zinfamous
No Lifer
- Jul 12, 2006
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I find that the unhappy part sucks, while thinking I don't need to be happy.
I'm going with making myself happy, now.
I'm going with making myself happy, now.
Muse
Lifer
- Jul 11, 2001
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Yeah, it's hard for me to imagine the beginning, what it would be like to have an infant child suddenly to take care of. I see 3 year olds, and that's different, I can imagine that. That's a person with a personality already. Easier for me to understand.I think, its one of those things where if you havent been hit with a massive childhood trauma, you grow with the job as it goes along. Nobody is ready for parenthood before the fact or even after the fact. Suddenly there is this thing in the universe that is *even* more important than yourself ... and since you have figured your self out up till now, you will figure it out for this new person as well... as you go along.
snoopy7548
Diamond Member
- Jan 1, 2005
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Three year olds are pieces of shit. I have three nieces and a nephew, two of them are over the age of 12 and pretty cool now. But when they were very young, they were annoying. Made me realize I really don't want or need to have kids.
IndyColtsFan
Lifer
- Sep 22, 2007
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My parents adopted a child when I was in my early 20s, but he had lived with them since I was around 19 (he was the child of my mom's cousin). I loved that kid and enjoyed playing with him, spoiling him, and teaching him things. But at the end of the day, I decided I didn't want to have my own and found a woman who had the same opinion. There are many reasons for this decision, only some of which I covered in my earlier post. I don't fault people who have kids, but society still largely treats those of us who willingly choose not to have kids as second-class citizens. My wife caught more flack from family, friends, and acquaintances than I did, but make no mistake - men have to hear it too.
cytg111
Lifer
- Mar 17, 2008
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Sort of me as well, until this girl I was in love with said "its now or with someone else".. Best decision someone else took for me in my life.
Red Squirrel
No Lifer
WTF does your name have to do with it?
When you have kids as a guy, the kid's last name is your last name. I thought that was common knowledge? Or is it done different in the states?
purbeast0
No Lifer
- Sep 13, 2001
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You also have to realize, just because one has kids, does not mean said person likes any other kids other than theirs.
I am kind of that way. I don't really like other people's kids but my soon is cool as fuck lol. I don't even like dealing with my nephews sometimes. The worst is when I am at the park with my son and there are other kids there and they wanna talk to me. I don't like that shit.
Muse
Lifer
- Jul 11, 2001
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No, I fully understand this. However, I fail to see much significance to your last name enduring. Or the first, etc. as in the case of Casey M. Manowar, Jr. Names are arbitrary. "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet." Shakespeare, I believe. In my case, my last name is being perpetuated by virtue of offspring of my brother and several cousins. What you do, who you are as a human being is in my view of much greater importance/significance than your genes being passed on to your progeny, and certainly than any names you might have being perpetuated.
Muse
Lifer
- Jul 11, 2001
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I don't seem to have any of these problems. I like kids but don't have any. I relate to them some times. They're usually in the company of their parents and I realize that just about every parent is wary of strangers relating to their kids, so I always make any interaction very brief, but I'm usually pleased enough and let it go and move on. So easy. So much tougher to be a parent! But potentially so much more rewarding.
Muse
Lifer
- Jul 11, 2001
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nakedfrog
No Lifer
- Apr 3, 2001
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brianmanahan
Lifer
- Sep 2, 2006
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GodisanAtheist
Diamond Member
- Nov 16, 2006
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Nope, boy and a girl, both whip smart jokesters. It's a blast having them around, the good and the bad, everything just gets cranked to 11 when you have kids around.
Already have people (mostly mothers of boys) making comments about how "it would be cute" if our kids ended up together *shivers*.
I don't think my blood line has anything to worry about at the moment.
Already have people (mostly mothers of boys) making comments about how "it would be cute" if our kids ended up together *shivers*.
I don't think my blood line has anything to worry about at the moment.
snoopy7548
Diamond Member
- Jan 1, 2005
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People are commenting on how cute it would be if your son and daughter ended up together?
GodisanAtheist
Diamond Member
- Nov 16, 2006
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People are commenting on how cute it would be if your son and daughter ended up together?
Didn't phrase that right, but if their kid and my kid ended up together.
BudAshes
Lifer
- Jul 20, 2003
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People are commenting on how cute it would be if your son and daughter ended up together?
That's the 'bama way.
Muse
Lifer
- Jul 11, 2001
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