Anyone dated someone who was depressed?

[zixxer]

We've been dating for about 9 months now. I am having a really difficult time getting through the mood swings and depression she's been going through for about the past 2 months.

It's very frustrating to me that she doesn't want to take meds (for financial and moral "I can work through it") reasons. I have offered to pay for them but she declines.


Anyone been in this situation? It's hard for me not to back out of everything right now - I am hoping that things will get better... She finally went and got her scrip filled yesterday so we'll see.


bleh

 

[dabuddha]

Not everyone is pill happy.

 

[zixxer]

I'm not arguing she should take pills and wake up happy.



I'm asking if anyone has been through this - with tips, etc.

It can be difficult when your SO is crying numerous times a day, she doesn't know why, you don't know why, and nothing you do helps.

 

[BD2003]

Originally posted by: zixxer
We've been dating for about 9 months now. I am having a really difficult time getting through the mood swings and depression she's been going through for about the past 2 months.

It's very frustrating to me that she doesn't want to take meds (for financial and moral "I can work through it") reasons. I have offered to pay for them but she declines.


Anyone been in this situation? It's hard for me not to back out of everything right now - I am hoping that things will get better... She finally went and got her scrip filled yesterday so we'll see.


bleh

Yep. I couldn't love someone who didn't love herself. She got on the pills for a little while, and it made her feel ok about hating herself, instead of feeling bad about hating herself. She still hated herself, and I'm just too happy of a person in general to be around someone who's always a downer.

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: zixxer
We've been dating for about 9 months now. I am having a really difficult time getting through the mood swings and depression she's been going through for about the past 2 months.

It's very frustrating to me that she doesn't want to take meds (for financial and moral "I can work through it") reasons. I have offered to pay for them but she declines.


Anyone been in this situation? It's hard for me not to back out of everything right now - I am hoping that things will get better... She finally went and got her scrip filled yesterday so we'll see.


bleh

Yep. I couldn't love someone who didn't love herself. She got on the pills for a little while, and it made her feel ok about hating herself, instead of feeling bad about hating herself. She still hated herself, and
I'm just too happy of a person in general to be around someone who's always a downer.

so um.. how did you put that into words to her?

 

[BD2003]

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: BD2003

Originally posted by: zixxer
We've been dating for about 9 months now. I am having a really difficult time getting through the mood swings and depression she's been going through for about the past 2 months.

It's very frustrating to me that she doesn't want to take meds (for financial and moral "I can work through it") reasons. I have offered to pay for them but she declines.


Anyone been in this situation? It's hard for me not to back out of everything right now - I am hoping that things will get better... She finally went and got her scrip filled yesterday so we'll see.


bleh

Yep. I couldn't love someone who didn't love herself. She got on the pills for a little while, and it made her feel ok about hating herself, instead of feeling bad about hating herself. She still hated herself, and
I'm just too happy of a person in general to be around someone who's always a downer.

so um.. how did you put that into words to her?

I didnt. Relationship just deteriorated until one day she came to break up with me, and I was just like "You don't need to give the speech. It was nice while it lasted. Bye."

She moved to Cali, I had a week or two withdrawal, and I moved on.

 

[Feneant2]

Just be there for her, give her a shoulder to cry on. Listen to her when she wants to talk and don't judge her. Depression hits some people a lot harder than others, they need your support.

 

[spherrod]

My wife was quite badly depressed a couple of years ago - we found an excellent psychologist who was able to really help and after a while she found she needed to go less and less. The psychologist also recommended some medication as well but again she soon found it was ok not to use it. Feel free to PM me if you want more details, I know how difficult it can be for everyone involved.

 

[Doboji]

Originally posted by: zixxer
We've been dating for about 9 months now. I am having a really difficult time getting through the mood swings and depression she's been going through for about the past 2 months.

It's very frustrating to me that she doesn't want to take meds (for financial and moral "I can work through it") reasons. I have offered to pay for them but she declines.


Anyone been in this situation? It's hard for me not to back out of everything right now - I am hoping that things will get better... She finally went and got her scrip filled yesterday so we'll see.


bleh

Just reaching the tail end of my Fiancee's depression... I hope...

The answer... it's really really hard... You really have to decide if this person is worth your pain and suffering...

You cannot stay with her because you're afraid of the damage it will do her if you leave.

Only stay if you really want to be with her enough to wait this thing out.