My late night ramblings:
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Am I over-reacting? >>
Yes, you overreacted. Losing your temper is never a good idea under any circumstances and it certainly will not convince your elders of your maturity. Think about it, if you can't handle a simple conversation without spazzing out then how can they reasonably expect you to successfully navigate the many trials that come with cohabitation?
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Is my situation really that wrong? >>
Personally I don't think so but everyone has a right to their own opinions and no single position on this topic is definitively "right"--not yours, not mine, *nobody's*. If you feel that you are mature and responsible enough to handle this arrangement then as I see it your best option is to go ahead and prove it through
action, *not* by blustering like some spoiled child (no older person is going to be intimidated by that). Tell your aunt very calmly--incidently this will probably infuriate her more than screaming ever could--the following:
--that you respect and value her opinion and that is why you lost your temper
--that you are sorry she feels that way, but you feel confident that one day she will see things from your perspective and come to accept you as part of the family
--that you know she is only looking out for you best interests, but that after all is said and done you have an obligation to yourself to do what *you* think is right
From then on conduct yourself as an adult in every way (at least when your aunt is around
). Hopefully she will realize that you are mature enough to handle your own affairs...otherwise it's her problem, not yours.
Also, while I wish you guys the best don't rule out the possibility that (*gasp*) your aunt may actually be
right...I know, you are 19 and think you know everything but trust me, old folks aren't as stupid as you think.
If the relationship doesn't work out there's no shame in admitting you were wrong.