Are there any psychologists in the house?

[Riprorin]

Why do some people have a need to be unhappy?

 

[gopunk]

no happy without unhappy

 

[Eli]

I'm not a psychologist, but AFAIK.. it's just how they were wired as they grew up.

Your childhood has more bearing on your life than most people even imagine.

 

[Hayabusa Rider]

Not a shrink either, but my observations suggest

1) It's all they have known, and do not know how to be any other way

2) They have low self esteem. In other words they deserve to be unhappy. Usually this happens in childhood, and they are chained to that image perpetually

 

[Riprorin]

The person that I'm thinking about was the victim of incest as a child and has never had any counseling for it. That probably explains a lot.

 

[Skyclad1uhm1]

It's not a need, it's the way your brains work. A lot of people can shut themselves off for all the agony in the world, some people cannot. Knowing the attrocities that take place constantly, knowing you cannot change it and people have to endure it over and over again can really demolish your spirit.
I envy people who live their lives without ever thinking about stuff harder than 'Which tie should I wear today?', those who can believe that everything will turn out well, that a higher power will reward the good ones and punish the bad ones, rather than that the bad ones can have all the fun they want without ever getting punished for their crimes, and the good ones suffering for nothing.

 

[Hayabusa Rider]

Originally posted by: Riprorin
The person that I'm thinking about was the victim of incest as a child and has never had any counseling for it. That probably explains a lot.

Adults bring along the image created in childhood. Adults are virtually supreme beings to children. If something "bad" or "dirty" happens to the child, he or she very often does not blame the adult. It must be their fault. Something is inherently bad about them. Inherently bad people deserve to be unhappy. So they are. Oversimplification I am sure, but seems to be true.

 

[Skyclad1uhm1]

Originally posted by: Riprorin
The person that I'm thinking about was the victim of incest as a child and has never had any counseling for it. That probably explains a lot.

A lot of people who have been the victim of incest will never be able to trust anyone again in a relationship. Them knowing the cause and the result of it will make them feel even worse in a relationship, which will in turn hurt their partner again.

 

[txxxx]

Originally posted by: Skyclad1uhm1
It's not a need, it's the way your brains work. A lot of people can shut themselves off for all the agony in the world, some people cannot. Knowing the attrocities that take place constantly, knowing you cannot change it and people have to endure it over and over again can really demolish your spirit.
I envy people who live their lives without ever thinking about stuff harder than 'Which tie should I wear today?', those who can believe that everything will turn out well, that a higher power will reward the good ones and punish the bad ones, rather than that the bad ones can have all the fun they want without ever getting punished for their crimes, and the good ones suffering for nothing.

Igronance is bliss, although some people are brought up too caring for their own good and clearly see the cruelty around them.

Without sounding arrogant, some people cannot accept what is goung on around them and therefore dont acknowledge it.

A higher power rewarding and punishing? I always have little arguments about things like that. I win

 

[Toasthead]

Happiness is a perception not anything tangible. What it takes for me to be happy doesnt make others happy.

Most humans are problem solvers, and as problem solvers we tend to try to fix things that are broken. Being unhappy is usally percieved (sp?) as being broken in some way and thus these are the people who garner most of our attention.

I think that most people who are unhappy for a majority of the time are attention seekerswho have surrounded themselves with people who will try to make them feel better.