After 5 years I finally proposed and.....

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: Modular

Originally posted by: shadow9d9
but it wasn't real... It isn't a real story.. it is corny nonsense to me.. just my opinion.

?

Ummm, it was real, it happened and is a part of their history. Therefor it exists and is real...

It's not his fault that you can't make a decision and then make it fun. I'm sure that after 5 years the topic of marriage had come up before. I'm guessing that this was no real surprise to her. It's about the moment. Marriage should not be a cold hard calculation. There is enough of that in the world already. Marriage is an undying appreciation and love shown to the other person. When you love someone you don't "weigh the risk".

Your attitude says alot about the type of person you are...and the type of relationship you likely have with you SO.

How hard is it for you to buy flowers for her? Do you look at your long-term profit/losses and make a decision from there?

The keyboard psychologists are always funny. You obviously know me so well. You got me! My secrets have been revealed! Bleh.

I have no desire to put on a corny fake show of my love. In a real relationship, important issues such as the possibility of marriage is talked about. It isn't the job of the male in the relationship to put on a show to ask the girl to marry him. That isn't the real world and does nothing for the relationship. 5 years without talks of marriage is a waste of everyone's time in my opinion... But it is all my opinion. Just because you might like to put on a show and enjoy corniness, doesn't mean it is the key to marriage...

 

[ITJunkie]

Originally posted by: frankgomez75

Originally posted by: Yanagi
Woah. Congrats man.

Pics of said celebration?

I think I would be banned if I posted those...
Lets just say she model some new items from Victorias Secret for me...

rockin' the kasbah. Well done and may you two be happy together! :thumbsup:

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: Dacalo

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: frankgomez75

Originally posted by: shadow9d9
Sorry to sound negative.. but asking someone to marry you isn't a big deal... and really, it makes no sense for someone, in a serious relationship for more than 2 years that would say no... My wife and I just had a casual conversation about it... and we both agreed to get married, and therefore we became engaged. It was after a year or so. No big deal.

I am always skeptical of people that do all these ridiculous movielike things and overdo it "asking the question"... just stinks of fakeness.

I can see what you're say and where you are coming from... but I'm a romantic.
I also wanted a story I could share with our grandkids. Its a once in a lifetime opportunity. As in any big decision you should take time and plan it. Double check and make sure its what you want. I did that. I don't ever plan on doing something like proposing or getting married again if this doesn't work... knock on wood. But when you are so deeply in love with someone you will go out of your way to make them happy which in turn makes me happy. Seeing her smile and tears of joy made it all worth it and I would do it again for her. 5 years and I still have the same amount of passion as the first day when I met her. She's my best friend and would do anything for me... and for that I had to show my appreciation.

I understand where you came from, but it wasn't real... It isn't a real story.. it is corny nonsense to me.. just my opinion.

Sorry to sound negative, but your relationship with your SO doesn't sound too romantic. Love isn't all about being serious; it's happy, sad at times, corny, and plain silly. In my opinion, your perception of love seems to be... boring and one dimensional.

Love is a feeling shown realistically.. nothing REAL is shown by corny movielike showmanship.. it is fake to the core and soulless. It means nothing.

 

[Lola]

congrats to both of you! she is beautiful!

 

[GasX]

you SO got laid that night...

Congrats!

 

[frankgomez75]

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: Modular

Originally posted by: shadow9d9
but it wasn't real... It isn't a real story.. it is corny nonsense to me.. just my opinion.

?

Ummm, it was real, it happened and is a part of their history. Therefor it exists and is real...

It's not his fault that you can't make a decision and then make it fun. I'm sure that after 5 years the topic of marriage had come up before. I'm guessing that this was no real surprise to her. It's about the moment. Marriage should not be a cold hard calculation. There is enough of that in the world already. Marriage is an undying appreciation and love shown to the other person. When you love someone you don't "weigh the risk".

Your attitude says alot about the type of person you are...and the type of relationship you likely have with you SO.

How hard is it for you to buy flowers for her? Do you look at your long-term profit/losses and make a decision from there?

The keyboard psychologists are always funny. You obviously know me so well. You got me! My secrets have been revealed! Bleh.

I have no desire to put on a corny fake show of my love. In a real relationship, important issues such as the possibility of marriage is talked about. It isn't the job of the male in the relationship to put on a show to ask the girl to marry him. That isn't the real world and does nothing for the relationship. 5 years without talks of marriage is a waste of everyone's time in my opinion... But it is all my opinion. Just because you might like to put on a show and enjoy corniness, doesn't mean it is the key to marriage...

