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FSB on the A64 platform is now called HTT, the terms are still used interchangably in fact. Motherboards like the DFI Lanparty UT 250gb based on the nf3 chipset allow you to use what's called a memory diveder. this is handy because all A64 (with the excpetion of the FX series) have their multipliers locked past the multipler they rated at. For instance my 3200+ 754 is locked with a multi of 10 so, unlike the XP series, I cannot really use the multiplier to assist in the OC'ing of the proc. Therefore that leaves only the FSB/HTT to fiddle with.
You're correct in stating the memory CONTROLLER is on the CPU which reduces the sum length of channels involved with exchanging data between your CPU and your RAM, but that does not change the fact that your RAM is obviously not located on your CPU. This means that your RAM is still going to be a limiting factor in how high you can OC. The integrated memory controller on the AMD64 allows the FSB/HTT to reach, in many cases, 260Mhz or higher, but can your RAM handle that speed? 260Mhz in DDR terms is 520Mhz, which requires 25% increase over typical PC3200 (200Mhz, or Double Data Rate 400Mhz) RAM. That's why many RAM manufacturues sell RAM that is rated UP TO PC4400 (Im probably wrong but I think that's somewhere around 260Mhz), etc. The thing is, you don't need your RAM to run as fast as your FSB/HTT and that is why we have a memory divider.
The memory divider allows us to greatly increase the FSB/HTT of our CPU's allowing this route for AMD64 OC'ing without taxing the hell out of our RAM. For instance if you bumbped up your FSB/HTT to 250Mhz with a CPU multipler of 10 that would put your CPU to 2.5Ghz. Pretty straightforward. If you wanted your PC3200 RAM to STAY at PC3200 speeds, you would set your memory divider to a ratio of 5:4 (ratio translates to 5=cpu 4=RAM.) Now you have a 2.5ghz CPU with RAM running at a comfortable 200 Mhz / DDR 400Mhz.
You might be wondering what the penalty of using the memory divider is, and here's the great part; it's not very insignificant. Anyone on here will tell you the forum member Zebo wrote up an excellent article he posted here about the significance of the memory divider that you might want to read as it verifies rather indisputedly the claim.
Regardless, many still want inrease their memory bandwidth and therefore try achieve their hufe FSB/HTT OC's with a 1:1 divider; meaning, their RAM is running at full speed with their FSB/HTT. This requires the type of RAM I spoke of earlier (the PC4400 type stuff) and WILL improve your memory bandwidth. People like myself however don't believe the performance returns justifies the expense of premium quality RAM when , for half the price, you can get decent value RAM that will enable your PC to run within 3% toi 5%.
Now as far as your A8N is concerned, I have no experience with and have not ready anything about it so someone elese would have to answer whether or not it can support extrememly high FSB/HTT speeds. I would suspect it can however, in which case you can feel free to purchase better RAM at a latter date, drop you CPU multiplier a bit and max out your RAM and FSB/HTT to maximize your RAM bandwidth while retaining whatever the max OC is for your CPU.
Hope this helps
John