Anyone else completely lose interest in their pregnancy when they found out the baby was the wrong sex?

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Jumpem

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Originally posted by: Baked
Dear OP, please see a shrink before you murder your wife and your unwanted unborn child.

Ps. I hope your wife finds out what you're feeling about the sex of the child.

Pps. You take your wife to China and trade your boy for a girl.

My wife already knows. We talked about it the same day we found out what it was going to be. She's trying to be supportive and maje me feel better about it. :)
 

Jumpem

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Originally posted by: pontifex
usually it's about keeping the family name alive...you know, since usually women take their husbands' surnames.

I haven't seen my real dad, or any of his family, in over fifteen years. My last name has no significant meaning to me.
 

BlackTigers

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Originally posted by: Jumpem
Originally posted by: pontifex
usually it's about keeping the family name alive...you know, since usually women take their husbands' surnames.

I haven't seen my real dad, or any of his family, in over fifteen years. My last name has no significant meaning to me.

Sounds like that's going to happen to the OP's kid as well....lol
 

sandorski

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You have been placed on the Pedo Bear Watchlist.

I suppose you'll just have to try aggain.
 

Auric

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Other options include abandoning it to be raised by wolves or selling it on the black market. Note that on the black market, white babies fetch a premium. Funny how that works. Anyway, just hope it's white or at least an albino. You will just need some of those theatrical contact lenses then to pass it off as white. Maybe you could trade for a Chinese or Indian baby girl. Those are usually discarded anyway and since you likewise do not value your boy it would be a fair bargain.
 

thetxstang

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Originally posted by: chusteczka
Possibly the most important concept in any business client service position, such as an account manager, is to manage the client's expectations. It is bad to let a client expect to receive something and then not deliver this expectation to them. Similarly, it can be bad to fail to meet a manager's expectations in an aspect such as job performance.

That's probably the most shallow, least apropos and lamest analogy I've ever seen on this bored. Truly. We're not talking about managing client's expectations with business concerns, we're discussing a living, breathing, human baby. There is a significant difference between the two.

Sure, anyone could feel initially disappointed when learning a baby's sex isn't what they were hoping for, but the OP is emphasizing and concentrating on the fact that he won't be able to buy cute clothes for a daughter. Furthermore, he doesn't want a son because he doesn't like sports and dreads the prospect of having to toss a ball with one. Geez...
 

duragezic

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Originally posted by: TehMac
Originally posted by: clamumHahah "grom". He is older than you are.

Sounds like my second edge of that comment still stands then. :roll:
You're right, I don't have children. I have no idea what a father goes through. Except I didn't write a bunch of childish insults to the OP with an attitude like this kid who has been through it at all. Just like the last one of these where he blew up on the guy and then goes off about his mother and whatnot, and most other posts. So my entire comment still stands then.
 

Special K

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I don't understand why people post this stuff on ATOT. They should know how ruthless this crowd is, and what kind of a flaming they will get for posting things like this :D
 

Double Trouble

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I sure hope this is a joke, but it doesn't appear to be the case. What the heck is wrong with you? The gender doesn't matter, it's your child and you should be thrilled. What is your obsession with "cute" clothes? Who the heck cares how cute or not cute the available clothing is? Don't worry, just because you're in the closet does not mean he'll end up there too ;)
 

TehMac

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Originally posted by: duragezic
Originally posted by: TehMac
Originally posted by: clamumHahah "grom". He is older than you are.

Sounds like my second edge of that comment still stands then. :roll:
You're right, I don't have children. I have no idea what a father goes through. Except I didn't write a bunch of childish insults to the OP with an attitude like this kid who has been through it at all. Just like the last one of these where he blew up on the guy and then goes off about his mother and whatnot, and most other posts. So my entire comment still stands then.

No, actually it doesn't, because if you were semi literate, you'd realize I was not insulting the OP, merely his comments and attitude.
 

Asparagus

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If you found out by ultrasound, do remember that they're not 100% accurate in determining the baby's gender. My first baby was supposedly going to be a girl...quite the surprise in the delivery room when it turned out to be a boy. We've got plenty of years ahead of us for teasing him about that :evil:

When you see the baby for the first time though, it won't matter to you if it's a boy or girl...it's an amazing experience.
 