You are correct.... however you are ASSUMING me and my GF of 5 years have never discussed marriage. We have discussed it on many occassions. We already decided we wanted to get married about a year ago... however I wanted to make the proposal special for her. I've known for sometime know that she was the one for me and I made that clear. But due to my mother becoming ill, starting a new job, dealing with child custody issues with her daughter (which I consider mine), the proposal took a backseat for a year. She has known I want her to be the mother of my children and that I want to take care of her and her daughter and be a family. Since we've dealt with everything already I started planning how I was going to do it months back after the dust settled.

Like I said.... all big decisions require planning and discussion and we definetly discussed marriage many times. I knew she wanted to get married to me and I to her so I made it special for her.... that's all.

 

[49erinnc]

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Love is a feeling shown realistically.. nothing REAL is shown by corny movielike showmanship.. it is fake to the core and soulless. It means nothing.

You must live a truly bland and boring life. You obviously can't comprehend that some people are completely enamored by silly/corny acts of love like this. I'd venture to say that the majority of women still prefer to be surprised and swept off their feet when it comes to a proposal. Actually, I feel sorry for your wife if all she got was a boring conversation about the pros/cons of getting married. Way to really wow her there Mr. Romantic.

Nice job, OP. I'm sure she was absolutely blown away with the effort you put in. And I'm sure it was very "real" to her. She sounds like the type that would truly appreciate what you did and it's something you guys will always share as you grow older. I'm sure all of her friends are jealous.

 

[frankgomez75]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
congrats to both of you! she is beautiful!

Thnx Lola!

Originally posted by: Mwilding
you SO got laid that night...

Congrats!

Yeah... we were both really really tired the next day. I know we burned alot of calories that night

 

[GoingUp]

Nicely done Congrats!

 

[SaltBoy]

Congratulations! :thumbsup:

I'm not surprised you did the proposal at the Williams Waterfall. It's a highly unoriginal way to go, but chicks dig it all the same. I'm guessing every girl in Houston expects it.

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: 49erinnc

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Love is a feeling shown realistically.. nothing REAL is shown by corny movielike showmanship.. it is fake to the core and soulless. It means nothing.

You must live a truly bland and boring life. You obviously can't comprehend that some people are completely enamored by silly/corny acts of love like this. I'd venture to say that the majority of women still prefer to be surprised and swept off their feet when it comes to a proposal. Actually, I feel sorry for your wife if all she got was a boring conversation about the pros/cons of getting married. Way to really wow her there Mr. Romantic.

Nice job, OP. I'm sure she was absolutely blown away with the effort you put in. And I'm sure it was very "real" to her. She sounds like the type that would truly appreciate what you did and it's something you guys will always share as you grow older. I'm sure all of her friends are jealous.

You have truly analyzed us well. We are very boring : (... You have figured us out as I said before.

Reinforcing stereotypical roles of having the male "ask the big question" serve no one. Marriages do not survive on corny showmanship... corny showmanship, to me, shows that the relationship was not strong to begin with. Discussion of marriage is important.. it is much more than just asking the other person to marry you.

You suggest her friends "are jealous." The only reason this would be so is because the corny showmanship reinforces the fantasy many women have of marriage... this often leads to huge expensive weddings(that waste a ton of money, that could be used for down payments on houses, etc) that fall apart when the real world settles in. Just my opinion. It is based on observation of the real world. Whenever people make such a big deal about it, it is a huge red flag to me.

 

[TwinkleToes77]

Originally posted by: frankgomez75

Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
Congrats!


I can't share my story of how I was proposed to.. I sometimes hate that

Thnx!

Say this wasn't you was it?

Originally posted by: DrPizza
Hey, congrats! :thumbsup:

Much better than the way I think I convinced my brother to ask his girlfriend... (everyone's been waiting for him to pop the question to her.) I told him that just before or during an ***** while he's "down there" to stop and ask her. He looked at me funny when I suggested it. Then I pointed out, every one of her friends and female relatives is going to say "OMG! That's wonderful! Let me see the ring! how did he ask you?" The wife of one of my best friends has had to lie for years.

lol not quite.. but close

 

[AgentEL]

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: 49erinnc

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Love is a feeling shown realistically.. nothing REAL is shown by corny movielike showmanship.. it is fake to the core and soulless. It means nothing.

You must live a truly bland and boring life. You obviously can't comprehend that some people are completely enamored by silly/corny acts of love like this. I'd venture to say that the majority of women still prefer to be surprised and swept off their feet when it comes to a proposal. Actually, I feel sorry for your wife if all she got was a boring conversation about the pros/cons of getting married. Way to really wow her there Mr. Romantic.

