Anyone else completely lose interest in their pregnancy when they found out the baby was the wrong sex?

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BoomerD

No Lifer
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WTF is "the wrong sex?

I'm glad both of my kids were born before all this bullshit. The "surprise" was part of the enjoyment of having kids...SOMETIMES you could tell when they did ultrasounds, but with BOTH of my kids, the doctor was wrong in his predictions.
 

dartworth

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the world is becoming a sad sad place...

i feel sorry for you and very very sorry for your unborn son...some people shouldn't procreate....
 

AgaBoogaBoo

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Originally posted by: Skoorb
Some people will never bond with their kids. I doubt you'll be one of them. I dno't think it's easily admitted and not talked about so much, but I bet a lot of parents, probably more guys than girls, don't have the interest they figured they would have or feel they should have, at least at first. For a while it may be only interesting while others are stoked and you wonder if something is wrong with you. Then your child comes along and it's a baby and the thing is crying at 2am and you're going to second-guess things again.

Now that my girls are no longer babies I can more easily admit I abhor the little fvckers (babies). Babies are useless and loud and whiny and irritating. Sure they were cute and I loved them when they were young, but I love them FAR more now (my girls were very good babies, btw, but when I am around others' babies I just do not give a damn for them). I'd say once the little buggers get about a year old or so and stop being completely useless, they're much easier to appreciate and they quickly evolve into real people. You just need to realize that the mixed emotions (or even lack of any?) are far more common than you think and part of the process, just like postpartum is for some moms.

I wouldn't want a life without my kids now, but I won't pretend I was gung ho every second of every moment since conception. We're all human and fallible :)
Probably the only decent post in this thread...
 

txrandom

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You have two options:

1. Abort kid and adopt an African girl.
2. Don't abort kid and turn him gay (You can dress him up cutely this way!)
 

Muadib

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Originally posted by: conehead433
Jesus fucking Christ. After you have this child go get fixed so this will never happen again.

Sadly, you didn't give him this advice last year.
 

brxndxn

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Originally posted by: Capt Caveman
Wow, you're too immature to have a child. I feel bad for your wife and your child.

Agreed.. too immature and effeminate. As a father, you want a girl so you can buy her cute things? That's ridiculous. Learn life.

 

Baked

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Dear OP, please see a shrink before you murder your wife and your unwanted unborn child.

Ps. I hope your wife finds out what you're feeling about the sex of the child.

Pps. You take your wife to China and trade your boy for a girl.

 

Wheezer

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when he is old enough to read make sure you point him back to this thread so he can actually see what a douchebag for a father he has.....i am sure he'll return the favor when it comes time to stick your ass in the nursing home.
 

jjones

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Could be worse; could be wrong species.

That being said, you sound like a selfish person. My preference was for a boy when my wife was pregnant with our daughter, and I had no problem accepting and looking forward to her arrival when I found out it was to be a girl. In reality, all I really wanted was a healthy, happy baby, regardless what its sex was. Thankfully we were blessed with a routine pregnancy and a very healthy, happy girl.
 

thetxstang

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Originally posted by: Wheezer
when he is old enough to read make sure you point him back to this thread so he can actually see what a douchebag for a father he has.....i am sure he'll return the favor when it comes time to stick your ass in the nursing home.

Karmic justice FTW. :D
 

JTsyo

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Try the For Sale/Trade fourm, maybe someone on here is having a girl...
 

nageov3t

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kinda seems like the OP wants to be a chick and was hoping to live vicariously through dressing up his daughter.
 

nageov3t

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Originally posted by: vi edit
Doesn't anyone wait until the baby is delivered to find out what it is anymore? My wife and I chose the "surprise" route and it actually pissed people off. There wasn't another expecting couple that we knew that didn't find out early. Out of 15+ expecting couples we knew during our pregnancy we were the only ones not peaking on the sonograms.

it makes it so much easier to buy gifts for the shower, plan out the baby's room, and do research ahead of time, though.
 

Capt Caveman

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Originally posted by: Jumpem
Found out it was going ot be a boy two days ago. It went from being an exciting time, to indifference. I'm not even remotely interested anymore.

