advice please ((its about a boy and icq and a drunk girl.))

[eakers]

okay.
there is this guy gavin and lets just call him my "rebound boy", me rebounding off a 3 year relationship.

there are so many details and if you have read threads before you know them bu tif not they are not htat important.

anyways, this guy who i am friends with, say really good friends, maybe more than friends, flirting, fooling around and stuff, but he lives far away and so that only happens every so often. and now after i spent the weekend at his house and things happen ((not the first time!)) he is avoiding/ignoring me.

its been over a week and he hasnt emailed or icq me, keep in mind we have talked almost everyday for the past 5 months.

should i leave him the message:

"i dont know why you avoiding/ignoring me but i can respect that you dont want to talk to me. im sorry if i was mean to you and im sad we arent even friends anymore"

but im so drunk, im not sure if its a good idea.


and no, i have not sent him messages all week asking why hes ignoring me, just one email on wednesday.

keep in mind:
his friendship means a lot to me, he has helped me through a lotta rough times adn the sex and more than friends stuff isnt as important to me as our friendship and i realize that he lives far away so not much more could even happen between us.

*kat. <-- so drunk but sobering up a little

 

[rgwalt]

Try to catch him when you are both on, or give him a call. Maybe he just had a busy week.

Ryan

 

[Muadib]

You should wait until you are straight again before you do anything. You have been getting wasted quite a bit lately. Are you OK?

 

[eakers]

<< You should wait until you are straight again before you do anything. You have been getting wasted quite a bit lately. Are you OK? >>


i didnt drink last weekend!

*kat. <-- goes to alot of clubs.

 

[Looney]

That message sounds ok, it doesn't sound confrontational or anything. I think you should go for it and leave that message, what else do you have to lose?

 

[DannyLove]

okay eakers.................

i'm only going to say this once.

"get over it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

how long has it been since the breakup? dude, you GOTTA move on now. why call them rebound boys, just refer to them as guys you'll be dating/f-ing, etc.

you dont need to ask these "boys" if they are avoiding you, who cares, just move on, find another, have lots of fun, move, and repeat. you're young aren;t you? we are at the prrrrrrrrrime age of exploring our, how do you say, 'sexuality' there is no need to start to settle down and try and find the ends of odds of a person, no! not now, not at this age! play the game or be played, and in the end, you'll have so much experience that you'll be able to pick "thee" one from "the" one. although you are drunk, i hope you actually understood what i just said,

danny~!

 

[eakers]

danny, sweetie, this is not my ex.

im not upset he doestn like me, im upset because i considered him to be one of my bestest friends and now that is gone.

*kat. <-- going to bed.

 

[DannyLove]

urg, you didnt understand my general comment. oh well. good luck to whatever the problem is.

danny~! <---- going to bed too, laters

 

[eakers]

i know what you meant danny.

and i know, i fall in love so easily

*kat. <-- is her own girl.
<-- not writing any gay icq message
<-- too good for him anyways
<-- obviously sobered up a little.

 

[BoberFett]

<< <-- too good for him anyways >>

There's the key, sweetie.

 

[gopunk]

i would wait until you talk to him next, and see if things are weird. then if they are, maybe bring it up. otherwise, it could just be that something came up... like he met some chick and they haven't come out of his room since.

 

[judgejudy]

where are the pics of eakers

 

[jcballer1]

Yo eakers, have you ever had a taste of black man. PM me sometime.

 

[BoberFett]

<< Yo eakers, have you ever had a taste of black man. PM me sometime. >>

I bet that's an irresistible come on, eh Eakers?

 

[jcballer1]

Yo Boba, I was playing, son!!! Can't you take a joke my neezy? Foh sheezy, eakers, I bet your a butterface!!!

 

[Muadib]

Did you say something to him that may have hurt, or made him think you didn't want to be bothered?
He may feel he doesn't owe you a call since you are casual friends.

 

[BoberFett]

<< I bet your a butterface!!! >>

No, she's hella cute.

 

[jcballer1]

<<No, she's hella cute. >>
For realz? You betta be right about that, son! This chick ain't talking like it. You got proof that she fine. How do you rate her, and is she legal, son?

 

[OS]

heh, in another thread eakers, you were talking about how sad you were and in this one how drunk you are.

Just a tiny little atom sized hunch, but the fact that alcohol is chemically a depressant just might not be helping you.

 

[The Stigenator]

I dont know but the guy fits the form of a typical guy.. get some booty and dont bother about the girl after that. I really dont know what advice I can give you especially since i haven never encountered this situation. However all I can say is put your foot down and hope he listens. Obviously he is someone you care about.. and he is a fool not to take up on it.

 

[jcballer1]

Word, son. From this thread, I'm gettin' the vibe that Eakers be pickin' up some tricks.

 

[tantos]

was this the first time for sex? if it was, maybe that was what he was waiting for all this time..The mountain has been conquered..move onto the next obstacle!

 

[Mustangrrl]

That is weird, since this isn't something new between you two... don't be afraid to ask him what's up, it could be nothing related to your friendship or what happened.

And geez girl, don't take everything so hard! I know having your friend not pay attention to you sucks, but you don't have to intenalize that and be sad and assume it was something YOU said or something YOU did... you will have problems in your relationships with men where you did nothing wrong and he did nothing wrong, it just didn't work.
~robyn

 

[Looney]

Just a tiny little atom sized hunch, but the fact that alcohol is chemically a depressant just might not be helping you.

Do you know what a 'depressant' is? It's not the same as 'depression', but in the medical/physiological term, depressant means it slows down the activity of the central nervous system... one effect which is RELAXATION.

So alcohol does help with depression or being sad... as long as you don't abuse it that is.

 

[jcballer1]

Booze is the quickest way to score, son!!! Heads up for any guy that didn't know that.