Nice job, OP. I'm sure she was absolutely blown away with the effort you put in. And I'm sure it was very "real" to her. She sounds like the type that would truly appreciate what you did and it's something you guys will always share as you grow older. I'm sure all of her friends are jealous.

You have truly analyzed us well. We are very boring : (... You have figured us out as I said before.

Reinforcing stereotypical roles of having the male "ask the big question" serve no one. Marriages do not survive on corny showmanship... corny showmanship, to me, shows that the relationship was not strong to begin with. Discussion of marriage is important.. it is much more than just asking the other person to marry you.

You suggest her friends "are jealous." The only reason this would be so is because the corny showmanship reinforces the fantasy many women have of marriage... this often leads to huge expensive weddings(that waste a ton of money, that could be used for down payments on houses, etc) that fall apart when the real world settles in. Just my opinion. It is based on observation of the real world. Whenever people make such a big deal about it, it is a huge red flag to me.

Anyone else think of the "Debbie Downer" skits from SNL? You must be fun at parties

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: AgentEL

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: 49erinnc

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Love is a feeling shown realistically.. nothing REAL is shown by corny movielike showmanship.. it is fake to the core and soulless. It means nothing.

You must live a truly bland and boring life. You obviously can't comprehend that some people are completely enamored by silly/corny acts of love like this. I'd venture to say that the majority of women still prefer to be surprised and swept off their feet when it comes to a proposal. Actually, I feel sorry for your wife if all she got was a boring conversation about the pros/cons of getting married. Way to really wow her there Mr. Romantic.

Nice job, OP. I'm sure she was absolutely blown away with the effort you put in. And I'm sure it was very "real" to her. She sounds like the type that would truly appreciate what you did and it's something you guys will always share as you grow older. I'm sure all of her friends are jealous.

You have truly analyzed us well. We are very boring : (... You have figured us out as I said before.

Reinforcing stereotypical roles of having the male "ask the big question" serve no one. Marriages do not survive on corny showmanship... corny showmanship, to me, shows that the relationship was not strong to begin with. Discussion of marriage is important.. it is much more than just asking the other person to marry you.

You suggest her friends "are jealous." The only reason this would be so is because the corny showmanship reinforces the fantasy many women have of marriage... this often leads to huge expensive weddings(that waste a ton of money, that could be used for down payments on houses, etc) that fall apart when the real world settles in. Just my opinion. It is based on observation of the real world. Whenever people make such a big deal about it, it is a huge red flag to me.

Anyone else think of the "Debbie Downer" skits from SNL? You must be fun at parties

Being realistic is a downer? No wonder this country is drowning in debt and there is a divorce rate of 50%, etc. Not being corny means I am a downer.. no need to attack me with nonsense just because I have a different opinion than you. Go ahead, go pretend with fantasy.. just as long as you don't complain when it falls apart.

 

[veggz]

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: 49erinnc

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Love is a feeling shown realistically.. nothing REAL is shown by corny movielike showmanship.. it is fake to the core and soulless. It means nothing.

You must live a truly bland and boring life. You obviously can't comprehend that some people are completely enamored by silly/corny acts of love like this. I'd venture to say that the majority of women still prefer to be surprised and swept off their feet when it comes to a proposal. Actually, I feel sorry for your wife if all she got was a boring conversation about the pros/cons of getting married. Way to really wow her there Mr. Romantic.

Nice job, OP. I'm sure she was absolutely blown away with the effort you put in. And I'm sure it was very "real" to her. She sounds like the type that would truly appreciate what you did and it's something you guys will always share as you grow older. I'm sure all of her friends are jealous.

You have truly analyzed us well. We are very boring : (... You have figured us out as I said before.

Reinforcing stereotypical roles of having the male "ask the big question" serve no one. Marriages do not survive on corny showmanship... corny showmanship, to me, shows that the relationship was not strong to begin with. Discussion of marriage is important.. it is much more than just asking the other person to marry you.

You suggest her friends "are jealous." The only reason this would be so is because the corny showmanship reinforces the fantasy many women have of marriage... this often leads to huge expensive weddings(that waste a ton of money, that could be used for down payments on houses, etc) that fall apart when the real world settles in. Just my opinion. It is based on observation of the real world. Whenever people make such a big deal about it, it is a huge red flag to me.

I'm not going to make judgements regarding your relationship with your SO, but I am curious as to why you found it necessary to post in this thread. Calling the OP "fake" and the proposal "corny nonsense?" Seriously dude, quit being a dick- make your own thread if you so please, but don't bum others out with your own personal opinions.

