Another Way to Treat a Woman!

Anghang

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How a nice guy got even at the end. My CL date story

Well, I am a single guy a very cool guy down to earth and no secret agendas. I put an ad on Craigs list looking for a date, and got a response from a girl who said she was single too and looking for a date for the weekend. We talk on he phone and she was all cool and everything, I asked her if she wanted to grab coffee and a snack and then go to the movies this Saturday night. So we decide to meet at this place called Bari Cafe, and I figure we can have coffee and eat something there. She looked very nice but I noticed that she was very cold about the way she introduced herself once she met me. Notice that I am not a ugly guy, I might not be a Greek God, but I am a normal decent in shape guy. I figure she might've been shy, the first thing she said is that she was hungry and asked me if I didn't mind going to a restaurant.

I figured why not , so we get out of there and walk a few blocks and she picks this restaurant. I don't know the name but it looks like a very fancy restaurant and then she goes down with me and orders some Merlot and then another and some appetizers that were a little pricey , I was confused about all this, because even though I have the money to pay for all this , I was not planning on taking a stranger to a fancy restaurant right out on our first date. She is still cold and talking only about herself and I noticed that she was not interested in me, but only on the drinks and the food. So we get to the main course and she gets a pricey entree, and I got something too, but I knew that I was going to be stuck with the bill. I knew it becasue she said she was out of work and having a problem finding a job, so I know she was not going to split the bill with me.

I was upset about the whole thing, and to be honest I am tired to be taken advantage off. I got up and told her that I was going to make a phone call, she knew I was going to come back because I left my Gap jacket, ( i bought it on sale for $23 dollars ) , so she never suspected I was going to dissapear because I left my jacket there.

So I go out and tell the guy at the entrance that I am going out to smoke an make a phone call. I got out and headed straight to the train. I left that girl with my food and her food. Well, I got home and my voice mail was inundated with her phone calls, the girl had to pay the bill which came to $180 dollars , and she did not have money and she said that I did not have class and that I should send her the money , she left many nasty messages trying to get her money back from me. She ended up paying the bill with a credit card and all I lost was a cheap Gap Jacket that I got on sale.

I am not an ashole I figure that if you don't like me at least let's have a nice time as friends but don't treat me like I am an idiot. I don't feel bad for what I did.

Although I lost a Jacket, I still don't lose hope that there are nice girls out there for me.

Thanks for hearing my story,

http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/nyc/30828412.html

Cliffs:
1. guy puts ad on CL looking for a date, girl responds
2. girl seems nice chatting on the phone
3. agreed that first date will be coffee, snacks and a movie
4. girl pulls bait & switch and chooses a fancy restaurant
5. girl orders wine and a lot of pricey appetizers and entree
6. girl's attitude is self-centered and cold towards the guy
7. guy knows she's trying to stick him with the bill because she rants about being jobless
8. guy gets up to make a phone call, leaves jacket behind to show he's coming back
9. guy goes home, leaves her with the bill
10. girl had to pay the bill ($180)
11. girl leaves many nasty voicemails trying to get him to send her the money
12. guy saves $180 and only lost a cheap $23 Gap jacket that he bought on sale

ever since it's original posting, there's always been references to the Gap Jacket Guy here and there around CL, no one knows who he is but he seems to have become a quasi-hero to "nice guys" in NYC...

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SlitheryDee

Great story. I prolly would have bitched out and paid the bill.
 

Kadarin

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Originally posted by: Anghang
1. guy puts ad on CL looking for a date, girl responds

I'm going to have to call shens on the whole story, based on point 1, above. Sorry.

;)
 

Nitemare

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As soon as she ordered those expensive appetizers I would have insisted on seperate checks or at the very least a hummer.
 

neutralizer

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Originally posted by: radioouman
So she is poor, jobless and looking for a warm meal.

That's no excuse to go to a fancy restaurant and order pricey appetizers while being cold to the guy.
 

Anghang

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Originally posted by: Nitemare
As soon as she ordered those expensive appetizers I would have insisted on seperate checks or at the very least a hummer.

BWAHAHAHAHA...hand her a small card or piece of paper with a breakdown of what's expected based upon what she orders :p
 

skace

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Remind me to get a cheap jacket.... I would have had to leave my t-shirt or something instead.....
 

Nitemare

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Originally posted by: Anghang
Originally posted by: Nitemare
As soon as she ordered those expensive appetizers I would have insisted on seperate checks or at the very least a hummer.

BWAHAHAHAHA...hand her a small card or piece of paper with a breakdown of what's expected based upon what she orders :p

:evil:

That would be so tempting
 

Alex

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well i guess thats kinda harsh... i dunno ive never been played like that before but i think they guy might have been a lil quick jumping the gun... he could at least have finished his meal and drank some wine before making the decision to bail... the GAP sweatshirt was definitely a nice touch, gotta remember that one!
 

PingSpike

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Originally posted by: franguinho
well i guess thats kinda harsh... i dunno ive never been played like that before but i think they guy might have been a lil quick jumping the gun... he could at least have finished his meal and drank some wine before making the decision to bail... the GAP sweatshirt was definitely a nice touch, gotta remember that one!

Naw, you trust your gut. It knows. Every mistake I've ever made regarding women...I can trace back to me ignoring my instincts out of either wishful thinking or horniness.
 

DAGTA

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I would have stayed and paid the dinner just because I'm too nice like that but I definitely would have hated her the entire time and would have been cold to her for the rest of the evening. I do find his story humorous and I don't feel sorry for her in the least.
 

Crescent13

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In the beginning I would have said, "I thought we planned on having coffee at the cafe". I wouldn't have said "ok whatever lets go out to an expensive restaurant".
 

Anghang

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Originally posted by: Crescent13
In the beginning I would have said, "I thought we planned on having coffee at the cafe". I wouldn't have said "ok whatever lets go out to an expensive restaurant".

a common flaw with "nice guys"...they tend to be easily swayed to go with whatever decision the opposite sex wants...which is the case here or it could've been that he was giving her the benefit of the doubt (another nice guy tendency), she could've ordered small, but that obviously wasn't her intention ordering more than 1 Merlot and pricey appetizers...quite a jump from what was originally supposed to be coffee, snacks and a movie...hehe