Am I the only person who is single and happy about it?

[Noriaki]

Am I the only person who is single and happy about it?

I don't just mean being able to put up a happy front because I can't find anyone.

I am single, and I like it. I'm a happy person. I don't feel any need at all to have a girlfriend.

Half the people I know in real life are feeling like crap because of something woman related. Most of the "couples" I know seem to spend half their time fighting and being generally unhappy with each other. And there seem to be a lot of bad threads about relationships.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that I think that relationships are all bad or that nothing good can come from them. I'm sure there is a great deal of good and general happiness that they can bring.

But a lot of people seem to be so miserable because they don't have a solid relationship with someone else.

It seems to me that a lot of these people would be better learning how to be happy while they are single...but many people seem to think that being Single and being Happy are mutually exclusive conditions.

Maybe I have a mental condition and I just think I'm single and happy? I dunno...I honestly don't know anyone else in real life who is single and really happy about it. Is there anyone out there in ATOT land who is actually single and happy?

Again...not just pretending to be happy because they can't get someone...but actually content with who they are and being single?

 

[Zorro]

 

[iamme]

Have you ever been in a serious relationship?

 

[chrisjor]

no. I am happy.

 

[zod]

Yes, you are the only person.

<sniff> I want a gf. </sniff>

 

[Noriaki]

Originally posted by: iamme
Have you ever been in a serious relationship?

Not really. But it's not really relevant to my post.

I know people that haven't been in a serious relationship and beat themselves up every day about it.
I used to be one of these people...I felt like a failure because I couldn't get a girlfriend in high school. But I grew up and got past that. And now I'm quite happy with my life. I don't feel like I need a woman in my life to make me happy. I can be happy without that. It's probably something I'll try someday, see if it makes me happier, but right now I'm plenty happy without one.

I know people that have been, but aren't now, and this they are miserable failures because they can't find someone new.
I know people that are now, and are miserably unhappy about it.

Always been single, or just single now, are people be happy about it?

 

[fr]

Me.

 

[StattlichPassat]

I'm not happy that I'm single. Actually, I guess I kinda am.. I can't afford a girlfriend right now!

 

[Mucman]

I used to think I was happy being single, but I realized I was fooling myself... I don't want to date though, I just want to go straight into a relationship

 

[Kelvrick]

When I was single, I was happy too. I just like having someone though.

I figure if you can be happy both ways, you've got it made.

 

[Ameesh]

i dont really care one way or another, if it happens it happens if it doesnt oh well.

 

[dirtboy]

I am happy about being single! I know who I am, where I'm going and I have no need for a relationship. I've been married and I can say being single is soooooooooooooooo much better.

 

[iamme]

Originally posted by: Noriaki

Originally posted by: iamme
Have you ever been in a serious relationship?

Not really. But it's not really relevant to my post.

I know people that haven't been in a serious relationship and beat themselves up every day about it.
I used to be one of these people...I felt like a failure because I couldn't get a girlfriend in high school. But I grew up and got past that. And now I'm quite happy with my life. I don't feel like I need a woman in my life to make me happy. I can be happy without that. It's probably something I'll try someday, see if it makes me happier, but right now I'm plenty happy without one.

I know people that have been, but aren't now, and this they are miserable failures because they can't find someone new.
I know people that are now, and are miserably unhappy about it.

Always been single, or just single now, are people be happy about it?

I think it's great that you're happy being single. I think you need to be able to happy as a single person before you commit to serious relationships. I know people who stay w/ someone, just to "be with someone". Being emotionally dependent is bad...

 

[Ryan]

I am single and I'm very happy. I also feel no need to be in a relationship right now. AS an matter of fact, I very content with just having very good friends

On the flip side, I have been in one serious relationship in my life, for three years, and I thought it was great. My girlfriend and I got along very well. THe only reason the relationship ended was because she had to move. We still keep in touch.

 

[Noriaki]

Originally posted by: Kelvrick
When I was single, I was happy too. I just like having someone though.

Nothing wrong with that at all. I'm not saying people being together shouldn't be happy. Just that it shoudln't be a requirement for happiness

I figure if you can be happy both ways, you've got it made.

I guess that's sort of my point

 

[pulse8]

I've been in a serious relationship (3 years) before and I'm perfectly happy with being single. I have other stuff to worry about and I've realized that I don't need anyone to be happy.

I didn't used to be this way and the break-up of me and my ex about 2 years ago helped me come to terms with this and I think it'll make my next relationship that much better because I don't think you should be too emotionally dependent on the other person for happiness.

 

[rh71]

I'm marrying my first and only. I don't think I would be as happy without having someone so close. I bother her at work everyday when I'm bored and at night and just whenever I feel like interacting with someone. It's just not the same with friends... because they have other friends or someone special too.

 

[Fritzo]

Yep...the rest of us are attached and WISH we were single

 

[Mucman]

rh71 - That's pretty cool! I will probably end up doing the same... If I may ask, how did you meet your significant other and where? PM me if you don't want to post it here

 

[BrunoPuntzJones]

Being single ownz. Sure it can be a bummer sometimes not having a special lady friend, but overall it's way cooler. I do what I want whenever I want to without having to worry about making anyone mad. I get to blow money on what I want. Just reading through hot deals about those little RC cars. I can blow hundreds of bucks on them without having to worry about what an SO would think or getting gripped out later because I didn't spend it on her. I can spend the weekend at the rifle range rather than shopping with someone. Not that I'm self-centered or anything It's just handy being able to do or buy whatever (plus there is more to spend since it's not spent on someone else).

 

[abaez]

No you are not. I am single and happy as hell I have great friends that are girls which fills in the companionship side of a
relationship. The sexual side I am fine without, and yes I have had a girlfriend.

 

[cerebusPu]

some days i feel like Im happy single.

some days i like that thrill you get when you are attracted to someone and you know they are attracted to you too.

if youre gonna be happy single you should at least make sure you;re not closing yourself off to the possibility of a delightful non-serious relationship.

 

[Blayze]

yes Im single and happy that I am...

 

[EvilYoda]

I'm not really single YET, but I will be, and I'll be very happy. Not because I don't like my relationship, but I haven't been single, really single, for about 4 years. (Current relationship is ~2.5 years, one before that was 1.5, and the single period in the middle was only a few months). I've learned many things from being in relationships, and I love my girl (although things are odd right now, as my recently posted thread attempts to explain), but it'll be nice to be free. I'm going to like being to work my charms, it's fun. And definitely more so when there's no feeling of wrongness.

I'm glad you can be content being single Noriaki.......I know I'll enjoy it for a while too, but I also really love knowing that I have someone, and that I'm that someone to somebody else. Granted, I also want to fool around with other people at the same time, but that's because I can't control myself.........

Shutting up, and going to bed. 'night all.

 

[her209]

I think you will be happy until you get into a car accident and both your arms get amputated.