Am I the one being the jerk here?

[Krazy4Real]

Any decent human being, when invited on an outing, offers to pay their way regardless of whether they have been asked by the host or not.

100% this.

 

[Remobz]

Mid week my friend and I agreed to go to hiking in the white mountains of NH. He does not have a car, and I, of course do. I just want to go for the hike and possible poison ivy. Its about $50 for gas up and back. When I thought about this, I asked if he could chip in $20. He was insulted and said that's the only reason why I asked him to go. Was I an A hole to ask? Its not like I waited until we got back from the trip and see if he would offer on his own.

I thought you were rich?

 

[Triumph]

Bullshit. I pay my way always and have no problem paying for others without expecting payback. The fact that his friend replied that he was "predictable" tells me that the OP is cheap. Think Costanza.

It's great that you can just throw money around like it's nothing, but for people who have to work for a living, gasoline is not cheap, and if you go on a trip with somebody, you should split the cost of the gas. Never mind that wear and tear on a car has a price associated with it, which the driver is eating.

All of this is really based upon the distance involved though. I'm not going to ask someone to chip in for gas to go to dinner up the street. Road trip, you bet your ass is paying for half of the gas. I'd say anytime I'm driving us somewhere that's more than a half a tank, you're paying too. Fucking cheapskates.

 

[MongGrel]

you know your true friends after being together for years. Usually its one person that makes money and one friend that is always poor but provides the laughs and memories.

I don't know your situation to say whether you are a jerk or not.

Somehow this explains a lot about your lack of social interaction problems.

 

[RandomWords]

No, you weren't.

 

[angminas]

I'm not reading all the horseshit responses in this thread, so if somebody has already said this, fine and great for them.

$50 is significant to most people. That's about a two hour trip each way, give or take? Anybody with a cerebral cortex should be able to figure out that it's going to cost a chunk of change and offer to pitch in, or at least be willing to help when asked.

Assuming you're not an asshole or psycho or hiding important info, if your friend instantly accused you of only wanting the money, he needs to chill waaaay the fuck out. How are you even friends with someone who's that on edge? Are you an asshole or psycho or hiding important info?

 

[angminas]

In addition to the financial side of it, sharing the cost is part of sharing the experience. Beyond a certain point of us-ness, it stops being "we did it" and turns into "I financed you doing it". That's not what friendship is about.