Alright, got the gonads, now what?

[stev0]

from my thread yesterday, I have finally have the balls to give her a call. I talked to her friend, the one that she was with on saturday night and got her phone number from her, although she offered to talk to her which I responded no, since it has never done any good in the past. I'll probably be doing the same thing that I did last friday/saturday, having friends down to the lakes and planned that I would invite her to come. This is really all that I could come up with now, it's not really a close setting down there, same as last time 10 max, probably so I'm hoping that it won't put her in a awkward position, and a few of her friends will be there anyway. Since she is younger than me doing a study session really wouldn't work, no classes that are remotely the same... and kids my age don't really go out for coffee around here, it's probably too early to ask her alone to a movie... so this sounded like the best plan to me... what do you ATOT'ers think? suggestions? thanks all!

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Take a FRESH, single, long stemmed, red rose wrapped with a little baby's breath along with you.

nik

 

[Ameesh]

good job

 

[stev0]

<< Take a FRESH, single, long stemmed, red rose wrapped with a little baby's breath along with you. >>


yea... but ahh since this would be the second time that I've ever really spent time with her, wouldn't that weird her out a bit? don't get me wrong, it's a grand idea, but this is one of those girls that only comes along once and a while and I'd rather play it safe and not mess something up.

 

[pyonir]

i would advise against the rose thing. too much too soon. get together first. if you go out on a date alone with her, then bring a rose.

 

[stev0]

good call pyonir

 

[dirtboy]

Forget movies, gifts and flowers. If you go out with her, go somewhere you can talk, so you can get to know her. Don't bring her flowers, you're not in love with her or any of that stuff.

Take her to lunch or dinner. No really fancy places either. Don't over do things until you know you like her and she likes you.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

<< i would advise against the rose thing. too much too soon. get together first. if you go out on a date alone with her, then bring a rose. >>

Yeah, sorry, I forgot that the person I did that with I had already known for a year before dating and was pretty sure that she was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. It's happening too

nik

 

[BigFatCow]

go to putt putt, or maybe bowling...

 

[BuckleDownBen]

I'd take the rose. It'd let her know what your intentions are. If not, you will wind up with friends before you know it. You can never go wrong giving a woman flowers.

 

[Alienwho]

Make fun of her and shove her around a bit (playfully). Chicks like that.

Flame on.

 

[pyonir]

<< good call pyonir >>


and i wouldn't bring her a Red rose first either. something subtle, like white.

 

[d33pt]

yeah that's the first thing i'd do, make fun of her and see if she can handle it..if she can't she prob can't handle being around me all the time anyway so it wouldn't work out..

 

[Lunarcade]

Seems to me you're doing pretty good on your own. Comfortable setting, mixed friends, I couldn't think of a better scenario to start getting to know someone. Just take it easy and try not to think too much into ANYTHING, god knows she'll do that enough for the both of you! Best of luck!

 

[Gooberlx2]

Make fun of her and shove her around a bit (playfully). Chicks like that.

totally true.

Yeah, forget the rose. Girls like "nice" guys. They don't like "sappy, I need a shoulder to cry on" pansies. Roses are a great idea...for valentines day, or your first "official" date. Otherwise, hang out. Invite her to happy hour (if you're that age), and play darts. Just be fun, but never lose sight of what your goals are. Having all the friends around provides a perfect non-chalant setup for you to play around with her that night, and then casually ask for a date.

Execution of any plan is the hardest part.

 

[stev0]

yea nevermind, apparently she is doing one of those "friends with benifits" things and dosen't want to get involved with anyone else... eh. this sucks.

 

[pyonir]

<< yea nevermind, apparently she is doing one of those "friends with benifits" things and dosen't want to get involved with anyone else... eh. this sucks. >>


ouch. been there done that. sorry bro....but hey...friends w/ benefits is better than nothing right?

 

[pillage2001]

Got the GONADS?? Time to strife.

 

[Koing]

<< yea nevermind, apparently she is doing one of those "friends with benifits" things and dosen't want to get involved with anyone else... eh. this sucks. >>



dam that sucks.

 

[pyonir]

<< Got the GONADS?? Time to strife. >>


in the lightning?

 

[Gooberlx2]

yea nevermind, apparently she is doing one of those "friends with benifits" things and dosen't want to get involved with anyone else... eh. this sucks.

first ask yourself if you oppose this behavior. If not, then no big deal right? Doesn't mean you can't hang with her. If she friends with benefits then that's just a booty call. Doesn't mean sh!t. I'd get to know her better anyway, just in case.

 

[stev0]

first ask yourself if you oppose this behavior. If not, then no big deal right? Doesn't mean you can't hang with her. If she friends with benefits then that's just a booty call. Doesn't mean sh!t. I'd get to know her better anyway, just in case.

yea I'll shoot for friends for now and see what happens... it's really just kind of a kick in the teeth.