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Another Update: Now engaged, now the "fun" really begins.

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Here's the whole story on why I picked today to pop the question...

This week has been absolutely crazy... Finished exams late Thursday, and then I had to go to my firm's Christmas party (Friday night). Saturday night, I went to my girlfriend's company's Christmas party. Having spent some real quality time with her, I felt that the time was right to finally tie the knot.

Today, Sunday, I decided to take a break from my paper (due Tuesday) to go shopping today with her for a ring. My GF wanted me to ask her dad (Church of Christ), so I decided that, since I had no idea how to go about this with her dad, I should ask the Junior Helpers in this forum. 🙂

I took the advice given... (Viewton's method actually.) I asked her father, and he responded "Allright. I guess so." Taking that as an unqualified "yes," my GF and I went to pick out the ring together (loose diamond and mounting), and the rest is history. I would have gone about it a bit differently (more secretive), but I got one hell of a deal on the diamond (1.1 K = $2,100), because the jeweler made a mistake. After I threatened a tiny lawsuit (DTPA), I got the low price that I was quoted. Those cheap bastards in the hot deals forum would be proud.

Now all I really need is reservations at a nice restaurant to make it all "very" official.

The rest of the day has consisted of a lot of planning with my Mom... Now I've totally lost control of the situation... We're talking guest lists and finger sandwiches.

I have heard the saying that a wedding is larger than 2 people before, now I know why they say that.

Too late to elope?

Oh - here is a pic. Link!
 
You don't have to do it, and most of the time it's not expected, but you get big bonus pts with the parents if you do.

Ask him if he has time to go to lunch some time soon...and ask him there. If that won't work, just talk to him in person when your GF's not around.
 
I have 2 sisters and before each proposal, the gave a simple phone call to my dad asking your question. I feel sorry for them, my dad would talk for at least an hour.

 
Well traditionally, which I assume you are going for, asking for the father's blessing in marriage to his daughter mostly consisted of showing you were capable of providing a reasonable living for her and any future rug rats, emotionally stable is always a plus too. How old are you both, and what kind of relationship do you have already with her father?

(I could have provided a better answer but I was distracted by BoberFett's crotch! :Q)
 
I'd agree with viewton, just ask him to lunch, tell him you're going to ask (insert name here) to marry you, and you'd like his blessing.
 
Well - the problem is that he lives a couple of hundred miles away in the middle of BFE, Texas. I found a really good deal on a diamond (not at Staples 🙂 ) and I need to purchase the ring, but I want to get his ok before I do it.

How do you do it by phone? Any ideas? I'm dyin' here.
 
I would say the best way to do it is in person, but since that is out of the question just be like: "I love your daughter and would like to ask her for her hand in marriage, but before I did so I would like your approval"
 


<< yeah get him drunk before you ask him >>



lol

Just keep it short and sweet on the phone.

"Mr [blank] or [First name], I've been dating your daughter for [amount of time] now, and I love her with all my heart, and I would like to ask her to marry me. I would like to ask for your blessing before I do that though."
 
Just call him up chief. If you aren't going to drive to ask him, you've gotta call and ask. Here is what you do:

Call him
Ask to speak to him
Ask him how he is doing and how everything is going
Then say "The real reason why I called is that I would like to ask your daughter to marry me. However, I wanted to get your thoughts on this first, as well as your permission and blessing."

Ryan 🙂
 


<< Oh- we're both 28. She insists that I ask her dad... >>

I think minendo's advice sounds good in this case. No chance of seeing him in person over the holiday break or anytime soon?
 
What if he says no?

Then I try to go with the aggressive sales approach. I'll remind him that his daughter is not getting any younger, and that she is going to be a little harder to maintain and repair as her chassis ages. I'll then tell him he's already upside-down on her, and say that I'd still be willing to take her off his hands for $500.

Is that too direct?
 
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