To the OP- many congrats and I wish you both the best in years to come .

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: frankgomez75
she said yes!

It took weeks of planning but it was all worth it.

What I did was I bought a 25 piece puzzle and put it together. On the back of the puzzle I wrote a message. Everyday I dropped off 5 pieces of the puzzle for her in an evelope for 5 days at her job. At the end of the week (Friday) she had the entire puzzle with a message about going on an adventure Saturday written on the back. I included a compass and a treasure map I made with my artistic talent... I have about as much as a first grader :laugh: I was able to age it to look like a really old map using tea, a lighter and tearing it along the edges. I also gave her the first clue to find the first item. She had to find 10 items, each one leading to the next. Each item represented something in our relationship and what she means to me. The treasure hunt took place at The Japanese Garden in Houston and it was very serene.. with 2 small ponds, small waterfall, little creeks, some ducks, rabbits and squirrels running around. Very beautiful place. At the end of the treasure she found a treasure box filled with fake gold coins, jewelery and a mirror. Attached to the mirror a message said "look in the mirror and there you will find the most beautiful and valuable treasure in the world". I also left an envelope in the treasure box with dinner reservations and to dress formal.

I picked her up for dinner and brought her a dozen white roses.... She looked stunning! I tooke her to an upscale Italian restaurant called Sorrento's Ristorante Italianowere we ate a 5 course Italian dinner. The food was excellent. Afterwards I took her to an 8 story water wall in Houston called the Williams Waterwall. There we walked around after which I got down on one knee and proposed. It was awesome. We went back to my place to celebrate!

Edit: Added Pics of my loved one!
I'm on the right holding the camera
The love of my life

nice looking couple. cheers :wine:

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: veggz

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: 49erinnc

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Love is a feeling shown realistically.. nothing REAL is shown by corny movielike showmanship.. it is fake to the core and soulless. It means nothing.

You must live a truly bland and boring life. You obviously can't comprehend that some people are completely enamored by silly/corny acts of love like this. I'd venture to say that the majority of women still prefer to be surprised and swept off their feet when it comes to a proposal. Actually, I feel sorry for your wife if all she got was a boring conversation about the pros/cons of getting married. Way to really wow her there Mr. Romantic.

Nice job, OP. I'm sure she was absolutely blown away with the effort you put in. And I'm sure it was very "real" to her. She sounds like the type that would truly appreciate what you did and it's something you guys will always share as you grow older. I'm sure all of her friends are jealous.

You have truly analyzed us well. We are very boring : (... You have figured us out as I said before.

Reinforcing stereotypical roles of having the male "ask the big question" serve no one. Marriages do not survive on corny showmanship... corny showmanship, to me, shows that the relationship was not strong to begin with. Discussion of marriage is important.. it is much more than just asking the other person to marry you.

You suggest her friends "are jealous." The only reason this would be so is because the corny showmanship reinforces the fantasy many women have of marriage... this often leads to huge expensive weddings(that waste a ton of money, that could be used for down payments on houses, etc) that fall apart when the real world settles in. Just my opinion. It is based on observation of the real world. Whenever people make such a big deal about it, it is a huge red flag to me.

I'm not going to make judgements regarding your relationship with your SO, but I am curious as to why you found it necessary to post in this thread. Calling the OP "fake" and the proposal "corny nonsense?" Seriously dude, quit being a dick- make your own thread if you so please, but don't bum others out with your own personal opinions.

To the OP- many congrats and I wish you both the best in years to come .

The reason people post in forums is for discussion. If they don't want potential criticism, they would mark their OP as such. Aren't these forums to discuss? the OP isn't necessarily a fake person. What he did in this one instance was fake, to me. Big difference there.

 

[xtknight]

Hey...that's a great idea.

 

[SP33Demon]

Great work man, she's beautiful... Japanese mix I take it? (haven't read the rest of thread if it's been answered already)

 

[frankgomez75]

Originally posted by: SP33Demon
Great work man, she's beautiful... Japanese mix I take it? (haven't read the rest of thread if it's been answered already)

Thnx..

Actually we are straight up 100% Mexican American

 

[Cal166]

I gave you 5 E-Props for the creative idea.

Congrats Man.

 

[eakers]

awwww congrats!

 

[Tobolo]

very nice man, I may have to "borrow" some ideas from you. I SWEAR I'LL BRING THEM BACK!!!

 

[Tommouse]

Congrats!!! ***hi-fives OP**

 

[Pepsi90919]

lol chiboy is that you