I don't feel like going to doctors appointments, and I got irritated and left Babies R Us last night after seeing other people with baby girls and I couldn't buy any of the cute stuff. I didn't think I would care too much what we were having, but now I feel pretty devastated. :(

:confused: WTF!

 

ConstipatedVigilante

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Dude, it's kinda strange that you're pissed off that you can't put any "cute stuff" on your child. You are a guy, right?
 

duragezic

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Originally posted by: BrokenVisage
Originally posted by: TehMac
Originally posted by: Jumpem
Originally posted by: cliftonite
What difference does it make? He is still your child.

I wanted a girl. Little girls are cute, boys are just sort of meh.

You're probably the most retarded person I have ever seen make a post on AT.


That is such a fucked up, immature, sad, pathetic, inhumane, indifferently assholish attitude I have ever had the misfortune to read about.


I don't want a baby girl as my first child, but if my wife discovered that she was pregnant with a girl, do you think I'd be indifferent? Not in the cold depths of Satan's Vagina, fuck no!

What kind of twinkle toed piece of crap comes up with this post, how do you think your baby's going to feel about it? You better straighten up your act, because I'm tired of hearing how neglected babies became serial rapists later on in life.

On a somewhat more somber note, it still is fucked up, and I can't believe I am reading what you're saying. Maybe you should ram your underwear up your ass more, I hear that sperm produced at higher temperatures tend to have the X chromosome (for females).


But I sure as fuck hope your attitude doesn't persist, because if it does, you ought to be ashamed.


Originally posted by: waggy

well. the little girls clothes are cute. there is a lot of choices. with little boys its balls, animals or colors. pretty bland.

OMFG THERE ARE NO COLORS FOR BOYS WAHH WAHH WAHH WAHHH!!!


What the fuck?? What kind of people post and BREED on this forum???


You'd want a certain gender based almost completely on how they'd dress???


What the fuck is wrong with people?

Geezus Christmas man, with that 'how dare you think that way' attitude I guess we know where you stand on abortion now.. at least he's being honest and open about how he feels, would you prefer he bottle up his true feelings and just accept what chance gives him? Some people just can't accept the gift they are given if it's not exactly what they want.

'What the fuck is wrong with people' is that they are all DIFFERENT and don't necessarily share the same likes/dislikes/philosophies/etc.. as you do. Yeah most people are happy simply bringing a baby into the world and love it no matter if it's boy/girl, deformed/healthy, black/white, and so on.. but it's not exactly an abomination to the degree you make it out to be disappointed by not getting the gender you wanted. Now if the OP seriously plans on loving it any less because it's not a girl that's another sad story, but I'm sure he'll appreciate it when the time comes regardless.
Ignore him, he's at the delicate age where he knows everything and what anyone else thinks is wrong or stupid. AKA grom...

 

nageov3t

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I do have to admit, though, being the uncle of a baby girl, I really look forward to getting to take her to go see stupid musicals that no boy (including my boyfriend!) would want to sit through.
 

Corbett

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Originally posted by: Jumpem
Found out it was going ot be a boy two days ago. It went from being an exciting time, to indifference. I'm not even remotely interested anymore.

I don't feel like going to doctors appointments, and I got irritated and left Babies R Us last night after seeing other people with baby girls and I couldn't buy any of the cute stuff. I didn't think I would care too much what we were having, but now I feel pretty devastated. :(

Wow, OP hasnt figured out thats once your wife is pregnant, its not about YOU anymore. I cant believe how selfish you are being. My wife is due in November with our first and I'm excited with whichever sex it is.
 

hans030390

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Originally posted by: Jumpem
Originally posted by: cliftonite
What difference does it make? He is still your child.

I wanted a girl. Little girls are cute, boys are just sort of meh.

Teenage girls are evil, though. :eek:

Teenage boys are just retarded, but may act similar to you depending on how they're raised.
 

Orsorum

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lol I just found out yesterday that my mom wanted a baby girl instead of twin baby boys. Ah well. :)

I second the teenage girls being evil part. Well, women are always devious, even at a young age. But adolescence seems to bring out the worst.