Am I socially obligated to go to my brother’s bachelor party?

[Mixolydian]

I don’t like him.

I mean, it’s bad enough I have to go to his wedding.

 

[dave_the_nerd]

Probably.

 

[vi edit]

It's a couple hours of your life. At the very least it'll probably take some stress off your parents knowing you are at least trying.

 

[DietDrThunder]

I don’t like him.

I mean, it’s bad enough I have to go to his wedding.

If you don't feel that it will effect your relationship with your mom, dad, and extended family, then no, you are not obliged to go.

You have a couple of options:

1) Just call and say that bachelor parties aren't your thing and that you won't be attending.

2) In the late afternoon of the bachelor party, go let the air out of one of the tires of your car, then call and say you have a flat tire (which is not a lie), and you will try to make it to the party, but it will be later. Send him a text with a photo of your car with a flat tire. Text him later in the evening that you won't be able to make it. Then go fill your car tire with air.

 

[allisolm]

Remember that it's not about you. Will it cause years of family drama if you don't go? Then go.

 

[bfun_x1]

Are you married? Some wives and girlfriends really don't want their men to go to bachelor parties. It'd be an easy excuse to use.

 

[BoomerD]

No. You don't HAVE to attend...and you don't HAVE to attend the wedding either.

 

[dasherHampton]

I would contact him and say "Look, man. I know we've had some differences in the past. Can we just bury the hatchet for one night and have a good time?"

You never know what might come out if it.

 

[Gryz]

Go. It's not worth the hassle if you don't go. You have to.

But nobody's telling you when you can leave. Go and be there in time. Do some innocent stupid stuff in the afternoon. Join them for dinner. I would guess before dinner people aren't drunk. Nobody got hurt yet. No foul words were said yet. Just enjoy your dinner. As soon as dinner is over, you can leave. Stay a bit. Don't drink yourself, so your judgement doesn't get affected. As soon as you really don't like it anymore, say goodbye to everyone and go home.

Worked for me.

 

[TeeJay1952]

Whose life are you living?

 

[zinfamous]

Go. stop being a dick.

 

[s0me0nesmind1]

Depends, will there be strippers?

 

[Mai72]

you dont have to do squat.

 

[Darwin333]

Will someone please think of the titties, THINK OF THE TITTIES! Strippers and booze is usually a good night.

In all seriousness, you don't have to go. I obviously have no clue about your relationship with your brother or how the rest of the family would react but assuming it's normal it would sort of be a dick move. I personally have zero problems with being a dick though. If you don't want to be a dick I'd take one of the two suggestions above, go and leave early or come up with some last minute excuse as to why you can't go, just make sure it is believable.

 

[MtnMan]

Go, get shit faced drunk and tell him what you think of him. What could go wrong?

 

[nurturedhate]

The answer is no if you genuinely do not like the person. If anyone else has a problem with that then stop seeing them also. People who make your life miserable should not be in your life. Toxic relationships should not be continued simply because you share DNA with someone, period.

 

[lxskllr]

I would contact him and say "Look, man. I know we've had some differences in the past. Can we just bury the hatchet for one night and have a good time?"

You never know what might come out if it.

and make sure you take your hatchet. You can bury it in his head :^P

 

[Chaotic42]

No. You don't HAVE to attend...and you don't HAVE to attend the wedding either.

Exactly.

If it makes your family mad, it makes them mad. Are they trying to pretend that everything is perfect when it isn't? If so, maybe they need a little bubble popping.

 

[Belegost]

I have always felt that bachelor's parties are optional, I personally refuse to attend them (and refused to hold one before my wedding) because I think the basis of such parties represent a sad twisted view of marriage.

That said prospective grooms are renown for doing very regrettable things at them; so a few pictures with good timing (good editing?) could save you from needing to attend the wedding.

 

[purbeast0]

If you're going to the wedding, go to the bachelor party. If you aren't going to the wedding, don't go to the bachelor party.

 

[purbeast0]

I have always felt that bachelor's parties are optional, I personally refuse to attend them (and refused to hold one before my wedding) because I think the basis of such parties represent a sad twisted view of marriage.

That said prospective grooms are renown for doing very regrettable things at them; so a few pictures with good timing (good editing?) could save you from needing to attend the wedding.

The bachelor party is for the friends of the groom just as much if not more so than the groom.

And no, regardless of what Hollywood tells you, most guys don't do anything regrettable at their bachelor party.

By your own words you don't go to bachelor parties either, so it's not like you have any experience with them.

 

[scannall]

Just show up, have a beer then excuse yourself with some reasonable excuse. "I have to get up early" or some such.

 

[SKORPI0]

Were you invited to the Bachelor Party/Wedding? Regardless of your "feud" with your brother, be a sport and show up. If you don't show up at the Bachelor Party he'll be just with friends.
It will be a nice gesture if you did. How did this disliking start anyway?

 

[snoopy7548]

Socially? No. Legally? Yes.

 

[slayer202]

does he know you don't like him? if so, don't go