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Anyone have experiences with long distance relationships?

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MadPeriot

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My girlfriend is getting let go at her job and her company is sponsoring her to be in the states to work. Now they are letting her go, she has no choice but to leave the country. Anyone of you have experience in relationship with someone overseas? I'm afriad things will change between the two of us. I have plans to buy a house this year and do some traveling with her, but now this happened plans changed.
 
They suck?

You need to have a lot of trust and a fair amount of reality.

Had a long distance relationship for 3years between the US and Japan, now currently in the 1st year between Denmark and the US.
 
Damn that's really a long distance relationship...sorry to say it, but in my experience it works far less often than it doesn't. Leading such independant lives eventually will make the two of you very close friends than a couple.

At least she hasn't asked you to marry...she could stay then 😛
 
Marry her quick to get her to stay. 😉 J/K

My cousin has a girlfriend in Netherlands and they're doing ok. Planning on getting married. From what I understand, it takes a lot of love, faith, and patience.
 
in my case, me and my gf of korea were having a lot of trouble. the trust was there, but the communication is getting really hard. talking online or talking on the phone just doesn't work as well, and we sometimes get frustrated w/ eachother....

and then there is the idea of future, and what you are going to do later....are you going to bring her here? when? etc.....etc...its tough, and we are still working on it.
 
then there is the idea of future, and what you are going to do later....are you going to bring her here? when?
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That's why you need a real, definite plan. If it's just a relationship with a vague idea of getting together properly again in the future, it is DOOMED. Better to face reality before somebody gets hurt after finding the other one has been playing around with a local person.
 
Originally posted by: Skoorb
then there is the idea of future, and what you are going to do later....are you going to bring her here? when?
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That's why you need a real, definite plan. If it's just a relationship with a vague idea of getting together properly again in the future, it is DOOMED. Better to face reality before somebody gets hurt after finding the other one has been playing around with a local person.
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yup
 
Well we been dating for 2 years now and living together. I can't imagine me without her. I feel sorry for her because she actually grew up in the states and don't know her way around Taiwan, no friends, leaving everything behind. Taiwan is just a place of vacation to both of us. Evenually I do want to marry her, but we feel its too soon for both of us (I'm 26 and shes 25), would like to be finacially stable, get a house, etc before marriage. I really don't know what to do.
 
Originally posted by: MadPeriot
My girlfriend is getting let go at her job and her company is sponsoring her to be in the states to work. Now they are letting her go, she has no choice but to leave the country. Anyone of you have experience in relationship with someone overseas? I'm afriad things will change between the two of us. I have plans to buy a house this year and do some traveling with her, but now this happened plans changed.
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They suck a$s. I just did a 3 hour LDR and it ended 2 weeks ago. We were together for just about a year and a half. It will drive you crazy and one of you will be bound to move on.
 
Originally posted by: Skoorb
then there is the idea of future, and what you are going to do later....are you going to bring her here? when?
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That's why you need a real, definite plan. If it's just a relationship with a vague idea of getting together properly again in the future, it is DOOMED. Better to face reality before somebody gets hurt after finding the other one has been playing around with a local person.
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This had just happened past Friday so its a bit of a shock. I haven't had a chance to even think of the fact that she will be leaving. I can't really answer what I'm going to do later when I haven't even thought about what to do now. Just the fact of her leaving me already brings tears to my eyes.
 
Marry her. Dating two years and " I can't imagine me without her " it's time. As well as you two " will " be able to buy a house and travel. Just set the priorities an follow a plan. Make sure to use birth control so your plans can come true without being force to change things by having a baby.

My wife and I are coming up on 17 years married. Married at ( me ) 23 / ( her ) 24. We dated for about 1 1/2 years and lived together about a year of that time. We both knew we loved each other and could face any and all challenges we faced together.

Think about it be fore she goes.
 
All I can say is I have done about 4 or so LDRs. One from one coast of the US to the other, US to London, US to Australia, and Germany to London. The easiest was Germany to London, cause it was just a 1 hour flight or so, maybe 2. But it wasn't great either way. They have benefits, but the negatives are really big...namely, communication just falls. A lot of relationships are just being next to the other person, even when you aren't talking, and well, you don't get that anymore. If you aren't talking marriage in the near future, I wouldn't go there....it isn't fun!
 
I've had plenty of long distance relationships, but nothing THAT far away.

My best friend is getting married to a girl who lives in Jakarta, he lives in NY.
 
GL with that one, it'll be interesting to see how it pans out. She can't apply for a visa and come over?
 
Originally posted by: MadPeriot
My girlfriend is getting let go at her job and her company is sponsoring her to be in the states to work. Now they are letting her go, she has no choice but to leave the country. Anyone of you have experience in relationship with someone overseas? I'm afriad things will change between the two of us. I have plans to buy a house this year and do some traveling with her, but now this happened plans changed.
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j00 = SOL.
 
Originally posted by: kami333
They suck?

You need to have a lot of trust and a fair amount of reality.

Had a long distance relationship for 3years between the US and Japan, now currently in the 1st year between Denmark and the US.
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WTF dude!?
 
They suck. I was in Europe and my GF at the time was in the States. Rarely have I ever heard of them working. I would expect things to change between the both of you. Is she going back to Taiwan for good? If so you can pretty much kiss your relationship goodbye.
 
well I am talking to this hot girl on mirc right now. She lives two states over and I have a good feeling about it. We talk for hours each day. I have faith in long distance relationships.
 
I think trust and faith are the most important things. At least that's from my experience. If you have to spend all your time worrying about what the other person may or may not be doing, you're going to be in for a long suffering.
 
Originally posted by: MidasKnight
Marry her. Dating two years and " I can't imagine me without her " it's time. As well as you two " will " be able to buy a house and travel. Just set the priorities an follow a plan. Make sure to use birth control so your plans can come true without being force to change things by having a baby.

My wife and I are coming up on 17 years married. Married at ( me ) 23 / ( her ) 24. We dated for about 1 1/2 years and lived together about a year of that time. We both knew we loved each other and could face any and all challenges we faced together.

Think about it be fore she goes.
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I agree. If you feel the time is right (and it sounds like it is), then marriage would be the fastest way for her to obtain legal permanent resident status.
 
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