Any relationship experts here?

[Jessi]

My best friend was recently dumped by her boyfriend and she's totally devastated!! Every time i talk to her, she's crying uncontrollably! She seems to love him very much but I guess he just doesn't want to be in a relationship. I don't really know what happened between them, but is there anyway I can make her feel better? What can I say to her? Please help.

 

[Total Refected Power]

Be a bestfriend. That's all. Just spend time together. Talk. The pain will fade and soon she will be looking for a new beau.


BTW: I am not a "relationship expert", I just play one on OT.

 

[Isla]

Well, I'd tell her that she needs to stop wasting her time crying about something she can't change and get up and do something positive.

Essentially, she is feeling sorry for herself because she isn't getting what it is she thought she wanted... but once she gets a little distance from the relationship, she will probably realize he wasn't what she thought he was, anyway.

She is putting too much importance on a relationship and not enough on her own self worth.


edit: TRP, you are too nice. My big sister always just slapped me around when I got all weepy.

 

[Total Refected Power]

ISLA with the "tough love" approach. I like it!!!!!!!!

 

[Czar]

Yeah, be her best friend, take her out, do something to gether as friends, take a weekend trip somewhere, just try to get her mind of him. It will take time.

 

[Jessi]

Isla I'm hoping she'll realize that too. I'm thinking that it's just a phase she's going through, but she seems to be genuinely hurt. I think you're rite, a little distance will do her some good.

thanks for helping

 

[Fathom5]

<< My big sister always just slapped me around when I got all weepy. >>


Great, now you tell me, had I known this last year I would've called and gotten slapped around. Could saved a year of my life!

 

[sweetrobin]

Well you can do what I did for my friend when she ended a 3 year relationship with a creep who had gotten her pregnant talked her in to getting an abortion and then cheated on her with a &quot;good&quot; friend of hers. I held her when she needed to cry ... then I told her that she was better off without him and there was something better for her out there in life. Then I proceeding in introducing her to new people to make friends with. Took her to parties, went out with her and taught her how to have a good time again being single. Then after she had healed some she realized that breaking up with this guy was the best thing that had ever happened to her. She dated several different people before getting serious again. The next guy she got serious about she married and now has a wonderful little 1 year old daughter by him and they are extremely happy together ( well right night he is on a 6 month ship deployment with the marines but he will be back in a few months and when he comes back he will be out of the military and they can go on with the rest of their lives). She is so glad that she got out of the former no good relationship.