Any dads paying child support to the state? I need some advice please!

[amddude]

Supposedly some filing my ex-wife did back last year (with the department of revenue) has finally kicked in and the state wants me to pay my child support directly to them. I started doing so and that was going fine. Then for a reason I cannot explain, my ex told the state that when I was paying her directly (according to my divorce agreement) that I didn't give her $460 worth of payments. The state then came after me and told me that I was behind and needed to pay or else my license is suspended, etc etc. I filed a motion to contest this at my county courthouse along with copies of the receipts, divorce agreement, etc. That filing was wednesday.

Now with that background, the state is now (today, friday) telling my employer they are going to garnish my wages directly but at a rate higher than they should be. Instead of $150 per check they are going to take $180. This will kick in on 11/30. I'm not sure if I need to get a lawyer involved at this point or what. Should I just wait for my original filing to process?

Any suggestions?

 

[mizzou]

i work for child support enforcement,

don't ever pay directly, that sucks man =(

sounds like the local agency is working out the order to withold. You should probably get with an attorney if you think financially it will pay off.

You need to get credit for what you pay for your kid/s

 

[MotF Bane]

Yep, probably going to need a lawyer. Sounds like the state and/or ex-wife fucked you, which is about normal for a divorce.

 

[SacrosanctFiend]

Get a lawyer involved. Now.

 

[mizzou]

I'm not going to and can't give you any legal advice since I'm not an attorney, but she should have filed some type of affidavit with the state reflecting the direct payments she's received in the past. If you have any records of these types of payments you should contest this with the state and see if they can fix it.

Good luck working with the state, with layoffs and no budgets usually you get someone totally inept and complacent at what they are doing because they are either snowballed with work or they can't retain quality employment. Sometimes you get some quality people though who can get it straightened out.

I don't know all that much about these civil actions but you definitly should at least talk to a private attorney or maybe even her representation. Just keep in mind that you can get prosecuted for non-payment of child support (taken to civil court by the state on behalf of the child/ren or you can be prosecuted criminally by the state w/ custodial parent as the witness of the crime) Usually only low-to no-income people utilize state services to this extent.

 

[amddude]

I'm not going to and can't give you any legal advice since I'm not an attorney, but she should have filed some type of affidavit with the state reflecting the direct payments she's received in the past. If you have any records of these types of payments you should contest this with the state and see if they can fix it.

Good luck working with the state, with layoffs and no budgets usually you get someone totally inept and complacent at what they are doing because they are either snowballed with work or they can't retain quality employment. Sometimes you get some quality people though who can get it straightened out.

I don't know all that much about these civil actions but you definitly should at least talk to a private attorney or maybe even her representation. Just keep in mind that you can get prosecuted for non-payment of child support (taken to civil court by the state on behalf of the child/ren or you can be prosecuted criminally by the state w/ custodial parent as the witness of the crime) Usually only low-to no-income people utilize state services to this extent.

I've already filed a motion to contest the $460 she/the state thinks I owe, and in that filing I included a copy of all my receipts she's given me and a copy of the divorce agreement stating it's $300/month not $150/2 weeks.

I think the state is confused and is charging me $150/2 weeks which might explain that $460 number somehow. I wish I understood the timeframes this stuff takes better. It is definitely frustrating.

I figured I would go down to the local child support office with all my paperwork and see if I can fix it. If they give me any grief I'd go to a lawyer. Do you think I should cut past all that and go to the lawyer step?

 

[Miramonti]

The state is going to go after their cut, whether you pay her directly or not.

 

[amddude]

The state is going to go after their cut, whether you pay her directly or not.

Not sure what you mean by that.

FWIW, the paying direct thing was just what the divorce agreement stated and I have receipts for everything up until (and after) 10/15 when I started paying the state directly.

 

[Ausm]

I hope you paid her with a check.

 

[amdhunter]

This is exactly why prostitution should be legal.

At least with a prostitute you pay a whore only when you want some. With a regular whore you sex constantly, you can end up paying for the rest of life and rarely, if ever, get some again from her.

 

[rudeguy]

This is exactly why prostitution should be legal.

At least with a prostitute you pay a whore only when you want some. With a regular whore you sex constantly, you can end up paying for the rest of life and rarely, if ever, get some again from her.

sis cut you off again?

 

[shortylickens]

When I was working in Oregon I learned thats one of the worst states to be a divorced male.
They fuck the man over like a thai hooker.

 

[amddude]

I hope you paid her with a check.

Mostly money orders but I have signed receipts from her.

 

[JD50]

You only have to pay $300 per month in child support? I thought it was usually much more than that?

 

[amddude]

You only have to pay $300 per month in child support? I thought it was usually much more than that?

She's an idiot and I negotiated her down by $100-150. I actually pay $400 but since I let her keep the car, I get reduced support for several years.

 

[69Mach1]

Supposedly some filing my ex-wife did back last year (with the department of revenue) has finally kicked in and the state wants me to pay my child support directly to them. I started doing so and that was going fine. Then for a reason I cannot explain, my ex told the state that when I was paying her directly (according to my divorce agreement) that I didn't give her $460 worth of payments. The state then came after me and told me that I was behind and needed to pay or else my license is suspended, etc etc. I filed a motion to contest this at my county courthouse along with copies of the receipts, divorce agreement, etc. That filing was wednesday.

Now with that background, the state is now (today, friday) telling my employer they are going to garnish my wages directly but at a rate higher than they should be. Instead of $150 per check they are going to take $180. This will kick in on 11/30. I'm not sure if I need to get a lawyer involved at this point or what. Should I just wait for my original filing to process?

Any suggestions?

Get the lawyer and get it done yesterday. They should need more than just the ex wifes say so to garnish your wages. You need professional help asap.

 

[69Mach1]

Not sure what you mean by that.

FWIW, the paying direct thing was just what the divorce agreement stated and I have receipts for everything up until (and after) 10/15 when I started paying the state directly.

When you pay you child support through the state, they keep a fee for doing the collecting. I'm not sure whether it's a flat fee or a percentage, but when the state wanted me to pay them, my ex freaked out because she would have gotten less money than if I paid her direct. They backed off, so I still pay her directly, but I've saved every canceled check just for insurance.

 

[lxskllr]

It doesn't matter what you do, you'll be fucked regardless.

 

[dawp]

You only have to pay $300 per month in child support? I thought it was usually much more than that?

It goes by how much you make, it's generally a percentage of gross, higher with more kids. But if you can get her to accept less and the judge approves, it can be lower.


From past experience, since you have receipts, you should have not trouble contesting this. I made the mistake of paying cash and didn't get receipts and was screwed big time. but i got back at her later, offered her $500/mo when she could have gotten more and later the kids moved in with me after my son graduated HS and really don't want anything to do with her.