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Am I too uptight?

You might have a hard time having fun in college if you define fun as partying. Otherwise, find friends that don't mind having fun without drinking/drugs and you'll do fine.

As for your female friends... if they really didn't like getting felt up, why do they continue to go to the clubs? Actions tell truth over words.
 
Originally posted by: fyleow
Senior year of High School is over and I've noticed changes that my friends have went through. A lot of them chose to drink, smoke (hookah), go clubbing and it doesn't appeal to me very much. I don't drink because I don't like the way you lose self control and judgement and also because of family history. I don't smoke hookah because it still contains tobacco and it just seems silly to me. I don't mind clubbing but I just don't like it when my (female) friends get harrassed and felt up against their will (which undoubtedly happens)

So given all this, do you think I'm too uptight? Am I going to have a hard time fitting in and having fun in college?

Serious question guys. I'd really appreciate thoughts on this matter.
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I feel the exact same way you do. I don't understand why people do those things to themselves.
 
I agree with DAGTA about the female friends bit. It's not a given that a girl is going to get felt up at a club, but there's a chance that it'll happen. However, if your friends still like to go regardless, then either they have some odd fetish for that sort of thing...or they seem to enjoy themselves even with the occassional bad moment or two.

As for you: just do whatever you want to do to have fun. The only thing I'd say is not to look down on others based on their chosen avenues of recreation. There's a good chance you'll change your mind about a lot of things between now and when you finish college; just don't shut yourself out of once-in-a-lifetime experiences because you're too closed-minded to try them. And no, this doesn't necessarily relate to drugs and/or alcohol in particular.
 
Originally posted by: TheBDB
Originally posted by: bradruth
No, I'm the same way. You can have fun in college without partying.
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That is true. You can also have MORE fun partying.
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:thumbsup:

the big problems are going to come in college if you have friends that drink. I love drinking, but IMO, being the only sober person in a room full of drunk people is one of the suckiest things in the world.

if you don't drink, going to bars with your friends is kinda pointless, unless you want to sit there with a book and be the DD every time.
 
Originally posted by: fyleow
A lot of them chose to drink, smoke (hookah), go clubbing and it doesn't appeal to me very much. I don't drink because I don't like the way you lose self control and judgement and also because of family history. I don't smoke hookah because it still contains tobacco and it just seems silly to me.
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mmm ... hookah. cigars aren't bad too, nothing better than puffing one with friends while relaxing on a summer evening :beer:
 
wtf is hookah?

No, btw. The world needs people to flip burgers and pump gas. Partying too much is a great ticket in.
 
Originally posted by: fyleow
Senior year of High School is over and I've noticed changes that my friends have went through. A lot of them chose to drink, smoke (hookah), go clubbing and it doesn't appeal to me very much. I don't drink because I don't like the way you lose self control and judgement and also because of family history. I don't smoke hookah because it still contains tobacco and it just seems silly to me. I don't mind clubbing but I just don't like it when my (female) friends get harrassed and felt up against their will (which undoubtedly happens)

So given all this, do you think I'm too uptight? Am I going to have a hard time fitting in and having fun in college?

Serious question guys. I'd really appreciate thoughts on this matter.
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You are not too uptight at all. Kudos for living life with high standards instead of belittling yourself just to be accepted. 🙂
 
booze, smoking, clubs... bah, you only live once! if thats not your cup of tea, so be it, but those things do appeal to the majority of the college population, and it isnt going to be fun being the odd-man out. besides, you truly havent lived* if you havent been on the receiving end of a beer bong, or go shot for shot with your best friends with a bottle of jager sitting right there in the middle of the table. 😀

*disclaimer: these activites may not appeal to you, party at your own risk.
 
if you graduate college without a good story about a drunken hook-up with a fat/ugly/bearded woman, you did something wrong.
 
Originally posted by: FFMCobalt
Originally posted by: fyleow
Senior year of High School is over and I've noticed changes that my friends have went through. A lot of them chose to drink, smoke (hookah), go clubbing and it doesn't appeal to me very much. I don't drink because I don't like the way you lose self control and judgement and also because of family history. I don't smoke hookah because it still contains tobacco and it just seems silly to me. I don't mind clubbing but I just don't like it when my (female) friends get harrassed and felt up against their will (which undoubtedly happens)

So given all this, do you think I'm too uptight? Am I going to have a hard time fitting in and having fun in college?

Serious question guys. I'd really appreciate thoughts on this matter.
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You are not too uptight at all. Kudos for living life with high standards instead of belittling yourself just to be accepted. 🙂
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I agree with Nick; quick, someone shoot me.😛
 
Try it once. You'll have all the information you need to make a decision on whether or not you want to stay drug/alcohol/etc. free. You might catch a little flak at college for not drinking but I doubt it will be a problem.
 
i like your reasonings. you seem to want to stay in control of your life, and you have a good reason for not smoking. i prefer a different lifestyle, but i can respect what you do and not look down upon that. and a few people here seem to agree with you, so your not alone in this rationale.
 
Did the whole party thing my freshman year. Had lots of friends and connections so went to some fun parties and clubs. After awhile it gets old. People throwing up and acting like idiots cause they are drunk off their keister not the greatest fun. I have TONS more fun hanging with friends now outside of the whole party/drinking scene. Stick with your ideals.
 
Originally posted by: fyleow
Thanks for the support and reassurance.

I have drunk before, with a good friend of mine and it was "fun" taking shot after shot of rum and coke. I just didn't like the after effects and like I said before I don't like losing control and judgement. I mean I probably don't mind having a beer once in awhile if I'm out with friends, but nothing hard and being drunk is not for me. But I've experienced it so I know what it's like.

As for smoking, one of the things I enjoy is running. I really love to do it and I wouldn't take any chances with smoking. I know it won't kill me if I do it once in awhile but again it doesn't appeal to me and it wouldn't feel right.

Anyway the purpose of this thread is to ask what other people's experiences were like since some of you guys are in/went through college. I am adament about my beliefs and I do not look down on those who drink/smoke/whatever. I'm just wondering if there are a lot/any people like me out there in college who choose a different kind of lifestyle.
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My lifestyle in college was completely different than the one you're looking at. Parties almost every weekend except during finals. Probably the most fun I've ever had. Even if you don't get drunk, college is going to rock.
 
does not drinking/smoking prevent you from interacting with other people in a social environment (ie, parties)? if not you'll be fine.
 
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