Anybody have a strained relationship with a parent and not talk to them for years?

[holden j caufield]

Did you regret it or did time eventually help fix things?

 

[sixone]

Yup. Not my choice, hers. So only she can fix things, time won't.

 

[purepolly]

iAbsolutely! Going on ten years and I haven't regretted it at all.

 

[Shawn]

Nope. I talk to my parents several times a week. My grandparents too.

 

[SmoochyTX]

To the question in your topic title? Yes
To the question in your OP? No and time's still going on.

 

[AmerDoux]

I havent spoken to my mother in 6 years and I dont plan on ever speaking to her again. Absolutely no regrets.

 

[wahoyaho]

I can't begin to grasp the idea of not talking to your parents, would any of you care to share the stories as to how this relationship between your parents came to be?

 

[holden j caufield]

Originally posted by: wahoyaho
I can't begin to grasp the idea of not talking to your parents, would any of you care to share the stories as to how this relationship between your parents came to be?

Nobody will understand until they've walked in another person's shoes I don't think these situations can be properly described in words. It seems like the people who have done it don't regret it or attempt or want to solve it. I'm sure some people are so different that it can't be solved, I was just pondering

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: wahoyaho
I can't begin to grasp the idea of not talking to your parents, would any of you care to share the stories as to how this relationship between your parents came to be?

My mother has spent her whole adult life expecting other people to do the things she's too lazy to do for herself. My father finally left her, and in order to get along with her, I have to have to sever all ties to him. No Switzerland for j00!! She's also cut off her father, sister, and brother, who I see regularly.

OTOH, she got my brothers.

 

[SmoochyTX]

Originally posted by: holden j caufield

Originally posted by: wahoyaho
I can't begin to grasp the idea of not talking to your parents, would any of you care to share the stories as to how this relationship between your parents came to be?

Nobody will understand until they've walked in another person's shoes I don't think these situations can be properly described in words. It seems like the people who have done it don't regret it or attempt or want to solve it. I'm sure some people are so different that it can't be solved, I was just pondering

 

[Mucho]

My relationship with my mother is extremely stressed, I doubt they will be any amelioration while she is still living.

 

[RadioHead84]

nope i talk to my mom or dad at least twice a week just to keep them updated and visa versa...can't imagine it any other way.

 

[DainBramaged]

I speak to my parents several times a week. Mom and I are getting breakfast tomorrow.

 

[theprodigalrebel]

My older brother and father haven't spoken in years. I don't blame my brother at all. Good for him.

My Dad hated my brother all his life just because he was a below-average-to-average student. That's it. Nothing else. He was never good at studies and that was reason enough for my Dad to hate him like he was the Anti-Christ.

 

[BoomerD]

My wife didn't speak to her mother for about 3 years. Her mother died before they could reconcile.
IMO, they were both at fault in the rift, and while I understood my wife's point, I believed SHE should have made the attempt.
Now that her mom is gone, she wished she had.
(regrets, we've had a few...)

 

[moshquerade]

I haven't spoken to my father in 5 years. Not due to a strained relationship, but due to his death.

I realize some parents are awful and some children are better off not communicating with them, but sometimes it's worth the effort to reconcile, forgive and forget, while you have the chance.