Ruptga

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Originally posted by: Jumpem
Originally posted by: cliftonite
What difference does it make? He is still your child.

I wanted a girl. Little girls are cute, boys are just sort of meh.

You can always put them up for adoption :confused:

You suck.
 

alkemyst

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Originally posted by: BoberFett
Yeah, I pretty much called it. ATOT Righteous Brigade, front and center.

And it's hilarious to see the opinions of so many nerds that have yet to have sex, much less have children.

so how's that working for you?
 

RKS

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I can't believe all these people that are flaming the OP. Haven't any of you ever gone to a restaurant when you were craving a particular menu item and then you find out that the establishment has changed the menu or is out of the item? Remember the deep disappointment; it's the same concept. :roll:

OP this is rightfully about you. I glad your wife is not concerned just for her pregnancy and is trying to be supportive of your remorse. You could still buy the same dresses and use them for your son. For at least the first few months both boys and girls look very similar and maybe you could get your 'dressing up' needs out of the way.

I will have to disagree about involving them in sports however. I think getting kids in to sports (both girls and boys) is a very important part of their development. If not I could get you in touch with a neighbor. Her boys hate dirt and always dress up to even come outside and play on a swingset, there are not allowed to climb trees, play in the dirt, and all Hell breaks loose if they try to take off their Crocs and let their feet get dirty.
 

BoberFett

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Originally posted by: TehMac
Originally posted by: duragezic
Originally posted by: TehMac
Originally posted by: clamumHahah "grom". He is older than you are.

Sounds like my second edge of that comment still stands then. :roll:
You're right, I don't have children. I have no idea what a father goes through. Except I didn't write a bunch of childish insults to the OP with an attitude like this kid who has been through it at all. Just like the last one of these where he blew up on the guy and then goes off about his mother and whatnot, and most other posts. So my entire comment still stands then.

No, actually it doesn't, because if you were semi literate, you'd realize I was not insulting the OP, merely his comments and attitude.

Yeah, well I will insult you.

Learn to use proper capitalization, punctuation, and spelling moron. God forbid you ever spread your unintelligent seed in the world. I'd rather see the OP have ten unwanted children than see you father a single retarded crotch dumpling.
 

ric1287

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Originally posted by: BoberFett
Originally posted by: TehMac
Originally posted by: duragezic
Originally posted by: TehMac
Originally posted by: clamumHahah "grom". He is older than you are.

Sounds like my second edge of that comment still stands then. :roll:
You're right, I don't have children. I have no idea what a father goes through. Except I didn't write a bunch of childish insults to the OP with an attitude like this kid who has been through it at all. Just like the last one of these where he blew up on the guy and then goes off about his mother and whatnot, and most other posts. So my entire comment still stands then.

No, actually it doesn't, because if you were semi literate, you'd realize I was not insulting the OP, merely his comments and attitude.

Yeah, well I will insult you.

Learn to use proper capitalization, punctuation, and spelling moron. God forbid you ever spread your unintelligent seed in the world. I'd rather see the OP have ten unwanted children than see you father a single retarded crotch dumpling.

you are the coolest
 

rh71

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Dude i just got twin boys and I'm pretty damned happy I'm gonna be doing everything with them sports-wise.. teach them everything that I wish I had done right growing up. If I had twin girls I would be happy for mom that she has her shopping partners. I still wouldn't feel sad about it though I wouldn't know what to do with them (curious what you have in mind). I would look forward to baby #3. Then maybe if I had 3 boys and 0 girls would I feel sad I never would have a girl. This is just your first shot - man up.
 

Capt Caveman

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Originally posted by: ric1287
Originally posted by: BoberFett
Originally posted by: TehMac
Originally posted by: duragezic
Originally posted by: TehMac
Originally posted by: clamumHahah "grom". He is older than you are.

