Here's a good forum: Lots of "New Heli people"
RC Universe
Here's the often recommended 'Flight School" online:
Radd's School of Rotary Flight
I bought Blade CP Pros (Two of them) and a Spektrum radio (it's very good).
I still crash alot (I'm new at this), but figure it's a good way to learn the systems and "how to" build, adjust & maintain 'em.
If you want to start cheap and stay cheap, buy a "coaxial" heli - like the Blade CX or LLama. They are upgradable (still coaxial, but better motors & heads). Get a good Sim ... for ~US$200.00, it'll save you a lot in the long run.
Also - VERY IMPORTANT - Pay attention to the WARNINGS about Lithium-Polymer batteries, they are EXTREMELY DANGEROUS if not handled properly (they can self-ignite and burn at > 1000F) get a "charging box" or "battery bunker" to charge & store them, no sh!t.
Check out the following link for a "Lipo Sack"
Click on "See the Lipo Sack in action" link
This kind of battery is one of the reasons for the recent ban on some battery-powered devices on airplanes.
They're safe if handled & charged properly, pay attention to the warnings.
Good Luck
Scott