside the context of this thread.
j/k!Originally posted by: NoriakiAlphathree33, the part of your post directed at HotChic is the funniest thing I've read in a long time
I told it from experience. I thought about where a girl might meet ME say, 5 years ago. Then I thought about how I might react. Now, of course, you can wander into any club and have a half decent shot at finding me.
A girl will still pretty much have to hit me over the head with a bat that says 'lets do it' for me take a hint. And I would never look for a serious relationship at a club. Ever.I'm 17. I had a gf for about a year, got burned and now I'm just gonna sit back until someone with an amazing personality comes into my life.
On another note, I want to know what Eakers has to say about this thread.... :Q
On another note, I want to know what Eakers has to say about this thread.... :Q
I've learned thing or two in my life about love in general.
Love is is about sacrafic, honesty, self worth, respect, sincerity, and most of all Forgivness.
It is truely the only emontion in human nature that we as a people simply cannot, put a true clear definded meaning, because true love has no meaning that one can put words to it is pure emontion. and when it ends,and we are steamrolled we pick ourseleves off and after a time we go looking again. time and time again it destroyes us and time and time again we seek, we feed on it live it we crave it
Hope is the second thing I've learned about.
Hope is the single most destructive force in the world. one instant we can use it to lift ourseleves up and yet in a half of a second it can lower us to the depths of despair.
Love and Hope go hand in hand. Both required both needed. Both Equally destructive.
Love is is about sacrafic, honesty, self worth, respect, sincerity, and most of all Forgivness.
It is truely the only emontion in human nature that we as a people simply cannot, put a true clear definded meaning, because true love has no meaning that one can put words to it is pure emontion. and when it ends,and we are steamrolled we pick ourseleves off and after a time we go looking again. time and time again it destroyes us and time and time again we seek, we feed on it live it we crave it
Hope is the second thing I've learned about.
Hope is the single most destructive force in the world. one instant we can use it to lift ourseleves up and yet in a half of a second it can lower us to the depths of despair.
Love and Hope go hand in hand. Both required both needed. Both Equally destructive.
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