Hmm.
I just read through the entire thread and actually just talked about it with my girlfriend who I was on the phone with. I thought I'd point it out to her (who could give a shit about ATOT) because I found the thread rather peculiar.
Anyway, I personally don't agree with the OP and had the same "WTF?" thought when I read the first post. I personally wouldn't have any preference of gender if and when I have a kid because raising a boy and raising a girl are two such different things that it's very difficult to compare which one I would prefer. But after reading through the OP's comments I realized that the OP is serious and I took this thread a bit more seriously. I continued reading and glossed over the "you fucking worthless douchebag" posts which I expected from the best of ATOT and came across a few enlightening posts in the mess of all the other verbal garbage. It's pretty clear that the OP feels a certain way and doesn't want to feel that way. That happens to me a lot too. I feel a lot of emotions that I would rather not, but ultimately I have little control over my emotions most of the time. And I imagine most people tend to be the same (just look at the responses in this thread).
I'm a little taken aback by the response to this guy's issue from ATOT. I mean, it really sounds like this guy has a problem, but calling him a "fucking worthless douchebag" isn't going to help at all. I applaud those who actually took the time to write out a response that would mean anything to the OP - it takes a lot of guts to help out someone in need when a powerful bandwagon like that of ATOT's is absolutely plowing towards them on such a narrow, one-way street. And again, while I may not agree with the OP's thinking, I can point out a lot of others in this thread who I agree with even less. Their posts are the reason why ATOT makes me sadder sometimes than posts like the OP's.
Why else do I come here then. Sometimes it can be entertaining.
As for the OP, I simply think he will outgrow it. It's his first child, after all, and those of you who have had children should know that a first child can instill all kinds of emotions - often uncontrolled. But the OP sounds like the kind of person in whom human nature will take its course and he will grow to love his child as much as the rest of you love yours.
I can tell some of you have a lot more growing to do than the OP himself.