Am I a jerk for throwing away some of the wife's stuff?

[ch33zw1z]

Thanks - so far you seem like the only sane one here (or one of few).

Some people are taking what I said too far. I'm talking shoes where part of the leather strap to secure the foot was broken off and she said one day she would fix it. Let alone that they were worn 2-3 years already so they are already dirty in general. We are talking Teenager magazines from teenager days that have and never were looked through.

There's other stuff in the house I want to get rid of like some lousey stereo systems (she has 2 for some reason). I'm all in favor of getting us a nice surround sound system to put in the media room - but these sound systems from teenager/college years have to go. Currently they are sitting ontop of a closet. Things like that are items I'm not about to chunk on a whim. Items like that are one's I will legitimately convince to donate some day. The same goes for anything similar such as CD's, media, electronics, photo's, furniture, etc...

But paper and torn clothing related items? That's ridiculous.

Also, where do people get off with "marriage problems" because of this topic? Really? Srsly? I'm trying to clear some space in a guest room and I decided to make a thread on a common topic and I have marital problems where we throw pots and pans at each other every night or something?

It's painful at first. My wife has done the same for me, and I for her.

 

[ultimatebob]

Yep, guaranteed, at least two or three times. After that, hand lotion.

Unless he's shooting blanks, then he's guaranteed some action monthly until they do something like invito.

 

[zanejohnson]

Make a square in the garage using tape, something like 5' x 5'

Tell her to put all the stuff she wants to keep in there, and the rest goes to salvation army or trash.

lol comedy ensues

 

[MongGrel]

You can't organize your house without organizing your life. My suggestion - work together with your wife. Get those big storage totes. Fill the storage totes with the crap and put it in the garage. AND, set dates by which, say, the shoes have to be repaired, else the stuff in that tote gets set out to the curb. It's either fixed by xyz date, else it's tossed. Work together on a timeline, and use the reasoning that if you don't have time by such a date to do it, then it's unlikely it'll ever get done - it's just not important enough. That's what justifies throwing it out.

I disagree a little bit with that "haven't touched it in one year" - it doesn't quite apply to everything. E.g., I have a bundt pan; probably gets used once in five years. I have various tools that rarely get used; just once in a great while. I agree though, with things like magazines. Lots of people save them. No one ever looks at them years later. And, if it's something that's nostalgic enough in the magazine, it'll be online.

I have a closet in the guest bedroom with about at least 4 tote type of things full of Beanie Babies.

Go figure.

People do silly things sometimes, only thing I can say.

 

[alkemyst]

You are not her father fucker. Don't fuck with her stuff.

Slow your fucking role and seek help.

 

[ZaneNBK]

You are not her father fucker. Don't fuck with her stuff.

Slow your fucking role and seek help.

Fucking her father would probably suck, I agree with Alkemyst.

 

[Imp]

Fucking her father would probably suck, I agree with Alkemyst.

You don't know that... Maybe he love you long time.

 

[ZaneNBK]

You don't know that... Maybe he love you long time.

That's why I said "probably", sometimes the best times come from the most unexpected places.

 

[Wreckem]

You are not her father fucker. Don't fuck with her stuff.

Slow your fucking role and seek help.

His wife is the one that needs mental help. OCD and hoarding are mental disorders that only get worse with time. OP needs to nip this shit in the bud ASAP before it gets completely out of control.

Not to mention a spouse gets say in how much shit is in their house. At minimum she should be limited to hoarding in her own small area of the house not the entire house/garage.