Am I an evil person???

[Argo]

A friend of mine from college is looking for a job. He's a really good friend and a nice guy but he has a bad habbit of annoying people by getting on their nerves and bringing them down with his constant depression.

Anyways, he's looking for a job right now and my company has a few openings, however, when he asked me I told him that I don't know. I was afraid that if he gets the job he'll have to move here (I live in a small town 2 hours from New York city, where both of us are originally from, and where we both went to the same college). I just can't imagine myself having to be around that person 24/7 at work, during lunch and even after work. But then again, now I'm feeling like I did somethign really bad...

 

[slipperyslope]

Do you think he will fit in at the company and has the skills for the job?

If no, then you just saved your company the time of interviewing him.

If yes, then you let him know about the job openings.

Not too complicated....

Jim

 

[Geekbabe]

If this guy is such a "really good friend" why not sit him down and level with him? Some people become very irritable and/or negative due to depression he may truly not realise how he is presenting to others and how he's driving people away from him.Such a conversation takes a bit of courage on your part to start but it might well be what motivates him to finally seek and stick with treatment.

Look at it this way,if you level with him the worst that happens is that he gets offended and never speaks to you again-but considering that you are pretty much avoiding him anyway already what's the big difference ? Chances are good he'll walk aay hurt and upset for a bit but he will think over what you've said and possibly get some help and down the road you will be close again and he will thank you for being direct and honest with him.

 

[SaltBoy]

Evil? Not really...

Human? Definitely.

 

[Argo]

Well, the thing is me and this other guy (the only true friends he has) tried talking to him several times. Each one resulting in ourselves getting insulted or yelled at. The fact that the friend in question has really sharp intillect and a really bad mouth (a lot of sarcasm comes out of it) doesn't make it any easier.

Last time I tried giving him an advice (involving girl situation) he told me something to the extent: "Yeah, what do you know. For some weird reason all these girls are attracted to you and I honestly can't see why. That's just the Universe's way of teasing me". The same thing happens everytime we try to help him. My other friend and I have cut our communications with him only to IM, and even that is getting harder and harder to do. We have to take turns who's going to talk to him on a particular day.

I mean if he only took a second to look at himself and realize that this kinda behavior is pushing away the only friends he has. And I tried telling him million times that positve attitude on life makes a person more interesting to others. Every time his response was "Well, what do I have to be positive about?"

 

[MikeO]

<< If this guy is such a "really good friend" why not sit him down and level with him? >>



That's what I would recommend doing too.

 

[jjones]

if you've already tried levelling with him and it was a failure, if i was a friend, i would have to try again. but that does not mean it will not result in another failure but as a friend you should really try again.

i wouldn't mention anything about opportunity at your office if you don't feel that he would be an asset, both in his work efforts and in his personality. from experience i can tell you that it can be a very difficult situation, expecially when dealing with difficult personalities, to bring a friend into your place of employment.