Sounds like my second edge of that comment still stands then. :roll:
You're right, I don't have children. I have no idea what a father goes through. Except I didn't write a bunch of childish insults to the OP with an attitude like this kid who has been through it at all. Just like the last one of these where he blew up on the guy and then goes off about his mother and whatnot, and most other posts. So my entire comment still stands then.

No, actually it doesn't, because if you were semi literate, you'd realize I was not insulting the OP, merely his comments and attitude.

Yeah, well I will insult you.

Learn to use proper capitalization, punctuation, and spelling moron. God forbid you ever spread your unintelligent seed in the world. I'd rather see the OP have ten unwanted children than see you father a single retarded crotch dumpling.

you are the coolest

No shit. Elite? More like Elite Asshat...
 

CasioTech

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Oct 1, 2000
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u should be happy besides boys are better and rarer than girls i pray to god i have a boy... and that he looks like tom welling
 

CasioTech

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Originally posted by: Jumpem
Originally posted by: RichardE
I get the feeling you would enjoy your son playing with Barbies

That might make him catch the gay. Legos and G.I. Joe would be cool.

jesus... maybe u need to give ur kid up for adoption... because ur not fit to be a parent, clearly.
 

Agentbolt

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Hey look everyone, it's BoberFett being some kind of wanna-be edgy douchebag! He called us nerds and said we've never had sex before! What an unexpected turn of events!!

OP just remember the old saying about when your SO gets pregnant and you're not excited about it: It doesn't matter if it's a boy or girl, all you should hope for is that it's black.
 

Mrvile

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Oct 16, 2004
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Hmm.

I just read through the entire thread and actually just talked about it with my girlfriend who I was on the phone with. I thought I'd point it out to her (who could give a shit about ATOT) because I found the thread rather peculiar.

Anyway, I personally don't agree with the OP and had the same "WTF?" thought when I read the first post. I personally wouldn't have any preference of gender if and when I have a kid because raising a boy and raising a girl are two such different things that it's very difficult to compare which one I would prefer. But after reading through the OP's comments I realized that the OP is serious and I took this thread a bit more seriously. I continued reading and glossed over the "you fucking worthless douchebag" posts which I expected from the best of ATOT and came across a few enlightening posts in the mess of all the other verbal garbage. It's pretty clear that the OP feels a certain way and doesn't want to feel that way. That happens to me a lot too. I feel a lot of emotions that I would rather not, but ultimately I have little control over my emotions most of the time. And I imagine most people tend to be the same (just look at the responses in this thread).

I'm a little taken aback by the response to this guy's issue from ATOT. I mean, it really sounds like this guy has a problem, but calling him a "fucking worthless douchebag" isn't going to help at all. I applaud those who actually took the time to write out a response that would mean anything to the OP - it takes a lot of guts to help out someone in need when a powerful bandwagon like that of ATOT's is absolutely plowing towards them on such a narrow, one-way street. And again, while I may not agree with the OP's thinking, I can point out a lot of others in this thread who I agree with even less. Their posts are the reason why ATOT makes me sadder sometimes than posts like the OP's.

Why else do I come here then. Sometimes it can be entertaining.

As for the OP, I simply think he will outgrow it. It's his first child, after all, and those of you who have had children should know that a first child can instill all kinds of emotions - often uncontrolled. But the OP sounds like the kind of person in whom human nature will take its course and he will grow to love his child as much as the rest of you love yours.

I can tell some of you have a lot more growing to do than the OP himself.
 

StinkyPinky

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Originally posted by: Jumpem
Found out it was going ot be a boy two days ago. It went from being an exciting time, to indifference. I'm not even remotely interested anymore.

I don't feel like going to doctors appointments, and I got irritated and left Babies R Us last night after seeing other people with baby girls and I couldn't buy any of the cute stuff. I didn't think I would care too much what we were having, but now I feel pretty devastated. :(

Bzzzzzzt! Thats my What The Fuck alarm going off! Has to be the most immature attitude I've ever seen.

Btw, my son is 9 mths old. He's just started to get a personality in the last month or so. For the first 6 mths at least, it wont even matter what gender they are. They just eat, shit, piss, and cry at 2am. Nothing cute about that.